Put something up my ass and am boy crazy now.

[Infernal]

Go for it. Be safe and don't do anything you don't want to. Taking cock doesn't make you submissive or mean you're giving up control. You can get a guy to lie down and sit on him. You control how fast and deep he goes. A bottom can be very much in charge of the situation provided you approach it the right way. If you don't want to give up control, then don't.

 

[WilliamG]

Go for it. Be safe and don't do anything you don't want to. Taking cock doesn't make you submissive or mean you're giving up control. You can get a guy to lie down and sit on him. You control how fast and deep he goes. A bottom can be very much in charge of the situation provided you approach it the right way. If you don't want to give up control, then don't.

This right here ^^^
You sit on him first. You control the situation.

 

[PurrBerry]

I had my gay awakening this week and I am losing my shit. I'm 21. My whole life I’ve been “straight” (dated 6 girls, fucked 4/6 of them) but I always knew I wasn’t 100% (felt attracted here and there). To make a long story short, I saw a meme about ass play on TikTok and couldn’t get the idea out of my head for a whole week. I tried hard to ignore the thoughts and felt ashamed for actually contemplating the idea. Kept telling myself “I’m not a bitch” and “I fuck, I don’t get fucked,” remorsefully some thoughts homophobic. But my sex life sucks, so eventually I swallowed my pride. Super fucking embarrassed and feeling less like a man, I lubed up my asshole as if I would a girl, laid face down with a pillow underneath my hips, and basically fucked myself with a household object. Life changed. All I can think about now is dick and getting fucked. I’m like a total bitch now. Interacting with dudes is now a challenge. Tried making small talk with a tall guy at the gym and noticed he had a big dick (his sweatpants). Big mistake. Got nervous, weak in the knees, my face got red. I was like a girl in heat, it was fucking embarrassing. If you think this post is fake or a joke it’s 1,000% not. My questions are, is this a fetish that will pass? And is Grindr safe? I am dying to get fucked but Grindr scares me. 1. I’ve never not been in control during sex. And 2. Sure, I fucked myself but a guy thrusting into me is a different story. How can I make sure he goes slow? How can I make sure he stops when I ask him to?

Maybe try to meet up with a guy in a gay bar and suck him off or don’t. Fine a guy you can trust and try anal with protection and lube of course.

 

[jjprodriv]

I had my gay awakening this week and I am losing my shit. I'm 21. My whole life I’ve been “straight” (dated 6 girls, fucked 4/6 of them) but I always knew I wasn’t 100% (felt attracted here and there). To make a long story short, I saw a meme about ass play on TikTok and couldn’t get the idea out of my head for a whole week. I tried hard to ignore the thoughts and felt ashamed for actually contemplating the idea. Kept telling myself “I’m not a bitch” and “I fuck, I don’t get fucked,” remorsefully some thoughts homophobic. But my sex life sucks, so eventually I swallowed my pride. Super fucking embarrassed and feeling less like a man, I lubed up my asshole as if I would a girl, laid face down with a pillow underneath my hips, and basically fucked myself with a household object. Life changed. All I can think about now is dick and getting fucked. I’m like a total bitch now. Interacting with dudes is now a challenge. Tried making small talk with a tall guy at the gym and noticed he had a big dick (his sweatpants). Big mistake. Got nervous, weak in the knees, my face got red. I was like a girl in heat, it was fucking embarrassing. If you think this post is fake or a joke it’s 1,000% not. My questions are, is this a fetish that will pass? And is Grindr safe? I am dying to get fucked but Grindr scares me. 1. I’ve never not been in control during sex. And 2. Sure, I fucked myself but a guy thrusting into me is a different story. How can I make sure he goes slow? How can I make sure he stops when I ask him to?

I can train you overcome the fear and mentor you to be a good bottom. I will give you tasks and you can follow with all trust, considering that I will respect your boundaries and will motivate you to lose fear so when the moment comes, you can take a big dick like a champion.
Wanna do it?

 

[CreamEggOmlette]

I think a lot of these responses are "jumping the gun" here. You played with exactly 1 makeshift toy and you realized that your life could be very different in the future. Congrats, you get to know yourself better and have fun doing it.

I would suggest getting a toy first and play with it. Something small, maybe the size of the household object or a bit bigger. I suggest a sex shop so you can see it before buying, but if that is too much for you, there are a ton of online sex shops that ship. Mr. S Leather is great, if a bit pricey.

