Need Some Mmf Advice :)

[1098123]

Well... I couldn't find an earlier thread about my specific case, but if it already have been asked/posted, please link to the other thread and I'll delete this

Me and my gf wants to have an threesome (MMF). She told me no threesomes ever, because she wants me all by her self. But when I told her that I only wanted an MMF threesome, she started to like the idea.
The reason why I want it, is to pleasure her and see her play with 2 guys at once.
And she likes the idea of pleasuring 2 guys at once.
Soo... We made some ground rules for our self.

1: No one we know or spend time with often.

2: The guy should be willing to play more then one time only (everybody know sex gets better over time)

But how to find a guy?
We might be afraid that one guy only take the opportunity to get some free sex and then never come back.
And we also talked about that we want someone who like to be with us, so the third guy doesn't feel like he is only an living dildo..

And what about age difference? We are both 24, would it be crazy to invite e.g a 35 year old?

Well.. I was a long post, but I hope someone have some advice, ideas or thoughts about this.

And be welcome to ask question if your unsure about anything or I missed a detail.

 

[S_Dick]

Hey man, thanks for sharing this
I’d say just go out and meet people. What you are describing is probabaly a lot of guys fantasies. So talk to guys at bars. Or friends of friends you both think are hot. Tell them what you are thinking about. Even as a joke or a secret. If they think it is hot they will let you know. Just make sure to talk with them about it before hand. Have a coffee beforehand and everyone, including your guest, can say what they want and what they you all are expecting. And if it gets to be too much at the moment what you will all do.

As far as age, don’t even worry about it. I’m 35, I’ve dated older than me, younger than me. It’s all the same after a point. What your saying sounds super hot. If I was in your country I’d sign up.

Good luck. And just make sure to talk to each other about it

 

[Thickershock]

Well... I couldn't find an earlier thread about my specific case, but if it already have been asked/posted, please link to the other thread and I'll delete this

Me and my gf wants to have an threesome (MMF). She told me no threesomes ever, because she wants me all by her self. But when I told her that I only wanted an MMF threesome, she started to like the idea.
The reason why I want it, is to pleasure her and see her play with 2 guys at once.
And she likes the idea of pleasuring 2 guys at once.
Soo... We made some ground rules for our self.

1: No one we know or spend time with often.

2: The guy should be willing to play more then one time only (everybody know sex gets better over time)

But how to find a guy?
We might be afraid that one guy only take the opportunity to get some free sex and then never come back.
And we also talked about that we want someone who like to be with us, so the third guy doesn't feel like he is only an living dildo..

And what about age difference? We are both 24, would it be crazy to invite e.g a 35 year old?

Well.. I was a long post, but I hope someone have some advice, ideas or thoughts about this.

And be welcome to ask question if your unsure about anything or I missed a detail.

It sounds like you're approaching it in a healthy way. You could try to find a guy on here, reddit, or adultfriendfinder, but it's a good idea to hang out with him the first time with the understanding that no hanky panky will be taking place. That way you can see if he's willing to even do that, and you'll get an idea if this is someone you'd want to hang out with again in the future. I agree that you should avoid doing this with a guy that you know, especially if you are trying to be discreet. Make sure that he knows that he'll either have to get tested or wear a condom (whichever you two prefer), and establish a set of ground rules you want him to follow (no anal, no hard spanking, etc., or whatever may be off limits for you). He needs to be able to respect your boundaries, so once you find someone you like, maybe start with oral and see how it goes. Work your way up to sex. If he gets impatient, then look elsewhere.

 

[Coronahead]

Well... I couldn't find an earlier thread about my specific case, but if it already have been asked/posted, please link to the other thread and I'll delete this

Me and my gf wants to have an threesome (MMF). She told me no threesomes ever, because she wants me all by her self. But when I told her that I only wanted an MMF threesome, she started to like the idea.
The reason why I want it, is to pleasure her and see her play with 2 guys at once.
And she likes the idea of pleasuring 2 guys at once.
Soo... We made some ground rules for our self.

1: No one we know or spend time with often.

2: The guy should be willing to play more then one time only (everybody know sex gets better over time)

But how to find a guy?
We might be afraid that one guy only take the opportunity to get some free sex and then never come back.
And we also talked about that we want someone who like to be with us, so the third guy doesn't feel like he is only an living dildo..

And what about age difference? We are both 24, would it be crazy to invite e.g a 35 year old?

Well.. I was a long post, but I hope someone have some advice, ideas or thoughts about this.

And be welcome to ask question if your unsure about anything or I missed a detail.

