Masturbation and relationships

[elklindoxxx]

That's rather selfish and egotistical.

Just because my partner wants me to dick her instead of me masturbating alone, that doesn't mean she's selfish? It's great (and beneficial for me) that she has a strong libido. I'm not complaining about it.

I'm not aware of any guys who complain about their women wanting to have too much sex or giving too many blowjobs. For us as a couple, we have sex at least twice a week. So it would be difficult for me to masturbate on the side and then to have penetrative sex to satisfy her. If I were in my late teens, I could get away with it, but not anymore...

 

[gaydude45]

Just because my partner wants me to dick her instead of me masturbating alone, that doesn't mean she's selfish? It's great (and beneficial for me) that she has a strong libido. I'm not complaining about it.

I'm not aware of any guys who complain about their women wanting to have too much sex or giving too many blowjobs. For us as a couple, we have sex at least twice a week. So it would be difficult for me to masturbate on the side and then to have penetrative sex to satisfy her. If I were in my late teens, I could get away with it, but not anymore...

Being that you can no longer physically do both, I suppose that's fair. It seemed controlling if she just didn't want you to do it out of some empty principal.

 

[Sagittarius84]

For us as a couple, we have sex at least twice a week. So it would be difficult for me to masturbate on the side and then to have penetrative sex to satisfy her.

Ok, not a dig nor an insult...is this a common thing? Like is the average man's ability to have good sex 2x a week mitigated by periodic masturbation throughout the week?
Maybe I have to dial back my jealousy a bit, because even if my wife could somehow maintain a twice a week average that would be nowhere sufficient to deal with my libido.
I see the selfish/egotistical perspective about masturbation much more so if her DTFness isn't "assisted" by physical limitations. Most of the women I've come across who have an issue with their partner masturbating aren't meeting his sexual intimacy needs as is, and yet still want to limit his outlets just because.

 

[thongboy]

I don't think that masturbating should damage a relationship. Watching a buddy jerk off or knowing that he gets off watching me work my cock is a real turn on. The same with my girlfriend. She loves to watch me stroking my cock or sliding it into a Fleshlight, And when she gets out her favourite Rabbit I'm rock hard in seconds

 

[elklindoxxx]

Ok, not a dig nor an insult...is this a common thing? Like is the average man's ability to have good sex 2x a week mitigated by periodic masturbation throughout the week?
Maybe I have to dial back my jealousy a bit, because even if my wife could somehow maintain a twice a week average that would be nowhere sufficient to deal with my libido.
I see the selfish/egotistical perspective about masturbation much more so if her DTFness isn't "assisted" by physical limitations. Most of the women I've come across who have an issue with their partner masturbating aren't meeting his sexual intimacy needs as is, and yet still want to limit his outlets just because.

In our situation, we both like to have a day or two off after we have intercourse to recover physically. Our frequency is every other day or two. And we both prefer quality over the quantity of sex.

That said, I've been accustomed to ejaculating through vaginal and oral sex, that it's such a different sensation when she masturbates me. So much so that it will take a little longer to finish. And I really don't have a desire to masturbate, I just do it to get erect before sex.

 

[Sagittarius84]

In our situation, we both like to have a day or two off after we have intercourse to recover physically. Our frequency is every other day or two. And we both prefer quality over the quantity of sex.

That said, I've been accustomed to ejaculating through vaginal and oral sex, that it's such a different sensation when she masturbates me. So much so that it will take a little longer to finish. And I really don't have a desire to masturbate, I just do it to get erect before sex.

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you and your partner?