again I appreciate your time and advice, I really do. For me it’s like, If you already know you’re that kind of person, and this is in general to anybody who thinks that way, then why not just stay single OR if you’re gonna begin a relationship with someone tell them from the start, hey this is the kind of person that I am, I want to be in an open relationship, are you comfortable with that? Because I think being in a threesome is an action based on lust and/or to fulfill a desire nothing else. But if you’re trying to have a repeat of that action it comes an open relationship. My partner seems to want to have an open relationship and I’ve heard many scary stories of couples doing that and then shortly after breaking up or separating.
How long have the 2 of you been together?
When you get together with a person, there is an incredible amount of aspects where you can be compatible with them or not, and you go on finding out these aspects with time. Being monogamous or not is only one of these aspects, and has a different importance for different people.
You will never have 100% compatibility with someone: for example, it can happen months into the relationship that you realise you’re much more of a party person, while your partner have been trying to accommodate your party life and be a supporter/party buddy… and then they realised they are just not happy when they party.
Why didn’t they tell you before? Maybe they didn’t know this about themselves, they thought they could handle it but it turns out that they really can’t, or they simply didn’t make a big deal out of it up to now. And yet it is a difference, which significantly affects one thing of your life you really carr
Same with the open relationship: maybe they decided to give monogamy a try, and it worked up to now but now they’re starting to feel the desire for threesomes? Maybe it’s not such a big deal for them?
You should talk, express your concerns, make sure you listen and you feel listened, and find a middle ground that makes both of you happy, which is how relationships work.
P.S.: if you’re worried that they might fall in love with someone else while having casual sex in threesomes… don’t worry, they can fall in love during grocery shopping too! With that hot cashier from aisle 4