It sounds exciting for you both, I don't think you need to worry about if the guy is older, much more important is that he is considerate of you both and is thoughtful of your girlfriend's desires.
You should watch this thread. The thread is extremely long, but very interesting as the original poster convinces his girlfriend to try sleeping with some huge cocked guys. Some were successful and other hookups were not, but the bottom line is that his girlfriend gradually admitted from a orgasms standpoint, that very well endowed guys were best and she now enjoys occasionally hooking up with these huge cocked guys.

First threesome (my girls first big cock)

 

[1098123]

Thanks for all the really good advices and thoughts we really appreciate that and now we just need to take the next step.

 

[marriedasian]

are you really sure you want to do this? i'm going to warn you and say this is a one-way ticket into the unknown. i've know many guys (some of them my better buddies) whom went down this road and it did not end well. it was all dandy and awesome at first until the fantasy stopped and reality kicked in. i'm not here to tell you what to do; i'm simply stating the consequences that you will be facing...

here are my observations based on your short paragraph on info: she's only okay with it because it's a MMF? that's already a red flag in my opinion. if she's not willing to do a MFF but have no issues with a MMF then it's very selfish on her part to not consider you even if you are not interested today... what if after this MMF threesome you want to try a MFF? if she objects to that but is still willing to consider another MMF session then i'd be concerned.

you say you want to pleasure her and see her with 2 guys at once. is this a fantasy of yours that you've played out in your head? if so, i want to remind you that in your head, everything is perfect... down to the color on the walls. in reality, things may happen that will have you taking 2 steps back before you know it and then too late to do anything about. what happens if you freak out in the moment and can't get hard but he can? what happens if he can fuck her harder than you ever could? what happens if he makes her cum faster? louder? more times than you?... maybe he can eat her better... and the list can go on and on... now you're probably thinking that would be awesome cause i want to see her being pleasured however it's different in your head versus right in front of you. believe me when i tell you that my buddies were all gung-ho until it happened and then the other guy made their woman produce sounds they never heard before, just think about that for a bit... what if she likes this guy and starts seeing him on the side for booty calls? are you okay with that possibility?

you're both 24 and young... you've yet to experience a lot yet so i understand the urge to explore and experiment. as a fellow guy, i'm telling you to be careful what you ask for. now i could totally be wrong about you and this is what you want and possibly the cuckold lifestyle is in your future but you didn't mention this so i'm filling in the blanks here.

as for finding a guy... that's super easy. there are a plethora of men waiting to jump into opportunities such as what you are offering. the only thing is chemistry and physical attributes that you two are looking for. i would suggest that you just post up an ad on websites and/or apps and be very specific about what you are looking for. don't be shy about it and don't settle. he's out there for sure, be patient and you will find him. another thing, don't even worry about a guy getting free sex then ghosting you, not gonna happen, lols.

don't get too hung up on age. performance and overall physique is probably more important plus personality and mutual respect.

my wife and i still do this even to this day however we both will meet each other's wants so she would have no issues with having a MFF or a MMF. we're totally open with each other about it all. it's just good sex and fun. we don't do it as much anymore as it has become harder and harder to find people who can handle a good fuck without the drama. either way, good luck and i hope all goes well for you. i've seen this story played out way too many times with unfortunate endings.

 

[1098123]

are you really sure you want to do this? i'm going to warn you and say this is a one-way ticket into the unknown. i've know many guys (some of them my better buddies) whom went down this road and it did not end well. it was all dandy and awesome at first until the fantasy stopped and reality kicked in. i'm not here to tell you what to do; i'm simply stating the consequences that you will be facing...

here are my observations based on your short paragraph on info: she's only okay with it because it's a MMF? that's already a red flag in my opinion. if she's not willing to do a MFF but have no issues with a MMF then it's very selfish on her part to not consider you even if you are not interested today... what if after this MMF threesome you want to try a MFF? if she objects to that but is still willing to consider another MMF session then i'd be concerned.

you say you want to pleasure her and see her with 2 guys at once. is this a fantasy of yours that you've played out in your head? if so, i want to remind you that in your head, everything is perfect... down to the color on the walls. in reality, things may happen that will have you taking 2 steps back before you know it and then too late to do anything about. what happens if you freak out in the moment and can't get hard but he can? what happens if he can fuck her harder than you ever could? what happens if he makes her cum faster? louder? more times than you?... maybe he can eat her better... and the list can go on and on... now you're probably thinking that would be awesome cause i want to see her being pleasured however it's different in your head versus right in front of you. believe me when i tell you that my buddies were all gung-ho until it happened and then the other guy made their woman produce sounds they never heard before, just think about that for a bit... what if she likes this guy and starts seeing him on the side for booty calls? are you okay with that possibility?

you're both 24 and young... you've yet to experience a lot yet so i understand the urge to explore and experiment. as a fellow guy, i'm telling you to be careful what you ask for. now i could totally be wrong about you and this is what you want and possibly the cuckold lifestyle is in your future but you didn't mention this so i'm filling in the blanks here.

