Question(s) for the Masculine Gay/Bi Men

[Urien]

A question/discussion for the masculine gay/bi men (real masculine not just in terms of looks but emotional/psychological qualities you know who you are).

Do femme men turn you off and how much do they turn you off? Are you okay with just sleeping with them or would you be open to be in a relationship. I'd really like to hear your opinions.

To begin, let us define femme men in this context.

Possible Checklist -

- "Gay voice"
- Effeminate/"gay" talking manner (may include hand gestures. Expressive/animated face.
- Dressy or even eccentric fashion sense. May dress in women's clothes (but not cross dress).
- May wear "men's make up".
- More Sensitive/Emotional/hysterical than the average male. Not stoic.
- May cross dress on occasion or events (Full on transvestite as a sexual fetish or for fun, not because they are trans).
- Smooth?

Extreme example (if you don't know who this is, shame on you):

I'm only listing the qualities above that I've seen/heard to be consistently a turn off. Notice that these qualities have no bearing on their actual physical attractiveness, so for the sake of this poll imagine the femme man in question is physically your type.

I've also excluded all the GOOD feminine qualities that come with being femme, like being more caring, nurturing, and empathic. Since none of these are immediately evident.

So where do you stand on this? You meet or see a person and they are your type, they draw you closer and soon you realize they are a femme man. What's next?

 

[Sturdywords]

I'm a masculine gay top man and I like quite a wide range of guys, including those who are fem. The voice and mannerisms can be attractive in an almost seductive way, but makeup and jewellery is a turn off.

 

[gcs2718]

I'm mainly into masculine men but I've been with a few effeminate types and as long as I get to blow them, it's okay. Any cock in a storm...

 

[Brodie888]

I am gay, I am attracted to men with masculine characteristics.

Being a masculine acting/appearing sub bottom also narrows the field to those who can dominate me.

Not to say that there is anything wrong with any other part of the gay spectrum. To each their own. Everyone has their niche. It's just who I am and what turns me on.

 

[ActionBuddy]

Generally, I am not sexually attracted to effeminate men, but I am in admiration of them for being their true selves.
The world is a better and safer place with them amongst us, as it is with accepting and admiring the butchest bull-dykes.

I love them all... Vive la difference!

A/B

 

[Boaxy]

Okay first of all, Nathan Lane isn't feminine at all. He's what you call an actor, and the picture you used he played a very campy/flamboyant/cross dressing character as Robin Williams partner in "The Birdcage". In real life, he's the total opposite of that. I'd say as far as Gay men are concerned, he's pretty Masculine/low key.

Also, "Feminine" has a lot of different levels, and do you mean feminine like this.

Or like this

Or like this?

Or all three, or pick and mix or dib and dab between the three? Idk lol.

I wish there was an option for "I'm not attracted to feminine guys, but they are awesome." Instead of it making it seem like "Eww, feminine guys." etc.

Because I'm a Gay Black feminine man myself. So of course I don't hate feminine guys, I am one. I tend to like more burly/bear/rugged/nerdy/dorky/haggard type guys etc. No I'm not attracted to feminine guys, but some of the best, fierce, most awesome guys in the gay community, are feminine guys, so I of course support them and would always support them no matter what. So yeah.

 

[just rodger]

I really like effeminate gay guys. The type who are always dressed nice, not a hair out of place, slim, smooth body, very clean, flirty, bitchy . They are great bottoms and enjoy it.

 

[malakos]

Or like this?

What set of features are you seeing that would qualify femininity here?

 

[Boaxy]

What set of features are you seeing that would qualify femininity here?

For some reason LPSG ruined the quality on that one, so in the end it turned out to be a really bad picture lol, (and you can't edit/alter posts after a few minutes have passed on LPSG so oh well etc.) but that's Troy Sivan. He's I guess somewhat a popular celebrity, and he's very much from his attitude/mannerisms etc. flamboyantly gay/feminine. It's almost like he's doing a fusion of masculine/feminine traits, with the mustache, yet you see the jewelry/chokers, he just looks really fruity in that picture, no offense to Troy Sivan I like his music but yeah lol. Yet his feminine isn't over the top like Jeffree Star and James Charles, who were the other two examples, but he's still in the feminine category etc. My point was, the term "Feminine" is convoluted in this community.

Some people think if a guy is female passing, (Picture #1/Jeffree Star etc; long hair, makeup, drag queen etc.) he's feminine. Some people think if he's more twinkish (Picture #2/James Charles etc;campy/queenly etc.) He's feminine.

Then there are some people who are more strict/their idea of "Feminine" is more expansive, and feminine is basically guys who have fruity voices, who look sweet/soft, timid, frail etc. maybe gothy/alternative/punkish etc. So yeah. Which is why I used that third picture of Troy Sivan etc.

Some guys like I said before, even think it's all three, or believe somewhat in all three etc.

So yeah.