My Roommate is addicted to masturbating and it’s starting to get out of hand

[runningaroundrj]

"People like this". Are you looking at your reflection, or do you not own a mirror? I'm not trolling, it's my candid reaction. It takes all types. Including you. And if you've lost your sense of humor, perhaps that's pertinent to why you've been unable to reach some sort of equilibrium with this roommate. It would bother me as well, but I'd simply be direct and be honest with him that it's gotten out of hand and that you really need for things to change substantially. See? No troll.

Again leave the thread alone

 

[runningaroundrj]

If you’re all going to be upset because you didn’t know they is singular or plural. Don’t reply. If you don’t believe don’t reply. Again. The trolling at grown ages is annoying. I’m sharing my own personal experience so all of you need to respect that.

 

[deleted22016481]

This is a crazy story that I’m literally stuck in rn. Literally as I’m typing they’re in the next room masturbating.

Let me rewind. I have a friend staying with me in my apartment living room. They’ve been here a few months. I had a couple staying in there before. It’s rocky sometimes but it works.

This roommate is in their earlier 30’s. Let’s call them Astro. Astro is chill. We’re very close already but the problem is they have an addiction to masturbation. Now I didn’t mind it here and there when we were asleep or in our separate spaces. Whatever.

I began to notice that they began masturbating in my room. I came home one day and they were passed out with their dick out. It’s hot. I am attracted to them. But I was like okay, I just pretend I didn’t see that. After that they started doing it with no headphones and louder. The bathroom is right next to my door so I hear everything. Fine. They’re in the bathroom. Technically that’s privacy. But bring headphones at least. Fine I left it. Whatever.

Now. One day he masturbates behind me on my couch under some blankets while I am getting ready for my day. I just kept doing my thang. They nutted and everything I didn’t know what to do. Do I think that masturbation is hot? Yes. But we also had a guest literally in the other room. It was awkward. Eventually it was addressed and they apologized.

but it just got worserrrr

Now. Astro masturbates aaaaallllll day and night. To the point where I literally could leave my room while we’re hanging out to get a cup of water and I can already hear them masturbating/playing porn in the distance. Literally 2 mins. Yes in my room. And this is daily. Nonstop. I sleep. It’s masturbation, I wake up. Still masturbation. I can’t do anything without coming back to him in a random position trying to cover his boner.

I’m starting to become restless and weary of the friendship. I always wondered why they had rough friendships but they don’t seem to understand any boundaries.

my couch is propped at the end of my bed and sometimes I’ll be laying down on the couch and they’ll lay on my bed to masturbate behind me to some porn. I thought I’d be able to handle it.
But it seems like he just gets riskier and riskier each time and idk what to even think or do anymore tbh.

it’s such a weird situation. Idk if it’d make them feel better if I hooked up with them or masturbated with them. Idk. I’m not sure what to even do. Or am I supposed to do anything. As I’m typing this he’s masturbating on his bed even tho we’re trying to get the cold air circulated so my door is open. Idk.

I can handle the masturbation in their room. And on their own time. But literally shouldn’t be every single time we’re hanging out and I leave the room or look away. That’s a little insane. Kinda hot but also when it’s hours on end at a time, it gets old.

anyways. Just needed to get this off my chest. Hopefully this doesn’t end up on tiktok I’d die.

if you want more stories I can give them. Since they keep doing it

He may need a therapist as sex is overtaking his every thought and actions.

 

[ASK JEFF]

This is a crazy story that I’m literally stuck in rn. Literally as I’m typing they’re in the next room masturbating.

Let me rewind. I have a friend staying with me in my apartment living room. They’ve been here a few months. I had a couple staying in there before. It’s rocky sometimes but it works.

This roommate is in their earlier 30’s. Let’s call them Astro. Astro is chill. We’re very close already but the problem is they have an addiction to masturbation. Now I didn’t mind it here and there when we were asleep or in our separate spaces. Whatever.

I began to notice that they began masturbating in my room. I came home one day and they were passed out with their dick out. It’s hot. I am attracted to them. But I was like okay, I just pretend I didn’t see that. After that they started doing it with no headphones and louder. The bathroom is right next to my door so I hear everything. Fine. They’re in the bathroom. Technically that’s privacy. But bring headphones at least. Fine I left it. Whatever.

