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Phil McCrackin
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That's called denial.
Why is it denial if he’s telling you in his own words?
As strange as his comment seems to be, I kind of get where he's coming from.
Through my own experiences with men and life overall, I've come to believe that sexuality and sex are two very different things (I know it's a common truth, but most feel differently).
One can have sex with someone of the same gender and even enjoy the experience, but that doesn't necessarily make them homosexual. Attraction and intimacy begin in the brain, and not our genitals. Try to imagine things from the point of view of someone who considers themselves asexual and homosexual. Sex rarely -- if ever -- comes into play, but due to their attraction and intimate connection to their same-sex partner, they consider themselves to be homosexual.
And really, it's not up to anyone outside of the two or more people in that intimate space to name or identify who another person is.
Is his take a bit strange because of the wording? Sure, I'll give you that -- but if he likes to fuck dudes and still considers himself heterosexual? That's his choice and no one else's. As long as the dudes he's banging don't mind, why should anyone?
My apologies for the long-winded thought, but I couldn't help myself from sharing. I hope these words are taken with respect and understanding.
Identity and orientation are not the same. Anyone can choose to identify as whatever they want really. There are gay men on this very site who admit they are attracted to women somewhat and enjoy sex with women and they still identify as gay, rather than bi. I don't see Curtis here as any different. People are emotional beings not rational ones.
We often choose labels and identities that feel better to us based on various things. You don't have to agree with it but it isn't necessarily denial, he is literally being honest about enjoying it lol, that is more honest than plenty of his peers I suspect, who would never admit such. That would be actual denial.
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I agree with this. Having watched the documentary, I found Curtis' perspective about his work at Sean Cody to be the most refreshing and honest. It's clear that he genuinely enjoys the sex, but feels a romantic/intimate connection with women. That honestly shouldn't be too hard to wrap one's head around.
On the other hand, Dean seemed in denial to me.
Exactly. There are loads and I mean loads of men who fit into this category. Some I've met IRL and there are plenty of them right here on good old lpsg who will gladly explain in detail their attractions if you ask them. They run the range of identification as well, heteroflexible, hetero-romantic bisexual, pansexual or just straight. Its all semantics at the end of the day, sexuality is simple for some but others it isn't that cut and dry and isn't easy to put into a box. Just let people identify however they want I say.
sexual identity that doesn't match up to what your dick is telling you I THINK has a lot to do with how that person wants to be seen by others...
maybe he's religious, maybe his family/community isn't accepting, maybe he enjoys the social hierarchy that being "straight" provides... maybe he doesn't see himself being in a romantic relationship with a guy because his surroundings inform him that that's not a thing that's acceptable...
maybe he's religious, maybe his family/community isn't accepting, maybe he enjoys the social hierarchy that being "straight" provides... maybe he doesn't see himself being in a romantic relationship with a guy because his surroundings inform him that that's not a thing that's acceptable...
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yeah, that's mine. and ima stick beside him... ima stick beside him
harvey kinkle
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Is he really 28? I thought he would be older
