She Keeps Calling Me "my Friend"

[GetMeAnotherInch]

Once in a while I send a comment onto IG posts of a girl my age who I like a lot (and she knows) and who I also know she likes me, she has passed explicit (but polite) compliments onto me but each and every time we have a written conversation she stresses out the "my friend" towards me, is it a way to keep distances?

Grazie

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Likely, yes.

 

[EllieP]

Sounds like she's keeping options open.

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

You know what, she openly likes my compliments and many a times calls them "ego boosters" but then always puts hands in front of her (this is how we say here in Italy, ehm, southern Italy...) by drawing that line.

Weird is that she doesn't cut it short as I would (and often do even tho am not a girl...) and usually follows up with a few lines among which the always present "my friend", a bit controversial but even tho I never passed compliments in the hope to receive something back I won't do it any longer, I don't want to feed somebody's weak ego nor I want to seem like expecting something.

Grazie for your comments

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Do you know this person in person?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

You say you weren't expecting compliments in return, but it comes off like you *were* expecting something else...

This is why I tend to blow it off/don't buy it when a man compliments me, particularly on the way I look. I know what he's doing. I see what he's trying to get at. I'm not a fucking idiot.

I don't know her, so I'm not going to answer for her.

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

Do you know this person in person?

Of course I do, we know each other since ages, we live in the same small place and we use(d) to cross each other quite often and she too passed compliments onto me, at some point she has been quite explicit with her compliments (nothing sexually related, just appreciation but very explicit).

I think, well, rather I know she being quite insecure nonetheless very attractive and it has nothing to do with age (we both slightly over 50 and she a little older than me), that's why it bothers me the fact that she always says that my compliments are an ego boost and, to reply to the above comment, I quit expecting anything off of her since years but while it was ok till she didn't add that "my friend" bit I was fine with it, now it is not any longer, I know that to try and understand a woman is a hard (...) task but if you want to draw a line I won't even approach it, I will keep very clear off of it.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Of course I do, we know each other since ages, we live in the same small place and we use(d) to cross each other quite often and she too passed compliments onto me, at some point she has been quite explicit with her compliments (nothing sexually related, just appreciation but very explicit).

I think, well, rather I know she being quite insecure nonetheless very attractive and it has nothing to do with age (we both slightly over 50 and she a little older than me), that's why it bothers me the fact that she always says that my compliments are an ego boost and, to reply to the above comment, I quit expecting anything off of her since years but while it was ok till she didn't add that "my friend" bit I was fine with it, now it is not any longer, I know that to try and understand a woman is a hard (...) task but if you want to draw a line I won't even approach it, I will keep very clear off of it.

"I quit expecting anything off of her"..

Yeah. I don't feel bad for you at all.

 

[LaFemme]

Women aren’t hard to understand. I think we should be taken at face value, just like any other person. If she offers a compliment? Just say ‘thank you’. If she calls you her friend, that’s what she means. I think if she’s over 50, she’s probably done with games. She says what she says. Don’t go searching for hidden meanings. It’s completely non-productive,

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I don't understand how having someone call you a friend is something to piss and moan about.

Oh, wait.. I do. When you don't see that person as a potential friend from the beginning. The goal was always to get a very specific thing. So, I feel bad for her, thinking of someone like that as a friend.

I know that men can be legit friends with women. I also know that *some* men, just can't. If that's the case here, I think she should find new friends.

 

[1277255]

A compliment to most anyone is a natural ego boost at its core. Her stating that is no different than how most people feel.

You refusing to compliment any longer because she calls you "my friend" is laughably obvious that you're miffed she isn't taking the compliments in a more intimate less friendly way.

Complimenting someone, being obvious that you like them, hell, even flatly telling them you like this doesn't earn the right to what's in their panties.

You're her friend. That's it. Accept and move on.

 

[GetMeAnotherInch]

I never kept my admiration toward her hidden and she knows very well I'd have liked to get to know her better, being both in our 50s we know each other since decades, it's years since I gave up on the idea to get to know her better, the underlining onto each and every message, be it a compliment or a birthday greet or whatever pisses me, I have moved on since years and have had other relationships in the meanwhile so I just thank those of you who clarified what there was left to be clarified which is what she believes being an approach rather than a simple compliment so, not to incur in misunderstandings, I will just respect the usual celebrations and that's it, being given a name as "my friend" or whatever doesn't fit me at my age, I already know where I stand and where I want to stand.

Grazie for your contributions

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I never kept my admiration toward her hidden and she knows very well... being given a name as "my friend" or whatever doesn't fit me at my age, I already know where I stand and where I want to stand.

Seems to me like she understands what kind of man you are. Maybe she's calling you a friend in an attempt to remain civil because you creep her out? People who give compliments and admit that they expect something in return for them are creepy. Just sayin.

I wouldn't call someone like you a friend. Happy to keep significant distance.

 

[Holly Doors]

Whatever's going on here, you claim you've known each other for years, you both live in a small community, so...... why the hell you not just ask her to join you for a coffee or something next time you see her out in person? You claim you're mature adults, what you doing messing around on the gram in a make believe world if you both live in the same village or town? Something don't add up!