Older Married Men

[erpap]

What percentage of married men as they get older do you think turn to being bi? Was that urge always there or do some men’s desires change as they age?

I think it’s a small percentage of married men.

 

[jthomasmpls]

What percentage of married men as they get older do you think turn to being bi? Was that urge always there or do some men’s desires change as they age?

I think it’s a small percentage of married men.

I don't know about the percentage of married men or the influence of marital status but in my experience men under 30 have experienced more sexual freedom to explore their desires with less judgement. In my experience, its very common for men in their 40's & 50's after divorce to actively explore their sexuality, including sex with men.

Men in their 40, 50 & 60's grew up in with a lot of shame & sigima around sex with men.

Men born in 80's-90's, men in there 40's-50's grew up in the early era of the HIV/AIDs crisis.

Men born in the 70's, men in their 50's were born just after Stonewall, growing up in early years of gay rights. Remember the first legal gay marriage in the United States was in 2004, President Obama didn't openly support gay marriage until 2012.

Men born in the 60's, men in their 60's were among the least likely to explore anything other than heterosexuality.

Gallup recently updated the LGBTQ Identification report. I found it very interesting, hopefully you will too.

LGBTQ+ Identification in U.S. Now at 7.6%

 

[WilliamG]

What percentage of married men as they get older do you think turn to being bi? Was that urge always there or do some men’s desires change as they age?

I think it’s a small percentage of married men.

I'm one of those that became bi later in life. Most of the guys I've hooked up with are married (to women). It's a percentage for sure . Not sure how one could get an accurate number on this.

 

[dickthrobbing]

I'm one of those that became bi later in life. Most of the guys I've hooked up with are married (to women). It's a percentage for sure . Not sure how one could get an accurate number on this.

Butt did you "become bi later in life" or was the curiosity always there?

I certainly did not start having sex with men until I was in my late 40's butt reflecting back now I realise my curiosity in having sex with guys goes a long way back to my teens, not to the level where I questioned being heterosexual to realisation of being bi came latter

 

[goldscorpguy]

Just like @WilliamG I did not become bi until later in life. It started with an intense curiosity in my 40s and led inexorably to a point a few months before my fiftieth birthday where I lost my anal virginity.

There was a brief fling in my teens where there was some mutual stroking, but nothing I could identify as a bisexual feeling. Back then, there was no mindset for feeling bi. I liked girls, and the cock play was just something that happened.

 

[daftman]

good thread. Am a very happily married guy here, mid '60s. Excellent sex with my wife.

This bi thing, to me is pretty cool. I recall my first infatuation with a dick, a VHS from early 1990's. It was straight and long, I can picture it now. Wish I had that video now. I started to like the idea of dicks further into early 2000's, was a little sheepish about it originally. Then, 2002 or so, couple guys in the communal shower at the Y in Mpls, swimmers, nice dicks, pretty trimmed or completely, loved them... would have sucked one instantly! Then I started shaving, wife fingering my rear, all the good stuff. So been pretty bi for a while, no extra curricular activities. Love a dildo, a cock ring, a smooth dick. Still a bi virgin. I totally fantasize verbally during sex of getting spit roasted, or sitting across the room and watching her.

Walking around, it is the women who get my looks, guys, not really, once in a great while. I stay nice and smooth, pretty fit....

Like I said, this bi stuff had made me, individually, a better person, more fluid, and more interested in the physicality and sensuality of all people, and that works for us. She is kinda bi too. Would not trade it.

I belive most of my male freinds are straight.

Appreciate the discourse here.

 

[WilliamG]

Butt did you "become bi later in life" or was the curiosity always there?

Was never even curious till later.

 

[bi2]

I'm one of those that became bi later in life. Most of the guys I've hooked up with are married (to women). It's a percentage for sure . Not sure how one could get an accurate number on this.

I think this is what happened with my fuckbuddy. I dont ask or inquire out of respect but I suspect that given his wife lost interest in sex, but he still loves her and his family so being with another woman is not an option. Being with another woman I think he would consider cheating and also potentially cause unnecessary complications with his wife and family, with the stress and drama a MF sexual relationship may cause. I guess with me he gets to have a sexual outlet without any issues. Its easy, convenient and uncomplicated MM sex. His needs are met and so are mine. We have been hooking up since before covid without any problems whatsoever.

