Straight and Likes Gay Porn

[Curious65]

Not gonna disagree but that's what makes the conversation fascinating to me and why I started the thread. In my opinion labels can be hard to quantify when it comes to sexuality because of the fluid nature of it. With me, my curiosity seems to exist only in a fantasy sense and within the space of pornography. I don't imagine myself acting them out in real life or have the desire to. My everyday or real life, if you will, is as an exclusively hetero male, and a sexually satisfied one at that, which is why I used the "straight" label. The fact this porn preference was virtually non existent in my past and has increasingly swung this way is what also elicited this conversation. If anything, and if I were to apply a more appropriate label it would "bi-curious" since I'm sexually aroused by both women and men but only have sex with women and I am curious about men sexually.

Anyway, love your feedback and all feedback is welcome on this thread.

Well said!

 

[Drummerjock]

Not gonna disagree but that's what makes the conversation fascinating to me and why I started the thread. In my opinion labels can be hard to quantify when it comes to sexuality because of the fluid nature of it. With me, my curiosity seems to exist only in a fantasy sense and within the space of pornography. I don't imagine myself acting them out in real life or have the desire to. My everyday or real life, if you will, is as an exclusively hetero male, and a sexually satisfied one at that, which is why I used the "straight" label. The fact this porn preference was virtually non existent in my past and has increasingly swung this way is what also elicited this conversation. If anything, and if I were to apply a more appropriate label it would "bi-curious" since I'm sexually aroused by both women and men but only have sex with women and I am curious about men sexually.

Anyway, love your feedback and all feedback is welcome on this thread.

Well said!

 

[Musthaveporn]

Not gonna disagree but that's what makes the conversation fascinating to me and why I started the thread. In my opinion labels can be hard to quantify when it comes to sexuality because of the fluid nature of it. With me, my curiosity seems to exist only in a fantasy sense and within the space of pornography. I don't imagine myself acting them out in real life or have the desire to. My everyday or real life, if you will, is as an exclusively hetero male, and a sexually satisfied one at that, which is why I used the "straight" label. The fact this porn preference was virtually non existent in my past and has increasingly swung this way is what also elicited this conversation. If anything, and if I were to apply a more appropriate label it would "bi-curious" since I'm sexually aroused by both women and men but only have sex with women and I am curious about men sexually.

Anyway, love your feedback and all feedback is welcome on this thread.

This is totally different from the way I feel. Although I have never been with a man, I don't consider myself straight anymore. I am really only hindered by this small detail of marriage - and two teenage boys who probably would not be happy to find out that their dad sucks cocks. So the porn becomes an escape for me, an escape into the world that I at least want to try. Unlike you, LVCB, I can practically feel my ass twitching to be filled with a big cock. I want to suck cock so badly and have guys shoot their loads into my mouth. My goal is to find a way to act on these feelings. At least then I'd know.

 

[LVCB77]

This is totally different from the way I feel. Although I have never been with a man, I don't consider myself straight anymore. I am really only hindered by this small detail of marriage - and two teenage boys who probably would not be happy to find out that their dad sucks cocks. So the porn becomes an escape for me, an escape into the world that I at least want to try. Unlike you, LVCB, I can practically feel my ass twitching to be filled with a big cock. I want to suck cock so badly and have guys shoot their loads into my mouth. My goal is to find a way to act on these feelings. At least then I'd know.

I love your post! Perhaps I'm on a trajectory to end up where it sounds like you are. Maybe I'm at the beginning stages of a full blown shift towards an overwhelming and exclusive sexual desire for men? I don't think so, but honestly I don't know. My affinity for gay porn could be a complete indicator of my true sexuality or could mean a million other things. Regardless, I can relate to you. Beyond my porn proclivities, I too have had vivid fantasies of sex with men, but in my case, they are not the only ones I have, and they don't necessarily dominate my fantasies, outside of porn.

i hate to keep harping on it, but the reason I started this thread is for feedback like yours. I knew there were guys out there, like me, who shared similar circumstances and peculiar desires, and I wanted to hear from them and talk to them.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

I love your post! Perhaps I'm on a trajectory to end up where it sounds like you are. Maybe I'm at the beginning stages of a full blown shift towards an overwhelming and exclusive sexual desire for men? I don't think so, but honestly I don't know. My affinity for gay porn could be a complete indicator of my true sexuality or could mean a million other things. Regardless, I can relate to you. Beyond my porn proclivities, I too have had vivid fantasies of sex with men, but in my case, they are not the only ones I have, and they don't necessarily dominate my fantasies, outside of porn.

i hate to keep harping on it, but the reason I started this thread is for feedback like yours. I knew there were guys out there, like me, who shared similar circumstances and peculiar desires, and I wanted to hear from them and talk to them.

