Sex Tips For A Top

[geoffus21]

Hi,

Long time lurker.

Just embarked upon an open relationship after several years together. I wasn't very experienced before and mainly top. Met a guy that I really like, definitely going to have sex, but he's a lot more experienced and has been with many many guys. I do really like him and it doesn't bother me that much but he seems to be quite judgemental about some old liasons.

I was hoping to get any tips you had for being an awesome top, I get most of my pleasure from seeing their pleasure so really want to give him an outstanding experience that he would want again and again because I defnitely want that.

So, with that in mind, what tips do you have? Bottoms, how do you like to be topped? Tops what's worked for you?

A very grateful man x

 

[lightining]

As a bottom my joy cums from me submitting my self and providing pleasure for my top, I make sure that he has a great experience

 

[fournineteenfiftynine]

To me a great top is someone who can stay hard in different positions. I like to ride best and I've found that some guys can't stay hard in that position. While I also just like getting fucked, my favorite position is to hop on top and ride while I also beat off and play with my very sensitive nipples. So hard cock hitting my insides, me rubbing my cock and nipples gets me going on "all cylinders" as I like to say. Whereas if I'm being fucked either on the side, from behind, or in missionary it is cool and very enjoyable, I cum when riding.

 

[OKCLane]

I’m sorry but I can’t get beyond the fact that he seems quite judgmental according to you.
Sounds like you have an impossible task ahead.
That said, each bottom is unique in what he wants. You have to be in tune with your partner to give him what he wants. Ask questions and pay attention.

 

[51arledge]

I’m sorry but I can’t get beyond the fact that he seems quite judgmental according to you.
Sounds like you have an impossible task ahead.
That said, each bottom is unique in what he wants. You have to be in tune with your partner to give him what he wants. Ask questions and pay attention.

This.
But most importantly, communicate. Ask what he likes. Ask if he wants another position. Ask if you have rimmed him enough to loosen him up. Etc.

 

[LICNYCgay]

I like a top who puts my pleasure above his own. However the reverse is also true. As a bottom I put my top guy's pleasure above my own as well. IMHO, sex works best when both partners are more concerned with pleasuring the other than taking pleasure for themselves. In my experience, this attitude heightens the pleasure of both.

 

[BBB2.5]

I've been on here a long time. Total bottom... There is plenty of information one can find with some research. With that said, for me personally, and what others that have posted here and there on LPSG... The one thing that comes to mind to your question " What makes a Good Top".... You need to know that most bottoms get their pleasure from getting fucked. Otherwise we would not be bottoms.... Right? Focus your attention to your task at hand. Fucking them the best you can. Many top guy's feel like they are not satisfying their bottoms if they don't get an erection while getting fucked. Some bottom guys cannot get an erection during this sexaul act. The most important thing to remember is that a lot of bottom guys DO NOT have to have an orgasm to be 100% satisfied. Their pleasure is received from getting fucked with a good connection.

 

[my_ass2]

As a bottom , I get my pleasure first mentally when I feel that I’m used by my top for his pleasure. When I see on his eyes how much he enjoys fucking my hole. and when it comes to physical pleasure , I enjoy long fuck sessions , spanking my ass cheeks , changing positions, and Finally cumming in my ass

 

[CandyAssCockSucker]

Take your time, and don't be in a hurry to get things done. Engage in a lot of mutual foreplay, and find out his hot spots. If done with patience and sincerity, he will practically beg you to take him. Let him know, too, how much you want him... and encourage him to relax and give himself to you fully. Then, fuck him until he cums. Then your turn. So yum.

 

[Beanie]

Take your time, and don't be in a hurry to get things done. Engage in a lot of mutual foreplay, and find out his hot spots. If done with patience and sincerity, he will practically beg you to take him. Let him know, too, how much you want him... and encourage him to relax and give himself to you fully. Then, fuck him until he cums. Then your turn. So yum.

This just made me hard!