 

[mushroomcap]

I became an active bisexual later in life. While I’ve only been attracted to women romanticly, for as long as I can remember, anything sexual, regardless of gender, has gotten me sexually aroused including simple things like nudity in the locker room and showers. Any sexual interest in men had to be hidden because homosexuality was frowned upon. It wasn’t till my mid 40’s that I started finding outlets for my interest in men by going to adult bookstores, theaters and the occasional all male hotel party. So to answer your question, I have always been bi, but was only able to act on it later in life.

 

[diver6]

I started early in life with buddies as girls were not interested in sex then, it continued till we found girlfriends and got married, years later even with a great marriage and great sex life I still look back on my past and want to try it again with a more open mind. If I could, I would play with a lot more of open guys for sure.

 

[elklindoxxx]

What percentage of married men as they get older do you think turn to being bi? Was that urge always there or do some men’s desires change as they age?

I think it’s a small percentage of married men.

I suspect, a reason is now people are more accepting of homosexual activity. When I was college aged it was really unacceptable and you would have been an outcast if anybody found out.

Now, may partner and I go with other couples. And it is not unusual for us to fo M/M or F/F with other couples. Whereas,15 or 20 years ago it wouldn't have happened.

 

[goldscorpguy]

There are some great points raised in this thread.
Another contributing factor to bisexuality ' kicking in' at an older age is that I found in my 50s I suddenly had more confidence in myself to confront and do something about the feelings I was getting. I remember my first visit to a gay sauna, my heart pounding and hands shaking when I paid the entrance fee. I ended up staying for hours and really enjoying it. Now I'm completely relaxed about any fun that comes my way.

 

[dickthrobbing]

Another contributing factor to bisexuality ' kicking in' at an older age is that I found in my 50s I suddenly had more confidence in myself to confront and do something about the feelings I was getting.

I think this is very true

 

[mrbigdoc]

I think it's much higher than we will ever know. For me it seemed as I got older the urge for cock time just kept getting stronger and stronger over the years. I have been married over 50 years and my wife and I always had a great sex life together. I never went for other women but always had the urge in the back of my mind for cock. About 10 years ago I met a guy at my gym where I went every morning to work out. He was a good guy and we had a lot in common. We worked out together often and just seemed to be a good workout buddy. After we worked out we would shower quick and hit the steam room. I had seen him checking me out in the shower a few times and I always looked at him in a interested kind of way. We had become pretty good friends even to the point of getting together with our wives for dinner and BBQ's.

Then one day in the steam room he openly discussed sex with his wife. He said they always had a wonderful time together. I told him my wife and I had and have many great times with sex. He started to get pretty detailed about some of their sexual adventures that I started to get an erection. We were naked accept for a towel in the steam room. He went on and on about a summer vacation where in got so horny that even the pool lifeguard was turning him on. He kept talking about how sometimes the bi scene really interested him. I was all ears and my cock was hard a s a rock. I secretly had an urge to enjoy him but never let that known to him. I told him about a time when we were at my high school reunion and the drinks were flowing ans all of us were having a great time. My wife maybe had too much to drink and she went up to the room to take a quick nap to rest and maybe sober up a bit. I went out on the balcony of the ballroom to view the lake and there was a long time friend that I grew up with and we had a few sexual encounters growing up. My high school bud asked me if I ever think of those times we had and I told him yes, often. Long story short, we found a secluded place down by the lake. and we enjoyed another sexual encounter. It was truly a great experience for both of us.

Buy this time telling his this I was real hard and horny. He reached over and pulled my towel off to expose my now very hard cock. He said he knew I was hard and he could tell by the way I was moving around. Anyway he pulled he towel off and his cock was hard as well. We were in the steam room by ourselves and we reached for each others cock and just enjoyed each other. He did lean over and suck for cock to completion and I gladly returned the favor. As I said that was 10 years ago and we still workout together and mess around. I guess the whole point is even though you have good sex with the wife, good sex with a guy is pretty good too. I do do believe its much higher than we can imagine.