as for finding a guy... that's super easy. there are a plethora of men waiting to jump into opportunities such as what you are offering. the only thing is chemistry and physical attributes that you two are looking for. i would suggest that you just post up an ad on websites and/or apps and be very specific about what you are looking for. don't be shy about it and don't settle. he's out there for sure, be patient and you will find him. another thing, don't even worry about a guy getting free sex then ghosting you, not gonna happen, lols.

don't get too hung up on age. performance and overall physique is probably more important plus personality and mutual respect.

my wife and i still do this even to this day however we both will meet each other's wants so she would have no issues with having a MFF or a MMF. we're totally open with each other about it all. it's just good sex and fun. we don't do it as much anymore as it has become harder and harder to find people who can handle a good fuck without the drama. either way, good luck and i hope all goes well for you. i've seen this story played out way too many times with unfortunate endings.

Hey marriedasian. Thanks for the very good input. Sounds like your buddies had the same thoughts and not so good experience with it. So it's nice to get some advice on what to avoid and what to do and think.

Well.. Her ex boyfriend wanted an MFF all the time, and he cheated on her alot. So I think it's her being insecure if it's just a "getaway" to play with another girl. So I told her that we could do a MMF to see how we feel about it. But yeah.. I see your point. I have to talk with her and hear what her thought would be if it was a MFF. But most is the insecurity I would say, not selfishnes. But before I move on, I might have to find out if she does this because it would be sexy and exciting for both of us. And would she be cool if it would be with a girl aswell somewhere down the road.

It's a fantasy we both have. Of course not one we made together, but one we both had before. Ofc I played the scenarios out in my head, and I know it's not as glorified as my fantasy might be. But it's not like I want a guy to dominate my girl and humiliate me. Cuckolding is not my kind of business I would say. I wanna be there, join her and let her feel like we are 2 persons who focus about her. The same way I would feel if it was a MFF. The aspect of the guy who could fuck harder, better etc. Is ofc something I have to take in mind. But again, if he does that, isn't it nice enough? As long as we both have a good time. I can see the point of her going seeing him on the side or worst case go from me. But wouldn't that mean that what we have, isn't real love anyway then? If I can't trust that I have more to give her then a guy who Is a good shack? And if we agree only to play with that person together, and she brake that rule... Well.. Then it wasn't love. I know it's a bit rose-tinted glasses here. But if the case ends like that, I would say she couldn't be trusted and didn't love me. But she has been with 36 guys, I doubt I'm the best in the bed there
My fantasy probably exceed reality, but if she also have a fantasy about it, i think it could be nice. But groundrules have to be made. Like if I say we quit, we quit. Like if she says we quit, we quit.

Yeah we are young, and we need to try and learn. That's also why I asked here, because of guys like you with experience and trail of thoughts I never walked. Cuckold is not me, I would say swinger was more my treat. Where all are equal and all have their saying in the playing.

Haha, that's true.. Probably have to be picky until we find a guy, where chemistry is there and who we would want to invite into our bed.

My thoughts aswell. Age doesn't matter, she have been with a 36 year old guy before, and she said she didn't gave it a thought.

Sounds nice with what you and your wife have together. That's what we are hoping for aswell. How did you guys "survive", or what to say?

And once again thanks for the really good input!

 

[marriedasian]

Well.. Her ex boyfriend wanted an MFF all the time, and he cheated on her alot. So I think it's her being insecure if it's just a "getaway" to play with another girl. So I told her that we could do a MMF to see how we feel about it. But yeah.. I see your point. I have to talk with her and hear what her thought would be if it was a MFF. But most is the insecurity I would say, not selfishnes. But before I move on, I might have to find out if she does this because it would be sexy and exciting for both of us. And would she be cool if it would be with a girl aswell somewhere down the road.

an easy way to avoid this would simply be to drop the whole MMF or MFF thing and just go swap with another couple. you mentioned preferring the swinging lifestyle than being cuckolded so just do this instead. this way you overcome her insecurities and have fun at the same time. just keep in mind also that swinging comes with its own pros and cons too.

