What is the deal with him?

[Dyspo Negero]

I’ve got this best friend and for long story short, I may have developed feeling for him. Now a bit of background we are both African (safe to say that our environment is not welcoming to gay stiff), I’m a bit on the spectrum and he knows and I know he is too (but he doesn’t know that I know) even less then I am (he likes chicks with dicks)REMEMBER THAT PART!!!. He has a gf and I am seeing someone but only now not during the duration of the story. Now although we have been best friends for a 10 years, everything was good until I found out he had a gf, I guess that’s where I was made more aware of my feelings towards him, crashed out in silence until I just decided to move on and move out (I was living with his family), during that time however he found out about my bicuriousity and kept teasing me sexually but taking a little too far under the guys of a joke but if I were to push things further he would kinda shut it down even though he would mostly always initiate it.

Now somewhere down the line he must of found out about my romantic feelings too since I would be cold or not interact with his gf due to crippling jealousy and and an indirect love confession (did not know he was listening). Ever since then he would continue to tease me (sexual touching, sexual talk and ect..) despite
bicuriousity or my romantic feelings and he would push it as far as asking me if I liked boys and girls more (despite never even telling him about my bicuriousity or anything) but the last straw was when while in the middle of talking dirty to me like always, he said that “I should stop with that gay shit cause if a mutual friend found out he would drop me”
That was my breaking point, I had decided to leave for good cause I had felt played and disrespected at that point especially since he was the one initiating this so to throw that back in my face especially since he was struggling with sexuality was the ultimate form of disrespect.

Now fast forward to know, I don’t trust or talk to him as much and I try to keep my distance so that I can move on and maybe we can go back to what we once were (but not trusting him as much especially not with this) but there have been times when he kept going with the sexual stuff if we linked up but I wouldnt react or play into it as much, every now and then though he would send me insta reels with people calling other people gay but pretty aggressively or kinda being homophobic( he would obviously lend that with other reels (which I don’t care, I mostly care about the motive of it). Sidenote about that is that he now knows I’ve been seeing other girls and tries to be slick in asking questions and digging for info about that, he would ask if I had fucked any of the girls yet since I had just moved out of his and into my own.( which I have)
I just want to know what his or was his angle?
I know he struggling with his sexuality too so why would he take all these courses of action even though he was the one mostly initiating the sexual stuff, is trying to play mind games, is he interested? Is he confused?
Have yall ever been in a similar predicament

 

[MileyEras]

Eu tenho esse melhor amigo e, para encurtar a história, posso ter desenvolvido sentimentos por ele. Agora, um pouco de história, nós dois somos africanos (é seguro dizer que nosso ambiente não é acolhedor para gays durões), eu sou um pouco no espectro e ele sabe e eu sei que ele também é (mas ele não sabe que eu sei) ainda menos do que eu (ele gosta de garotas com paus) LEMBRE-SE DESSA PARTE!!!. Ele tem uma namorada e eu estou saindo com alguém, mas só agora não durante a duração da história. Agora, embora sejamos melhores amigos há 10 anos, tudo estava bem até eu descobrir que ele tinha uma namorada, acho que foi aí que me tornei mais consciente dos meus sentimentos por ele, desmaiei em silêncio até que decidi seguir em frente e me mudar (eu estava morando com a família dele), durante esse tempo, no entanto, ele descobriu sobre minha bicuriosidade e continuou me provocando sexualmente, mas levando um pouco longe demais os caras de uma piada, mas se eu fosse forçar as coisas mais, ele meio que acabaria com isso, embora ele sempre iniciasse.

Agora, em algum lugar ao longo da linha, ele deve ter descoberto sobre meus sentimentos românticos também, já que eu seria fria ou não interagiria com sua namorada devido ao ciúme paralisante e uma confissão de amor indireta (não sabia que ele estava ouvindo). Desde então, ele continuaria a me provocar (toque sexual, conversa sexual e etc.) apesar de
bicuriosidade ou meus sentimentos românticos e ele chegava ao ponto de me perguntar se eu gostava mais de meninos e meninas (apesar de nunca ter contado a ele sobre minha bicuriosidade ou algo assim), mas a gota d'água foi quando, enquanto falava sacanagem comigo como sempre, ele disse que "eu deveria parar com essa merda de gay porque se um amigo em comum descobrisse, ele me abandonaria"
Esse foi meu ponto de ruptura, eu tinha decidido ir embora por um bom motivo, porque eu me sentia enganada e desrespeitada naquele momento, especialmente porque ele foi quem tomou a iniciativa, então jogar isso na minha cara, especialmente porque ele estava lutando contra a sexualidade, era a pior forma de desrespeito.

Agora, avancemos para saber, eu não confio nem falo tanto com ele e tento manter distância para poder seguir em frente e talvez possamos voltar a ser o que éramos antes (mas não confiando tanto nele, especialmente com isso), mas houve momentos em que ele continuou com as coisas sexuais se nos conectássemos, mas eu não reagiria ou participaria tanto, de vez em quando ele me enviava vídeos do Instagram com pessoas chamando outras pessoas de gays, mas de forma bastante agressiva ou meio homofóbica (ele obviamente emprestaria isso com outros vídeos (o que não me importa, eu me importo principalmente com o motivo disso). Uma observação sobre isso é que agora ele sabe que tenho visto outras garotas e tenta ser esperto em fazer perguntas e procurar informações sobre isso, ele perguntava se eu já tinha fodido alguma das garotas, já que eu tinha acabado de sair da casa dele e entrar na minha (o que eu fiz).
Eu só quero saber qual era o seu objetivo?
Eu sei que ele também está lutando com sua sexualidade, então por que ele tomaria todas essas atitudes mesmo sendo ele quem mais tomava a iniciativa das coisas sexuais, tentando fazer jogos mentais, ele está interessado? Ele está confuso?
Vocês já passaram por uma situação semelhante?

He's jealous of you, and he's upset with the fact that you like boys and you've never hit on him, that's the point, you don't talk anymore, but if you did talk you should look at him and tell him that you like boys and you know him well enough to know that he likes them too, that it was better to kiss soon or regret forever for not kissing,

 

[Boku40]

He's obviously curious but seems to be too afraid to act on it, he's probably scared of the possible consequences since you know him and his family very well, I don't think he'd want his exploring his gay side to become public knowledge, not that you would necessarily tell anyone, but it's understandable he'd be wary of that. I don't think he necessarily "played" you (but maybe he did, who knows), I think he just doesn't know how to handle his... let's call that his curiosity.