Sorry for the long answer, I just went with my thought and am feeling pretty good right now.

 

[daftman]

I think it's much higher than we will ever know. For me it seemed as I got older the urge for cock time just kept getting stronger and stronger over the years. I have been married over 50 years and my wife and I always had a great sex life together. I never went for other women but always had the urge in the back of my mind for cock. About 10 years ago I met a guy at my gym where I went every morning to work out. He was a good guy and we had a lot in common. We worked out together often and just seemed to be a good workout buddy. After we worked out we would shower quick and hit the steam room. I had seen him checking me out in the shower a few times and I always looked at him in a interested kind of way. We had become pretty good friends even to the point of getting together with our wives for dinner and BBQ's.

Then one day in the steam room he openly discussed sex with his wife. He said they always had a wonderful time together. I told him my wife and I had and have many great times with sex. He started to get pretty detailed about some of their sexual adventures that I started to get an erection. We were naked accept for a towel in the steam room. He went on and on about a summer vacation where in got so horny that even the pool lifeguard was turning him on. He kept talking about how sometimes the bi scene really interested him. I was all ears and my cock was hard a s a rock. I secretly had an urge to enjoy him but never let that known to him. I told him about a time when we were at my high school reunion and the drinks were flowing ans all of us were having a great time. My wife maybe had too much to drink and she went up to the room to take a quick nap to rest and maybe sober up a bit. I went out on the balcony of the ballroom to view the lake and there was a long time friend that I grew up with and we had a few sexual encounters growing up. My high school bud asked me if I ever think of those times we had and I told him yes, often. Long story short, we found a secluded place down by the lake. and we enjoyed another sexual encounter. It was truly a great experience for both of us.

Buy this time telling his this I was real hard and horny. He reached over and pulled my towel off to expose my now very hard cock. He said he knew I was hard and he could tell by the way I was moving around. Anyway he pulled he towel off and his cock was hard as well. We were in the steam room by ourselves and we reached for each others cock and just enjoyed each other. He did lean over and suck for cock to completion and I gladly returned the favor. As I said that was 10 years ago and we still workout together and mess around. I guess the whole point is even though you have good sex with the wife, good sex with a guy is pretty good too. I do do believe its much higher than we can imagine.

Sorry for the long answer, I just went with my thought and am feeling pretty good right now.

appreciate your long answer, you are lucky!

 

[WilliamG]

I have met a couple guys now that did not hookup until they were retired. Seems we have the time and resources now.

 

[latinluva]

I've always been bisexual, never thought I'd be married...but here I am. She's cool with it, as we play now and then, it's fun! But when I was was younger, I was always the bottom for older married men. Now I am older and married, I'm not sure what my role is in my sexuality. Most of my men were in their 50's and 60's as I let them top me. Not too concerned as I will eventually figure it out!

 

[sissyjanine]

I'm bi and married to a woman. I think the interest was there from a young age...didnt think about calling myself bi until about 10 years ago...the urge for cock has definitely grown over the years...

 

[WilliamG]

I think one thing that revolutionized older men hooking up are apps like Sniffies. One can find a mate pretty damn easy on it. And using it in conjunction with known cruising spots (they show up on the app) really opens the doors for many guys in this situation. That said: We know this is wrong. But that's not the topic here.

 

[goldscorpguy]

I think one thing that revolutionized older men hooking up are apps like Sniffies. One can find a mate pretty damn easy on it. And using it in conjunction with known cruising spots (they show up on the app) really opens the doors for many guys in this situation. That said: We know this is wrong. But that's not the topic here.

Agree completely, hook up apps have given the older married man the ability to find a local, like- minded partner with ease. I discovered a bi club meet through fabswingers which I attend twice a month, organised by a great host. If I had to put a percentage on it, I would say at least 80% of the guys I see there are married & mostly my age. The number could be higher as some, understandably, don't talk about their status. And man-oh-man do they know how to have fun.