Not having any luck with hook-ups on apps!

[thenightaway]

I'm on and off on Sniffies and Grindr for a year to look for a FWB near me. I consider myself pretty attractive (twunky, fit, 6ft). I got a lot of responses when they saw my picture but none of them turned into anything.

Today, I was chatting with a guy near me on Sniffies. He's hot af. We exchanged nudes and face pics. he said he was down to host, etc. I replied saying that I'm ready. And then he ghosted me. Just left me on read.

I don't know what happened. The conversation was going well. It was sexual and got me all horned up. And then suddenly he just dropped it.

I don't know what to do anymore. I thought I finally found my hookup. Any advice? Partially, I think I'm picky. But I thought it'd be easy. I guess I will just jerk off and call it a night.

 

[bigmanmikey444]

the gay apps are a playground for people .. just playing games asking for money or drugs or both.. i gave up a while back..

 

[Jimmyjimmyjames]

Just keep at it. Ghosting happens no matter what in this age. After a while, I’ve learned to not set any expectations and just take it as it goes.

 

[theplayerking]

I'm on and off on Sniffies and Grindr for a year to look for a FWB near me. I consider myself pretty attractive (twunky, fit, 6ft). I got a lot of responses when they saw my picture but none of them turned into anything.

Today, I was chatting with a guy near me on Sniffies. He's hot af. We exchanged nudes and face pics. he said he was down to host, etc. I replied saying that I'm ready. And then he ghosted me. Just left me on read.

I don't know what happened. The conversation was going well. It was sexual and got me all horned up. And then suddenly he just dropped it.

I don't know what to do anymore. I thought I finally found my hookup. Any advice? Partially, I think I'm picky. But I thought it'd be easy. I guess I will just jerk off and call it a night.

The apps are hot-or-miss at the best of times. Combine that with being picky in a small city, and your probable success rate drops dramatically. Keep trying but don’t take it too seriously. Some times you get lucky.

 

[malakos]

Being picky doesn't help because it narrows your options and they're narrower than you might think.

If you're decently good looking, a lot of guys apparently in your league will be bots. Another good chunk of fakes will be catfishers.

Of those whose identities are real, many of them will be doing some form of chain-yanking. In many cases they're closeted and part of them wants to meet up but will always back out at the last minute. In many other cases they're really just indulging in fantasies / roleplay and have no intention of actually meeting.

Once all of these are taken into account, which may constitute the vast majority of those you're looking at (noting that, by being picky, you already ruled out from the onset a mass who may be more likely to be real people and sincere in their seeking), the guys who are actually looking to meet will often be operating under the notion that they have a lot of options. Sometimes they do. Often they, like you, think they have more options than they actually do. So you're going to have to really stand out in their minds to grab their interest.

What you should do with that information is try not to be innocuous. Be genuine. Be yourself. Don't be guarded about what interests you. The guys who are into what you are will be drawn to that.

It's a bit of a crapshoot, but you just gotta keep plugging away if you want to make a catch. And hopefully you learn to have a keener sense of who is actually looking and who is bullshitting, so you don't waste as much of your time in the future.

P.S. Make sure you have decent quality pics to share. Lots of dudes are missing out by not having decent photos.

 

[dfw051980]

I'm on and off on Sniffies and Grindr for a year to look for a FWB near me. I consider myself pretty attractive (twunky, fit, 6ft). I got a lot of responses when they saw my picture but none of them turned into anything.

Today, I was chatting with a guy near me on Sniffies. He's hot af. We exchanged nudes and face pics. he said he was down to host, etc. I replied saying that I'm ready. And then he ghosted me. Just left me on read.

I don't know what happened. The conversation was going well. It was sexual and got me all horned up. And then suddenly he just dropped it.

I don't know what to do anymore. I thought I finally found my hookup. Any advice? Partially, I think I'm picky. But I thought it'd be easy. I guess I will just jerk off and call it a night.

Sniffies although its nice cause its pretty much a cut to the chase hookup app its just like the others full of flakes but i think one thing it has more of than others, and thats sketchy scammers. People who just collect picks and never have any intention of hooking up.
And TBH although the ghosting behaviour sucks most people do it to some extent and you just gotta be okay with it.
Alot of times guys are talking hot and heavy with 2-3 other people. Once they decide on one they skip the awkward hey i found someone else and just move on.
These apps today really do suck now but kinda just gotta go with it or drop e, alltogether.

 

[Soul Eternal]

I honestly hooked up with two people on reddit. One was not too talkative but the other so far is a sweet heart. Can't wait to see him soon.

 

[dfw051980]

One of my alltime favorite fuck buddies i got from this site. If he reads this.. Miss you buddy!

 

[thenightaway]

One of my alltime favorite fuck buddies i got from this site. If he reads this.. Miss you buddy!

lucky.