Self-conscious of my size in the pool showers

[mmmniple]

I have keloid scars on my chest and I was self conscious about the lockerroom too. I still hold my towel and body wash over my chest when walking to the showers (cubicles) but I have also stood completely naked at my locker while putting on lotion, deodorant and cologne. I agree with everyone else. Nobody really cares. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

They are a few natural things for reducing the keloid scars : lemon, aloe Vera..
I understand what is this feeling of self conscious : we tend on focus on the are we feel ashamed and we think the rest does when it is on our mind: people doesn't care. (and in case they are one of these kind of ### people who loves hurts others for feeling better himself, the best is ignore

 

[mmmniple]

Hey guys! Thanks for all the advice and kind words. I haven't started to swim yet, mostly because of what's on this thread. However, I've given thought of what you said, specially the one that told me it's a cicle where I'll just be embarassed at the beginning until I get better with my body and whatnot. Also to the guy that told me to bathe in underwear, I think I'm gonna be following your advice specifically.

I get that most likely nobody will notice I'm there, but that's just not how my brain works. Also having long hair, which will make it so I have to spend more time in the shower, doesn't really help that thought.

I'll try to start to swim next month, since paying november fully when it's almost done sounds dumb. I'll be sure to comeback and read what you said when december starts as a motivation and so I get the balls to do it. I'll also come back and let you know if I finally do it.

Overall, thanks!

Have a lot of fun swimming and simply enjoy.
An advice, because you put "I get the balls" which I have no doubt but the best is no think about and do it (as kids do).
If you see this as something to fight, it will be harder.
I remember the first time I went a public swimming pool, I had fears about be naked when change the clothes and if I took a shower (which is the best, why wait until arrive at home?).

I simply enter and I don't remember why I was thinking on something which had happened recently. When I was conscious I was ending to put the bath clothes full naked in front of toon if people. I was surprised how easy it was and later I feel natural to be naked to go shower and I showered without any issue

We only have a body and we must enjoy it and no feel ashamed (I know it is very easy to say but difficult to make)

 

[BigMacattack]

They are a few natural things for reducing the keloid scars : lemon, aloe Vera..
I understand what is this feeling of self conscious : we tend on focus on the are we feel ashamed and we think the rest does when it is on our mind: people doesn't care. (and in case they are one of these kind of ### people who loves hurts others for feeling better himself, the best is ignore

Thanks for the suggestions on the scars. I will have to try those out.

 

[mmmniple]

Thanks for the suggestions on the scars. I will have to try those out.

It is on Spanish, if you want I can translate.

Cómo quitar cicatrices queloides de forma natural: el secreto está en tu propia casa

I had already listen about the two first several times

 

[auncut10in]

I do have some advice to give you. Hope it is helpful. First of all, I want to share a quote by the rapper Nelly who has a really amazing body. He was on the cover of Mens Health years ago. In the interview, he said something that has always stuck with me. He said "Your body is the gift you give yourself". I love that perspective. I also think it is totally true. I admire your desire to give yourself a more healthy body. It is the only one we have. And I think finding the sport that you enjoy the most to accomplish your goals is really brilliant. You are more likely to continue on with your efforts if you enjoy the process.

Now about being afraid of showing your body. I worked out at a one gym for several years until I moved. There was this guy who was overweight and had a little button of a penis. Really just the head of his penis showed. Our schedules seemed to match because I saw him just about every time I worked out. He was very friendly to everyone. Never afraid to walk up to someone and make them feel welcomed in the locker room. I don't remember if I ever saw him walking around in a towel. He was just always out there. I admired this guy so much. He had such confidence in who he was. He knew he wasn't a perfect adonis kind of guy, but he had this confidence that was way more sexy than a lot of other guys that had much better bodies and bigger dicks.

I know what some of you might be thinking. Yeah, easy for me to say, i have a dick that would make any guy confident. And yeah, that is probably true. But I did nothing to earn that dick. This guy earned every bit of his confidence just being himself. So which one of us had the most courage and the most to be admired.

Good luck. We are all rooting for your success.

 

[Elki]

I do have some advice to give you. Hope it is helpful. First of all, I want to share a quote by the rapper Nelly who has a really amazing body. He was on the cover of Mens Health years ago. In the interview, he said something that has always stuck with me. He said "Your body is the gift you give yourself". I love that perspective. I also think it is totally true. I admire your desire to give yourself a more healthy body. It is the only one we have. And I think finding the sport that you enjoy the most to accomplish your goals is really brilliant. You are more likely to continue on with your efforts if you enjoy the process.