Now. One day he masturbates behind me on my couch under some blankets while I am getting ready for my day. I just kept doing my thang. They nutted and everything I didn’t know what to do. Do I think that masturbation is hot? Yes. But we also had a guest literally in the other room. It was awkward. Eventually it was addressed and they apologized.

but it just got worserrrr

Now. Astro masturbates aaaaallllll day and night. To the point where I literally could leave my room while we’re hanging out to get a cup of water and I can already hear them masturbating/playing porn in the distance. Literally 2 mins. Yes in my room. And this is daily. Nonstop. I sleep. It’s masturbation, I wake up. Still masturbation. I can’t do anything without coming back to him in a random position trying to cover his boner.

I’m starting to become restless and weary of the friendship. I always wondered why they had rough friendships but they don’t seem to understand any boundaries.

my couch is propped at the end of my bed and sometimes I’ll be laying down on the couch and they’ll lay on my bed to masturbate behind me to some porn. I thought I’d be able to handle it.
But it seems like he just gets riskier and riskier each time and idk what to even think or do anymore tbh.

it’s such a weird situation. Idk if it’d make them feel better if I hooked up with them or masturbated with them. Idk. I’m not sure what to even do. Or am I supposed to do anything. As I’m typing this he’s masturbating on his bed even tho we’re trying to get the cold air circulated so my door is open. Idk.

I can handle the masturbation in their room. And on their own time. But literally shouldn’t be every single time we’re hanging out and I leave the room or look away. That’s a little insane. Kinda hot but also when it’s hours on end at a time, it gets old.

anyways. Just needed to get this off my chest. Hopefully this doesn’t end up on tiktok I’d die.

if you want more stories I can give them. Since they keep doing it

If this truly is happening, it is called unwanted sexual harassment. Period.
Tell your friend that you enjoy his company (if you do), but otherwise, refrain from masturbating in your home while he is there. It is rude, unnecessary—and quite frankly how a teenage would behave—and that you don’t appreciate it at all. If he does not like your rules, then he is more than welcome to leave.
Jeff

 

[FrankieGuile]

It

I don’t get you all keep harassing my post. If you don’t believe it don’t reply.

I believe pointing out pretense is a public service.

 

[artboyd]

I feel like I want to see you all at R:RR! Boom there! I've said it. I no longer want to use numbers for time. Now, make sure you figure out what R:RR is, otherwise you're an ignorant moron!

I was also confused and thought they were two or three people. Couldn't understand it until after the discussion. I guess changing the language to my liking just because and expecting the rest to understand me just because defies the purpose of the language. Might as well write it in Arabic.

As for the problem, I wish I had your roomates! Although, I would establish some No Masturbation zones, like the living room if there's people around or very close to me. Obviously no drugs involved ever as that may bring lots of other implications, including your and his wellbeing. Aside from that, let him be, unless he's mentally failing or is being irresponsible with his duties, just let him enjoy his weiner. And while whe're at it, why not post some pics of the jerkoff session? Blury the faces if you don't wanna be identified.

 

[Cumluvvvv]

I'm in need of an update. I've been jerking off to this for a few minutes putting myself in your shoes and wishing my college room mate would do that. (Ps. You should join them maybe not help them out or even sit right next to them but in the same area and see what they do)

 

[cocktaste]

This never happened.

 

[runningaroundrj]

I'm in need of an update. I've been jerking off to this for a few minutes putting myself in your shoes and wishing my college room mate would do that. (Ps. You should join them maybe not help them out or even sit right next to them but in the same area and see what they do)

Despite what all the people say. This is a real thing that’s really happening and they do it to their other friends. I don’t think anyone has addressed them about it

 

[runningaroundrj]

I feel like I want to see you all at R:RR! Boom there! I've said it. I no longer want to use numbers for time. Now, make sure you figure out what R:RR is, otherwise you're an ignorant moron!

I was also confused and thought they were two or three people. Couldn't understand it until after the discussion. I guess changing the language to my liking just because and expecting the rest to understand me just because defies the purpose of the language. Might as well write it in Arabic.

