I'd love to know where the closeted, bi or DL guys meet guys. I know craigslist used to be a big meeting place for guys looking discreetly but with it gone I'm curious to know how you find hookups.
Question for closeted, bi or DL guys.
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I use silverdaddies. I’ve had good luck over the years
It's hard to beat Grindr for the sole number of guys on it, even though you have to navigate through a lot of crap. State clearly what you want, and don't want.
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CL was the all time best, doublelist is worthless in my area. Grindr is about the only thing that works regularly, though not regular enough, I can't host so makes it difficult. Good luck.
Another bi-married guy (like me) suggested www.sniffies.com. I have had some success, but have to wade through a lot of junk. I had never heard of it before he suggested it.
Best Craigslist Alternatives for Adults in 2022 ? I found this list recently. Good luck. Let us know what happens.
I just recently checked out sniffies.com ................. probably from the same thread that you read.
There are many more local enlistments than what I originally thought would be in this area. I live 45 mins southwest of Ottawa in what I believed was strictly redneck territory i.e. pick up trucks, hockey, beer, bar fights and country music.
Hmmmmm..... whodda thunk !!! Even "straight" rednecks like some cock action once in a while.
I use Grindr, Scruff, Adam4adam, and I have a profile on silverdaddies. They are all about the same, a lot of talk and very little action, but even a blind hog will root up a turnip every so often.
For right now, when I'm out running around town or traveling, I use Grindr or Scruff.
For keeping up with my regular fb's and making new connections for later play, Adam4Adam.com is pretty good. I have a small group of buds on A4A that I play with, but mostly it's a lot of the same ol same ol, and you'll see the same faces across all the platforms, with the exception of silverdaddies. I haven't run into anyone on SD that I've seen on another hook--up app or site. On the other hand, I haven't had all that much luck meeting anyone on SD either.
For right now, when I'm out running around town or traveling, I use Grindr or Scruff.
For keeping up with my regular fb's and making new connections for later play, Adam4Adam.com is pretty good. I have a small group of buds on A4A that I play with, but mostly it's a lot of the same ol same ol, and you'll see the same faces across all the platforms, with the exception of silverdaddies. I haven't run into anyone on SD that I've seen on another hook--up app or site. On the other hand, I haven't had all that much luck meeting anyone on SD either.
Have had some, not a lot, of luck on sniffies and doublelist
Curious how you are able to do this secretly. I thought you have to have an app. How do you hide that?
Delete app and reinstall app when u want thats what I do
I am a huge fan of sniffies.com I hooked up with so many hot guys since 2018 there. It takes a little bit of patience but it is definitely worth it
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An openly gay friend of mine uses tagged, there are many men in his inbox who have 'straight' on their profiles but are obviously in the closet, they admit that they're curious or sometimes even gay and think my friend is hot, they just pretend to be straight for whatever reason. Tagged is infamous for it's scammers and fake profiles but most apps are these days.
@KYLPlover I'm married 34 years with 2 grown sons. Although i haven't had intimacy with my wife in many years, i also told myself being with another man was the one thing i wouldn't do, and stuck with it for 25 years until i reached a breaking point. I had been relieving myself plenty jerking off to porn, but the breaking point was not a time of sexual frustration, it was a sort of 'hit me over the head' moment (of a clothing salesman coming on to me full-on in a dressing room) just when i was feeling completely devalued and marginalized at home, by her and our elder son (then a HS junior in the throes of being a typical teenage jerk).
This preface is to say I ended up meeting the first man with whom i had a real personal intimate connection on a Yahoo listserv (chat group) for gay married men as i wrote about my experiences and he wrote back.... followed by meeting my first couple full-on sexual partners on silverdaddies and adam4adam respectively. Then i found scruff and abandoned the other two. (I had also lurked around on OKCupid but ironically never met anyone there). I would say each of the sites has its own personality and you find the one that fits or appeals to you the most... (conversely, craigslist just looked to me like a disease waiting to happen). Scruff is my go-to...and right here for voyeuristic appetite and cross-referencing with another sharing platform which shall remain nameless.
However, i met the man with whom i have the closest relationship the old-fashioned way... introduction through a friend. That friend was a Scruff connection, he had met my love at a bar and invited the two of us over for a lovely dinner which turned into a three-way. The Scruff connection, a single and very eligible physician, ended up finding his own true love, but he remains a friend... my love is another married man with whom i have very much else in common.
Of the guys i've gotten to know (in the biblical sense) over the last 10 years, six remain people i stay in contact with.
This preface is to say I ended up meeting the first man with whom i had a real personal intimate connection on a Yahoo listserv (chat group) for gay married men as i wrote about my experiences and he wrote back.... followed by meeting my first couple full-on sexual partners on silverdaddies and adam4adam respectively. Then i found scruff and abandoned the other two. (I had also lurked around on OKCupid but ironically never met anyone there). I would say each of the sites has its own personality and you find the one that fits or appeals to you the most... (conversely, craigslist just looked to me like a disease waiting to happen). Scruff is my go-to...and right here for voyeuristic appetite and cross-referencing with another sharing platform which shall remain nameless.
However, i met the man with whom i have the closest relationship the old-fashioned way... introduction through a friend. That friend was a Scruff connection, he had met my love at a bar and invited the two of us over for a lovely dinner which turned into a three-way. The Scruff connection, a single and very eligible physician, ended up finding his own true love, but he remains a friend... my love is another married man with whom i have very much else in common.
Of the guys i've gotten to know (in the biblical sense) over the last 10 years, six remain people i stay in contact with.
How do you create a Grindr profile without using your Apple ID. Especially if you want to keep on down low..? Also, if you are using Grindr on your personal phone is there any way your contacts could ever know?
can't answer you on that but i can tell you i created two profiles (a real-me, and the DL me) on another messaging/sharing app and made the mistake of entering my mobile number in both profiles.. when i used an image of a cock that really turns me on as my avi on the DL, the image got transposed to my real-me profile, resulting in a friend warning me she thought i'd been hacked (i think she was being exceptionally gracious).
I then replaced the mobile number with my Google voice # on the DL profile and think things are ok now. I would tread lightly til i knew everything was functioning properly.