Once you get it, use it. It will help you learn to relax and get to know what feels good for you. Also, please stop using household objects for anal play. It carries a ton of risks and should never be done.

Once you decide real dick is the next thing, the apps will beckon. I was a "hungry/power bottom" and used to go looking for cock to ride on the daily. These are the apps/sites I used, but your millage may vary:

1. Growlr -- For hairy, chubby, or bigger men and the guys who like them. This is an app dedicated to "bears" in the gay community. Be they hairy, chubby, muscled, or all that and more. I got a lot of dick off Growlr.
2. barebackrt.com aka BBRT -- This is not a relationship site. This is not a hookup site. This is a fuck site. You get on, find a guy, get off. A wide variety of men on there. Tons of action but then I moved states and nothing since.
3. Scruff -- Like Growlr, but more focused on the "hairy and muscled" crowd. Met some guys off there, but action was sparse.
4. Grindr -- Never got any play on there at all, but I have heard horror stories. It's the most well known and therefore attracts the most attention from those outside the community.
5. Sniffies -- New on the scene and has made a big impact. Mostly like Grindr, but you can see guys on the map closest to you. Gotten some play, but not a lot.

When dealing with any partner, communication is key. Talk to the guy. You don't have to say "This is my first time, please go slow." Tell the guy that "it's been a while and I need to be opened up". This sets his expectations.

Talk to the guy while fucking. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Try different positions. I hate being fucked doggie and love being fucked on my back (it's a visual thing). Sex is supposed to be fun and you are learning what makes you feel good. Play!

Also, gay men are not straight men. I find that most of us know what it's like to be on the bottom and are willing to work together to make everyone happy. If a guy starts being an asshole, get rid of him.

The reaction to the guy in the gym is pretty typical. I am socially awkward AF and would not have even gotten that far.

Hope it helps and hope you have fun.

 

[giselle.xoxo]

I think a lot of these responses are "jumping the gun" here. You played with exactly 1 makeshift toy and you realized that your life could be very different in the future. Congrats, you get to know yourself better and have fun doing it.

I would suggest getting a toy first and play with it. Something small, maybe the size of the household object or a bit bigger. I suggest a sex shop so you can see it before buying, but if that is too much for you, there are a ton of online sex shops that ship. Mr. S Leather is great, if a bit pricey.

Once you get it, use it. It will help you learn to relax and get to know what feels good for you. Also, please stop using household objects for anal play. It carries a ton of risks and should never be done.

Once you decide real dick is the next thing, the apps will beckon. I was a "hungry/power bottom" and used to go looking for cock to ride on the daily. These are the apps/sites I used, but your millage may vary:

1. Growlr -- For hairy, chubby, or bigger men and the guys who like them. This is an app dedicated to "bears" in the gay community. Be they hairy, chubby, muscled, or all that and more. I got a lot of dick off Growlr.
2. barebackrt.com aka BBRT -- This is not a relationship site. This is not a hookup site. This is a fuck site. You get on, find a guy, get off. A wide variety of men on there. Tons of action but then I moved states and nothing since.
3. Scruff -- Like Growlr, but more focused on the "hairy and muscled" crowd. Met some guys off there, but action was sparse.
4. Grindr -- Never got any play on there at all, but I have heard horror stories. It's the most well known and therefore attracts the most attention from those outside the community.
5. Sniffies -- New on the scene and has made a big impact. Mostly like Grindr, but you can see guys on the map closest to you. Gotten some play, but not a lot.

When dealing with any partner, communication is key. Talk to the guy. You don't have to say "This is my first time, please go slow." Tell the guy that "it's been a while and I need to be opened up". This sets his expectations.

Talk to the guy while fucking. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Try different positions. I hate being fucked doggie and love being fucked on my back (it's a visual thing). Sex is supposed to be fun and you are learning what makes you feel good. Play!

Also, gay men are not straight men. I find that most of us know what it's like to be on the bottom and are willing to work together to make everyone happy. If a guy starts being an asshole, get rid of him.

The reaction to the guy in the gym is pretty typical. I am socially awkward AF and would not have even gotten that far.

Hope it helps and hope you have fun.

This!

Just add Jackd to the list.