 

[ravenx]

As a selfish total top I only think about my pleasure when I’m fucking him and will keep him in whatever position feels good for me even if it’s worse for him, etc. There are certain limits to this of course. I don’t want to fuck him so hard that he taps out as that wouldn’t feel good for me or him, so if I sense he’s getting a bit overwhelmed then I dial it back a bit.

But I make sure he knows that his boypussy is there for my use and pleasure and that seems to make him more receptive to harder fucking.

 

[hairybubblebum]

Talk dirty, tease your bottom, take your time, make him beg. Finish him off in what ever way he likes.

After getting destroyed I like to lay back and cum in my tops mouth.

 

[CandyAssCockSucker]

As a selfish total top I only think about my pleasure when I’m fucking him and will keep him in whatever position feels good for me even if it’s worse for him, etc. There are certain limits to this of course. I don’t want to fuck him so hard that he taps out as that wouldn’t feel good for me or him, so if I sense he’s getting a bit overwhelmed then I dial it back a bit.

But I make sure he knows that his boypussy is there for my use and pleasure and that seems to make him more receptive to harder fucking.

I agree that bottom guys like me should go out of our way to please tops like you. Whatever position works for you also works for me... although you could fuck me as hard as you want. I wouldn't tap out. My boy pussy would always be available for your you use and pleasure. 24/7, 365. You're so fucking sexy.

 

[LICNYCgay]

As a selfish total top I only think about my pleasure when I’m fucking him and will keep him in whatever position feels good for me even if it’s worse for him, etc. There are certain limits to this of course. I don’t want to fuck him so hard that he taps out as that wouldn’t feel good for me or him, so if I sense he’s getting a bit overwhelmed then I dial it back a bit.

But I make sure he knows that his boypussy is there for my use and pleasure and that seems to make him more receptive to harder fucking.

I think that’s a horrible attitude to have and I’m glad I never had the displeasure of being topped by you.

 

[ravenx]

I think that’s a horrible attitude to have and I’m glad I never had the displeasure of being topped by you.

LMAO, what you are not getting is that I've become a much better top since I stopped caring about the bottom's pleasure. See the reply above for an example, most bottoms if they are honest with themselves want a top to ravish them, not focus on pleasing them. I.e. I've found it's actually more pleasurable for the bottom this way too.

 

[LICNYCgay]

LMAO, what you are not getting is that I've become a much better top since I stopped caring about the bottom's pleasure. See the reply above for an example, most bottoms if they are honest with themselves want a top to ravish them, not focus on pleasing them. I.e. I've found it's actually more pleasurable for the bottom this way too.

Still think your description sounds more like rape than mutual satisfaction. And maybe you can find enough damaged guys who will let you do this to them and thank you for it. But that does not mean this is a healthy view of sex between men.

 

[tito21]

Still think your description sounds more like rape than mutual satisfaction. And maybe you can find enough damaged guys who will let you do this to them and thank you for it. But that does not mean this is a healthy view of sex between men.

Yes! If any guy tries to ravish me, i’m kicking him to the curb and calling the cops!

 

[ravenx]

Still think your description sounds more like rape than mutual satisfaction. And maybe you can find enough damaged guys who will let you do this to them and thank you for it. But that does not mean this is a healthy view of sex between men.

You are still not getting it.

As a total top I usually only play with total bttms (such as post #13) that are intensely attracted to total tops. It has nothing to do with rape, and it has everything to do with two people understanding that passionate sex requires polarity.

 

[ravenx]

Yes! If any guy tries to ravish me, i’m kicking him to the curb and calling the cops!

Another uninformed reply. If I chatted you up it would likely become apparent pretty quick that we were'n't that sexually compatible, so why would it have even progressed to me in bed with you? It likely wouldn't have.

 

[LICNYCgay]

You are still not getting it.

As a total top I usually only play with total bttms (such as post #13) that are intensely attracted to total tops. It has nothing to do with rape, and it has everything to do with two people understanding that passionate sex requires polarity.

No, I think you’re not getting it. You said you’ll take your pleasure whether the bottom enjoys it or not. That’s sociopathic. And violent. And rapey. And yes, I know that isn’t really a word but it fits.