Because some people who harbor delusions like that are in power.
Outside of that I normally wouldn't care.
My own position is live and let live.
My Wife and her first BBC
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Because some people who harbor delusions like that are in power.
Outside of that I normally wouldn't care.
My own position is live and let live.
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While it may be true that there is an inordinate number of gay and Bi men on this site it in no way explains why that seems to be the case.
Seeing as how
It is not labeled as such nor is it marketed as such
imho, being hetero/homo/bi isn't so much about who you fuck but rather who you love.
i've fooled with a couple guys back in my teenage years, dated a tgirl for almost a year, currently been with the same girl for more than 3 years. so what am i ? ^^
the answer, i never considered myself as anything but str8.
i've fooled with a couple guys back in my teenage years, dated a tgirl for almost a year, currently been with the same girl for more than 3 years. so what am i ? ^^
the answer, i never considered myself as anything but str8.
An attractive human being is an attractive human being, no?
Just because their good looks don't get me aroused doesn't mean they aren't good looking.
It's not that mysterious, really.
while i enjoyed the story, there are lot of things i find unbelievable- the time line for one to getting QOS tatoo. the verbiage "dick i need more dick" etc. cuckold fantasy material. However if based on truth or not- the problems were laid out apriori and the marriage failed not becuase he a agreed to fucking another man but because of how it all played ou. 1)started with blowjob facial in a gym because she saw a big dick? no way. that is not what did that, they had been flirting-she had been troubled etc etc long before that moment. 2)the communication shows the relation was failed already- give blowjob- they don't talk/communicate for a few months- that relation was over right there. if they were a couple -there would have conversations, heart to heart- wife would have tried to make amends- husband would have been better husband (let me guess- do laundry and clean around house-right?) . there was no attempt by her to make sex at home better- so this ship has sailed- what followed was just the break up. and BTW she was likely fucking jason this whole time then- you don't blow a guy- have no consequences and continue to see him at the gym-its was open season by the point 3)brining a man in without discussing how the night would play out- Jason had already disrespect the husband by blowing a load on her face - what was different now. when they asked husband to leave "because it would be awkward"- Um hell- "its awkward already that he is fucking my wife. i will stay, if he's not comfortable with that we will find someone who is. this was about more "dick" not "jason" right? clearly husband was out of the equation already. 4)failed communication after fucking jason, her ship was well on the water elsewhere and she was making no attempt to deal with the relation. 5)coming home with a QOS tatoo- i dont buy that. not like this, sure maybe but seem to convenient for the story. just my take.
Not one single thing in the story is true, but half of it I wish was. I would say it's more about fantasy.
Fantasy is not the same as fetish. A BBC fetish reduces black men to dicks and promotes stereotypes. It's funny how so many gay men choose not to do better with race but want all the justice for sexuality. Since you are choosing not to learn I refuse to go back and forth is scum.
It's not a question about desire. It's about respect. So obsessed about a big, black dick, can't even respect black men enough to write him as an authentic person. That's the point I'm making, that your horny, inconsiderate mind refuses to comprehend. Erasing a person's existence and reducing them to dick is harmful. But you be great and continue to spend and maintain ignorance. Argue with someone else. Go be stupid on your side of the hill.
i see an argument brewing in the comments, not trying to add to it, but would just ask- then explain Rome. and explain Prison sex. many straight men seem to have no issue getting off on and demanding sex from their inferiors depending on the society they reside in. i think at that point, you need to define gay. enjoy having sex with a guy, get emotional support from a guy, fall in love with a guy? seems more fluid than its not, it is, its not.
There is no question the whole BBC thing, QOS thing, cuckold with a black guy is racist, and a fetish. so they have fetishized racism. I am not sure that is a thing anyone should be defending, but maybe waking up to try to understand it. the argument "you like what you like" only goes so far- we have outlawed pedophiles for good reason. the opposite problem that is an extension of BBC fetish is the BNWO ridiculousness - where black men and white women and a few odd white males have convinced themselves Black men are superior. its all fetish. Is there a problem with that? um yeah if you are driving around looking at black men, assuming they all have large cocks and might fuck you, or a man is concerned they might fuck their wife- we have seen real jealous play out in the real world. Maybe they just want to get through the job interview and get the job....Black men have been written into these roles in the US for a long time, and it is a form of suppression dating back to slavery- the wild savage, the super strong man, the threat to "your woman"- it does more to work against them, than for them. there was a man, a "nobody" from the south who famously claimed "obama wants to fuck my wife" (anyone recall that?) which made the news once. my vote is it matters. now is there a problem with reverring all men with big dicks? yes, thats a different issue. should this person be able to write a story about his getting off on the psychological trauma of having his wife fucked by another guy- sure, he's working through some stuff.
Fetishes are just flavors, like someone who absolutely loves lemon, or chocolate, or gummy candies.
Strongly disagree. As someone on grinder what I've noticed is many black men LOVE sub dom play. BNWO is just another for of sub dom. It's race play. Many guys love saying "BBC looking for bottom". I get fetished because I'm trans. Black men LOVE trans women. It's only an issue if they treat me as less outside the bedroom which most men do anyways regardless of the ethnicity. But I wouldn't call someone transphobic fir finding the thing that makes me stand out as attractive and arousing. I like it probably equally to them enjoy the admiration they get from being hung or dom. Geez
I'm not saying people don't enjoy it on either side. I read a story of a black woman married to a white man who was posting because he wanted to role play race based slave scenarios. he did not think it was racist, they are married, she was very disturbed by it. people can fetishize all sorts of things, its independent of what it represents. but its a stereotype, based on color, the trope is the big strong black man with a big cock. black men with average or small cocks might disagree with you too. There is the whole alpha male thing of men with white cocks- its a stereotype that gives them an advantage of sorts, but its not tied to the history of racism (far as I know). that said,its working for you, i am not trying to change that, but you could just be the alpha with a big cock and take black out of it if you were politically inclined.
On average black men are bigger though. The slavery thing is a very different kink imo. My friend, who's white, was hooking up with a black guy and the black guy wanted to do race play. My friend is very go with the flow and did so and the guy he was with loved it. I dont only date/hookup with black men. And I have other kinks that aline with the alpha thing that arent raced based at all. Like muscle worship, height difference, I'm average size so a guy who's really hung is hot. Many straight black men have deeper voices, are tall and more masculine. Much of this has to do with positions of power, which is not entirely race based either. In the same context, people in positions of power tend to like to be submissive in play. Political correctness is a subjective mindset. For many years people thought saying black was politically incorrect and you needed to say afrocan americab. But then you're implying that being black and proud to be black is not okay. Either way sweeping statements like "BNWO" is racist, even if it's just roleplay, is ridiculous because it doesn't play into someone's values. Would you equally saying that those who dress in historical garments share the same values as the time periods they're from? Likely not. All of this requires context from someone's personal views. If someone fetishizes me because I'm trans, great, but as long as after they cum they still treat me like a person that's what matters. Some people find those with handicaps more attractive. Is it degrading to the person who is handicapped that someone finds them attractive? I dont think so. Please listen to marginalized people's who actually experience fetishization.