As for the problem, I wish I had your roomates! Although, I would establish some No Masturbation zones, like the living room if there's people around or very close to me. Obviously no drugs involved ever as that may bring lots of other implications, including your and his wellbeing. Aside from that, let him be, unless he's mentally failing or is being irresponsible with his duties, just let him enjoy his weiner. And while whe're at it, why not post some pics of the jerkoff session? Blury the faces if you don't wanna be identified.

I learned English in the top state for education. I know what I’m talking about.
Unfortunately we’re both identifiable through video we have tattoos and stuff.

yeah I’m trying to gage when it’s the best time but I think I’m just gonna have to just use headphones. I don’t think talking will do anything tbh. As queer and open as we live. A lot of hypermasculine traits shine through them that they refuse to work through. This being one of them.

they told me any time I talk about sex it sticks with them for days and I’ma Sexual person so. Idk.

 

[Aphradight]

Fuck your friend already. Especially if he’s hot. Also yes pics and vids would be nice.

 

[sexy1234567]

Despite what all the people say. This is a real thing that’s really happening and they do it to their other friends. I don’t think anyone has addressed them about it

Is he helping pay bills while in your apartment? Do you need the money?

I get it is a friend, but the easy solution is to simply make it easier for you both. Tell him you are attracted to him and seeing him with his erect penis is a tempatation and the whole thing makes you uncomfortable.

Only three scenarios will occur after such a conversation.
1. He is grossed out and moves out. Problem solved.
2. He is grossed out and is more discrete in jacking off. Problem solved.
3. He confesses it is intentional and has been waiting for you to have fun with him. Hurray for you. You fool around and get it out of your system and then tell him to be more civilized or see a therapist because unprompted jerking off is weird.

Regardless, he needs to see a therapist because this sounds like compulsive behaviour and all he is doing is reinforcing it and feeding his addiction. Unless he want to end up in jail for public indenecy, he better learn to control himself.

 

[ohimitsu]

Boundaries guys.

If he’s paying shared rent he can jerk off as much as he likes but he needs to be mindful of the other people living there

If he can’t respect that then he can’t live there.

I think people don’t understand what they are saying and what they are doing in situations like this.

If you tell a child not to do something and they do it again and you do nothing but tell them not to do it again, you are just training them to not respect what you say because they know you’re not going to do anything about it.

The same thing applies here. Tell him you mean what you say and follow up on it.

A true friend would understand and respect your desires in YOUR home.

If he doesn’t he can find his own place and can jerk off all day if he wants to.

 

[LPSMonster]

If he doesn’t he can find his own place and can jerk off all day if he wants to.

He can live at my place if he wants. I can probably afford to give him about $100 a week to live with me

 

[ASK JEFF]

He can live at my place if he wants. I can probably afford to give him about $100 a week to live with me

Omg…

 

[DuckyDuckman]

Shag him. Simples.

 

[JaygoM]

I learned English in the top state for education. I know what I’m talking about.
Unfortunately we’re both identifiable through video we have tattoos and stuff.

yeah I’m trying to gage when it’s the best time but I think I’m just gonna have to just use headphones. I don’t think talking will do anything tbh. As queer and open as we live. A lot of hypermasculine traits shine through them that they refuse to work through. This being one of them.

they told me any time I talk about sex it sticks with them for days and I’ma Sexual person so. Idk.

Then you would know that ‘gage’ is spelt ‘gauge’. But I have to agree with most, this story is just that. Go well.

 

[Graham123]

May be it’s time to ask him to move out, your hospitality has reached its limits and about time you got your own home back it’s your sanctuary not his. You have offered out a helping hand and it’s about time he finds his own place to hang out and wank to his heart’s content with out impacting on others. As a flat mate he is truly inconsiderate of others and to bring into the mix a wanking buddy just adds insult to injury. It does not matter if he has the biggest, lovelyist hardest cock in the world there is a time and place for everything.

 

[chrisrobin]

You really have to take the matter in hand - not literally though - and tell him that while you are pleased his cock gives him so much pleasure could he keep his wanking to the confines of his bedroom. He will either agree or leave, either way you won't have a wanker all the time.
A while ago I had a housemate who enjoyed loud sex very frequently at all times of the day and night with a variety of pick-ups and didn't know the value of a closed door till I pointed out sharing his sexual enjoyment thrust by deep thrust was better privately with the "wood in the hole" - door closed.

 

[Evenflow618]

He needs to go on semen retention