Now about being afraid of showing your body. I worked out at a one gym for several years until I moved. There was this guy who was overweight and had a little button of a penis. Really just the head of his penis showed. Our schedules seemed to match because I saw him just about every time I worked out. He was very friendly to everyone. Never afraid to walk up to someone and make them feel welcomed in the locker room. I don't remember if I ever saw him walking around in a towel. He was just always out there. I admired this guy so much. He had such confidence in who he was. He knew he wasn't a perfect adonis kind of guy, but he had this confidence that was way more sexy than a lot of other guys that had much better bodies and bigger dicks.

I know what some of you might be thinking. Yeah, easy for me to say, i have a dick that would make any guy confident. And yeah, that is probably true. But I did nothing to earn that dick. This guy earned every bit of his confidence just being himself. So which one of us had the most courage and the most to be admired.

Good luck. We are all rooting for your success.

Thanks, that's a great quote too.

I hope that with swimming and the psychology sessions I'll first get the confidence to show my body like the guy you mentioned did, then have a nice one that I would like to simply show

 

[TimWalksFunny]

Undersized guys are self-conscious about their size, and I'm self-conscious, embarrassed about being oversized. I haven't been to a pool, or gym, in many years, decades.

I have not been to a gym since I was required to do a physical fitness class. The instructors eventually had me get excused for the medical reason that I had to avoid injuries such as testicular torsion, strained, or bruised penis, (and other issues I don't remember right now) due to having oversized genitalia. (I got thrown out of gym class because my dick and balls are too big.)

Around age 20/21 I was invited to a friend's pool party. I didn't know there would be so many strangers when I arrived. When I stepped into the pool area there were small groups of people having various conversations. Suddenly conversations stopped while everyone caught sight of my bulge and stared. After a few seconds they went back to their conversations. Sometime later, as I was standing there, looking around, I looked downward. There was a guy sitting in a lawn chair, which made him close to being eye level with my crotch. He was staring at my crotch. I was going to look away so that if he looks up he wouldn't see that I noticed, but "oops" he looked up and we made eye contact. He was pretty cool by making a joke to admit he was looking. He pointed at my penis bulge and said, "Watch where you swing that thing, you might put my eye out." I laughed a little and joked, "I'll try to be careful."
When my buddy wanted to go to the county pool, I figured it wouldn't be too crowded because the off-season had started, it was the last days the pool would be open, and the weather wasn't very hot. There were more people than I expected. There was a group of 4 college girls, sitting together. When they caught sight of the bulge they reacted with squeals and "Oh My God, Oh my God, Oh My God!" while covering their eyes with their hands and peeking between their fingers and laughing. Guys were exclaiming, "Holy Shit!" and "Jesus Christ!" and other expletives while staring, bug-eyed, at my crotch. While I was rinsing off in the shower room. Only one other guy was there. He stared a little, then as he walked behind me to leave, he muttered, "Wow!" as he passed. I was willing to go again a week later. I otherwise liked being at the pool. I wore baggy shorts over my swimwear to make things look, (how should I say it,) less bulbous. There is a sign that says shorts are not permitted as swimwear. I figured I'd take the shorts off if they complain. The employees looked at me, definitely recognized me from the week before, and didn't say anything, I think they knew I was trying to be as discreet as possible.
So I don't want to go to any place where I'm on more "display" than usual.

 

[Elki]

Undersized guys are self-conscious about their size, and I'm self-conscious, embarrassed about being oversized. I haven't been to a pool, or gym, in many years, decades.

I have not been to a gym since I was required to do a physical fitness class. The instructors eventually had me get excused for the medical reason that I had to avoid injuries such as testicular torsion, strained, or bruised penis, (and other issues I don't remember right now) due to having oversized genitalia. (I got thrown out of gym class because my dick and balls are too big.)

