Time to dust off my old thesis and same talking points I have to recycle every 30 pages or so
1. On the topic of porn stars:
Always take their stated/declared sexuality with a grain, or rather, a handful of salt. Their job is to market and sell themselves to as many people as they can. Some will tell one fan they're gay and in the same hour turn around and tell someone else they're bi/straight/etc because they want consumers to buy into their work. That's their job. Some are honest about how they truly identify, others are not, either way it doesn't matter, it's a job. No human lives their life in 100% honesty anyway.
2. Gay men can have sex with women, straight men can have sex with men:
Humans are capable of doing things they do not enjoy for the hell of it, or more commonly, the great great motivator of money. As a kid I watched a show called Fear Factor and watched contestants eat gross 'food' every episode because they were motivated by monetary incentive. The same can apply to porn - gay men can pop a Viagra to fuck a woman, and straight men can do the same to fuck a man or to stay hard while being fucked. That doesn't mean either man in either scenario enjoys it. Do I think the woman on Fear Factor enjoyed any part about eating pig parts? No. But do I think she did it cause she had $50k on the mind? Hell yeah lol. Do YOU love your job and get out of bed every day excited to spend hours working there? No, you do it for money. Just because you can’t see yourself doing something for money doesn’t mean the person next to you can’t or won’t.
(This doesn't even take into account plenty of gay men through time who have sex with women as means of protecting themselves/staying safe in intolerant society/culture they happen to live in, or maybe gay men who have sex with women more than once to truly see if they do or don't like it. Some people just know, some people don't, there's no right/wrong way to know and no one is elite in their status because of how they came to know)
I do agree though that if at any point a gay man actively enjoys sex with a woman, or a straight man enjoys sex with a man, in my personal view I don't necessarily think they are 100% gay or straight, as attraction and enjoyment are what we all seem to agree are markers of orientation. However, I also fully believe my opinion doesn't mean jack shit, and if some gay guy fucks a woman, actively enjoys it, but still wants to claim he's gay, I'm not about to get up and tell him no because his take on his own sexuality does not affect me, it doesn't dilute anything for me. It has no effect, so there's no reason to get up in arms about it.
3. Gay men having sex with trans men is gay sex, straight men having sex with trans women is straight sex:
A gay top fucks a cis man in the ass, a gay top fucks a trans man in the vagina, the gay man is fucking a hole in both scenarios.
"Well it's different because of the genitalia!!!"
-you as a human are attracted to features as a whole, not just a cock - if that was the case, you as a gay man would be attracted to trans women, as some still have their dicks, yet I think every gay man in here would say they're not attracted to trans women. I don’t typically like facial hair on guys, yet it’s natural for them, it grows, it’s what their body has, but I don’t always like it, my sexuality doesn’t change because of liking or not liking one specific feature ON A GUY
-likening it to conversion therapy is WILD. No one can be converted just like straight men who do gay porn don't magically turn gay.