Short hung guy. Invisibility/Fetishisation

[Big.Unsurr]

Hello everyone!

As a starting point, let me share a bit about my experience. I’m a 28yo white man living in central europe, 1,70 m (5’7”), fit yet rather skinny, with dick size at 21x15 cm (8,25x6 in.) and quite introverted/reserved. When I go to cruising bars and remain in the less sexual areas, I’m definitely less approached than guys that are higher and more muscular, yet when my dick is exposed the situation many times inverts. It feels good to have an effective way of making others into me, but sometimes it can also feel frustrating that my dick is many times a way out for my introversion/physical shortcomings.

Now, I’m well aware that overall I have it easier than many, specially when race and age and other discriminating factors are taken into account, but I wonder if this feeling between not being appreciated and being only appreciated for a sexualized attribute is more common than discussed and all the different stories that express it.

What are your thoughts on this? Anyone relates? And how does that relate to your identity/self-image?

Hope the thread was understandable and too long! Thanks for reading

 

[Petnax]

I was very confused then until I realised you meant 5'7" not 6'7"

 

[Big.Unsurr]

I was very confused then until I realised you meant 5'7" not 6'7"

Just corrected! Thanks for noticing and saying so.

 

[Petnax]

I just so happen to be 5'7" too, with a bigger than average cock as well (though nothing as big as yours)

Sorry. It's probably me being dumb, I'm not sure I understand. Do you mean, what do we think of being sexualised for our dick rather than the rest of ourselves?

 

[Big.Unsurr]

I just so happen to be 5'7" too, with a bigger than average cock as well (though nothing as big as yours)

Sorry. It's probably me being dumb, I'm not sure I understand. Do you mean, what do we think of being sexualised for our dick rather than the rest of ourselves?

It’s more about not being taken seriously/feeling seen until the moment your dick size is noticed. Not sure how it would feel like being short with a smaller dick, but the high interest I get on my dick brings a new light on the things I’m most insecure about, namely height and social skills.

 

[LPSG Simon]

I hear what you are talking about here.

You take your height as a liability where people overlook you or dont take you seriously. But when they realize you have a large penis, all of this changes, but you end up feeling like people only value your appearance when it comes to your large penis. I think that's what you mean.

It is a problem that people default to assigning more attractiveness to tall people, and that shorter people dont enjoy this privilege as much, or they get treated in a way that is somewhat infantilizing.

Do you feel the same way when people who really enjoy shorter people give you attention even without the dick? Or is that just another source of problems?

 

[Big.Unsurr]

You got it right and phrased it clearly. At the same time, I wanted to emphasize the tension between something that is undervalued with something that is obervalued, because it’s that tension brings some particular feelings, such as confusion over oneself’s attractiveness.

And I have almost never felt people were more attracted to me because I’m short, but maybe that's because of the insecurity I have around it. Possibly other short guys relate to it differently.

 

[LPSG Simon]

And I have almost never felt people were more attracted to me because I’m short, but maybe that's because of the insecurity I have around it. Possibly other short guys relate to it differently.

I found with a lot of the compact guys that I know, that sometimes other people can be into it and it's fine, but sometimes it feels like a fetish for them, which can also be problematic.