Around age 20/21 I was invited to a friend's pool party. I didn't know there would be so many strangers when I arrived. When I stepped into the pool area there were small groups of people having various conversations. Suddenly conversations stopped while everyone caught sight of my bulge and stared. After a few seconds they went back to their conversations. Sometime later, as I was standing there, looking around, I looked downward. There was a guy sitting in a lawn chair, which made him close to being eye level with my crotch. He was staring at my crotch. I was going to look away so that if he looks up he wouldn't see that I noticed, but "oops" he looked up and we made eye contact. He was pretty cool by making a joke to admit he was looking. He pointed at my penis bulge and said, "Watch where you swing that thing, you might put my eye out." I laughed a little and joked, "I'll try to be careful."
When my buddy wanted to go to the county pool, I figured it wouldn't be too crowded because the off-season had started, it was the last days the pool would be open, and the weather wasn't very hot. There were more people than I expected. There was a group of 4 college girls, sitting together. When they caught sight of the bulge they reacted with squeals and "Oh My God, Oh my God, Oh My God!" while covering their eyes with their hands and peeking between their fingers and laughing. Guys were exclaiming, "Holy Shit!" and "Jesus Christ!" and other expletives while staring, bug-eyed, at my crotch. While I was rinsing off in the shower room. Only one other guy was there. He stared a little, then as he walked behind me to leave, he muttered, "Wow!" as he passed. I was willing to go again a week later. I otherwise liked being at the pool. I wore baggy shorts over my swimwear to make things look, (how should I say it,) less bulbous. There is a sign that says shorts are not permitted as swimwear. I figured I'd take the shorts off if they complain. The employees looked at me, definitely recognized me from the week before, and didn't say anything, I think they knew I was trying to be as discreet as possible.
So I don't want to go to any place where I'm on more "display" than usual.

That sucks I guess, I mean is an issue I don't have so only you have the experience of it. I empathize with the fact that you feel some sort of embarassment in public due to your penis size, I guess that luckily for me my size isn't really such a public issue since it is only noticeable when naked, must be pretty shitty that not even underpants can hide yours.

Is it ok for me to ask the size of it? You can tell me in private if you want. Also, isn't there a way to fix it, maybe with surgery? Like some sort of reverse penis enlargement surgery I guess.

 

[BigMacattack]

I have keloid scars on my chest and I was self conscious about the lockerroom too. I still hold my towel and body wash over my chest when walking to the showers (cubicles) but I have also stood completely naked at my locker while putting on lotion, deodorant and cologne. I agree with everyone else. Nobody really cares. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

The light was out in the sauna so the only light was coming from the shower room. There were a couple of guys in the sauna and I decided not to cover my chest. Nothing was said and nobody was staring. A small step for me to feel more comfortable with my body..scars and all. It actually felt great not covering my chest. I was more relaxed.

 

[Elki]

The light was out in the sauna so the only light was coming from the shower room. There were a couple of guys in the sauna and I decided not to cover my chest. Nothing was said and nobody was staring. A small step for me to feel more comfortable with my body..scars and all. It actually felt great not covering my chest. I was more relaxed.

That's amazing! I'm really happy that you were able to feel comfortable in that situation, I hope you are too! Please know that it feels as an inspiration and something to hope to achieve for me, so thanks for sharing and I hope you keep doing it and letting me/us know

 

[TimWalksFunny]

..... Also, isn't there a way to fix it, maybe with surgery? Like some sort of reverse penis enlargement surgery, I guess.

Years ago, just for the heck of it, I investigated into the possibility of there being penis reduction surgery. There is.
To reduce thickness, or girth, and keep a natural shape to the side of the penis, they make lengthwise cuts into the cavernosa tissue to take out thin strips and piece the remaining tissue together. I don't remember what they said they did to shorten the penis. Maybe I don't want to remember (haha).
They don't perform the surgery unless the guy is in a committed relationship, such as marriage, and that his partner accepts the possibility that the result of the surgery might be a deformed, disfigured, poorly functioning, penis, and promises to not leave the relationship because of it.

 

[Elki]

Years ago, just for the heck of it, I investigated into the possibility of there being penis reduction surgery. There is.
To reduce thickness, or girth, and keep a natural shape to the side of the penis, they make lengthwise cuts into the cavernosa tissue to take out thin strips and piece the remaining tissue together. I don't remember what they said they did to shorten the penis. Maybe I don't want to remember (haha).
They don't perform the surgery unless the guy is in a committed relationship, such as marriage, and that his partner accepts the possibility that the result of the surgery might be a deformed, disfigured, poorly functioning, penis, and promises to not leave the relationship because of it.

Oh wow, what kind of condition is that? Sounds really stupid. Would you do it?

 

[TimWalksFunny]

Oh wow, what kind of condition is that? Sounds really stupid. Would you do it?

I don't want to risk the pain and any other negative consequences. I'm a 50-year-old virgin and at this point am willing to stay a virgin. I don't need to spend the rest of my life with a butchered penis.

 

[Elki]

I don't want to risk the pain and any other negative consequences. I'm a 50-year-old virgin and at this point am willing to stay a virgin. I don't need to spend the rest of my life with a butchered penis.

Well, I'm glad you're able to find peace within the bad. Wish you the best of luck!