It's a fantasy we both have. Of course not one we made together, but one we both had before. Ofc I played the scenarios out in my head, and I know it's not as glorified as my fantasy might be. But it's not like I want a guy to dominate my girl and humiliate me. Cuckolding is not my kind of business I would say. I wanna be there, join her and let her feel like we are 2 persons who focus about her. The same way I would feel if it was a MFF. The aspect of the guy who could fuck harder, better etc. Is ofc something I have to take in mind. But again, if he does that, isn't it nice enough? As long as we both have a good time.

being cuckolded comes in many flavors. it's just not another guy dominating your girl and humiliating you. it can be very subtle or as clear as night and day. here's what happened to one of my buddies that he shared with me... let's call him Jay, we'll call her Jane, and the other guy Joe. during their threesome, Jay fucked Jane first while she sucked Joe and after some time Jay blew his load and step aside... then it was Joe's turn and he was fucking her longer and harder. at some point during Jane getting fucked endlessly, Jay would ask if Jane was enjoying it and she would ignore his question then after a few more minutes he would ask her again and still no response. Jane was either lost in pleasure from Joe's relentless fucking or she just didn't care anymore about Jay's presence and was only into Joe. it was very obvious to Jay that Joe was fucking her better but it bothered Jay more that Jane was now no longer acknowledging Jay... this simple action put Jay in an utmost uncomfortable place and in that very moment Jay shared with me that he wanted nothing more than for it all to stop but couldn't muster the strength to say anything. Jay ended up lying next to them both fucking for a very long time... after she came multiple times, Joe finally blew his load. Jane was totally exhausted, Joe got off her and laid on the opposite side of the bed, and Jay never felt so disconnected from Jane. Jay wasn't able to get it up anymore after that so Joe fucked Jane one more time before he left. long story short, i was not able to talk Jay into saving the relationship. it eventually ate him up inside and Jay broke up with Jane even though she didn't want him to leave and even promised that they would never do such a thing again... still, the damage was done. i also personally know Jane and i know for a fact that she didn't cuckold Jay but it doesn't change the fact that Jay feels this way regardless.

I can see the point of her going seeing him on the side or worst case go from me. But wouldn't that mean that what we have, isn't real love anyway then? If I can't trust that I have more to give her then a guy who Is a good shack? And if we agree only to play with that person together, and she brake that rule... Well.. Then it wasn't love. I know it's a bit rose-tinted glasses here. But if the case ends like that, I would say she couldn't be trusted and didn't love me. But she has been with 36 guys, I doubt I'm the best in the bed there
My fantasy probably exceed reality, but if she also have a fantasy about it, i think it could be nice. But groundrules have to be made. Like if I say we quit, we quit. Like if she says we quit, we quit.

man-to-man, women are complex creatures and not as easy to handle as many men would want to make you believe. what you said above is very rose-tinted glass as you put it. there are no guarantees to relationships. for all you know, she could have fucked someone today and you wouldn't know any better. i'm not trying to make you paranoid as that is very unhealthy for any relationship. i only want you to keep things real and be ready for anything that comes your way. remember that every choice comes with a consequence. own the consequences before you make the choice. also, she's been with 36 guys and she's only 24 so that tells me she knows what she's doing...

Yeah we are young, and we need to try and learn. That's also why I asked here, because of guys like you with experience and trail of thoughts I never walked. Cuckold is not me, I would say swinger was more my treat. Where all are equal and all have their saying in the playing.

glad to help and share. just be careful what you ask for...

Sounds nice with what you and your wife have together. That's what we are hoping for aswell. How did you guys "survive", or what to say?

my wife and i never "survived" anything. we are exactly what each other was looking for and are with each other because it's exactly where we want to be. i can't speak for her but i will share my point of view. i have no issues with her fucking other men and never will. she knows this and she also knows that i'll fuck other women whenever i want. i'm not afraid to leave her instantly if she crosses any lines that we've drawn and vice-versa. hell, she knows i may ditch her at any moment and her the same for me. i think it's this very existence that keeps us together and going strong. many will look at our relationship and say how could we be together knowing tomorrow could be the last day and not always be in constant fear? wouldn't you want to know that you partner will never leave you and always love you forever?... well, to this i tell them that they're living in a fantasy world and need to wake up. there is no guarantee in life and no law that says your partner can't walk out on you whenever they feel like. people do change over time and also circumstances too. they're with you now and you just need to enjoy it today. i've encouraged my wife to move on if she finds someone better as i don't want her wasting my life if she doesn't want to be with me. i don't want to be the "better than nothing" guy that she clings on to. each day i strive for further excellence in myself for ME and as collateral damage for her as incentive to be with me. she does this as well and it just works out really well for us.

we're also brutally honest and open with each other. we'd rather hurt each other's feelings upfront than later on when we find out from something or someone else. we both believe and want our relationship to be strong enough to survive the harshes moments and words. we've also learned to keep our emotions in-check and to talk through situations before over-reacting otherwise we go on break to cool off then come back and talk things through. my wife has said some things about me that would be borderline break-up material and i've said things to her that a normal woman would probably walk out that same day... yet we're still here and still together.

oddly enough though, i've been with my wife for well over a decade and we've kept it entirely "real" this whole time that we know each other really well and we both hate dealing with people and their drama so now we are so picky about who we fuck. people have a hard time fucking with their bodies and not letting their minds get involved which leads to a lot of drama. it's just easier to fuck each other, lols.