Try watching this. It’s a really interesting resource and covers the gay porn for straight blokes etc. Dr Joe Kurt is so sensible, and its informed by decades of clinical experience. And Cam Fraser (the Aussie who talks too much) has a heap of resources on what men do and the range of experiences. Lots of interesting stuff on what is Bi, gay or straight.

in short - many straight men like the “act” of sex with a man, but not the emotional connection or relationship that goes with it. It’s more like a fetish. Some men are emotionally bi, and some men are gay. But there are still plenty of men who enjoy sex acts with other men who are not gay.

There is way more fluidity to these things but society seems to take simplistic views of pigeon-holing us into boxes they decide for us based on what we do rather than who we are.

Fantasy is by nature, fantastic - it may not be what we actually do - but is a way to process other issues. The other issue may not in fact be as obvious as they seem. They may represent some other struggle in our lives, but take on the look if being a “gay“ fantasy. Check out this link. Male Sexual Fluidity

 

[Curious65]

Try watching this. It’s a really interesting resource and covers the gay porn for straight blokes etc. Dr Joe Kurt is so sensible, and its informed by decades of clinical experience. And Cam Fraser (the Aussie who talks too much) has a heap of resources on what men do and the range of experiences. Lots of interesting stuff on what is Bi, gay or straight.

in short - many straight men like the “act” of sex with a man, but not the emotional connection or relationship that goes with it. It’s more like a fetish. Some men are emotionally bi, and some men are gay. But there are still plenty of men who enjoy sex acts with other men who are not gay.

There is way more fluidity to these things but society seems to take simplistic views of pigeon-holing us into boxes they decide for us based on what we do rather than who we are.

Fantasy is by nature, fantastic - it may not be what we actually do - but is a way to process other issues. The other issue may not in fact be as obvious as they seem. They may represent some other struggle in our lives, but take on the look if being a “gay“ fantasy. Check out this link. Male Sexual Fluidity

Thanks for sharing this link.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

Thanks for sharing this link.

Also his website. Straight Guise

 

[Toons]

I’m straight I enjoy gay porn I just hate the kissing in it i watch orgy or gangbangs

 

[CJC23]

First thread post so excuse me if I didn't post in the appropriate location or if this has been posted before (although I have only seen it touched on)

Long time straight, married man here that frequently enjoys and even prefers gay porn now. Whatever that makes me doesn't matter. I would like to hear from others who might share this taste or fetish and what specifically turns you on about it. I would love to hear about the journey and how you started and then arrived at this fetish. Here's a few questions that might spark the conversation, but feel free to expand and expound.

What are some of your experiences with straight porn versus gay porn and the differences to you?

What percentage of getting off do you experience with the various porn types (ie straight, bi, trans, or gay porn)?

If you are in a strong hetero relationship like me, how does this impact your relationship?

Is it known? If so, how do you deal with this in terms of your relationship with your partner?

If it's not known, how do you feel about this secret and how do you deal with it whether with your partner or societally?

Having a little fun with it, what are some stories or experiences you had with this preference? What are some of your go to's or specific fetishes in this space?

Lastly, although I'm mostly interested in hearing from other straight guys like me, I welcome hearing from others too. It can be gay men who enjoy straight porn or women who enjoy gay porn, or any other combination as long as you can touch on some of the aforementioned questions and it is a similar dynamic for you.

Dated a dude once whose ex wife used to get turned on by watching him with guys. It just stuck with him after.

(I'm gay but been curious about sex with a woman for a while.)

Straight porn just doesn't do it for me unless the dude has rhythm. The bang bang thing has a time and place. For gay porn, soft dick doesn't do it for me. Doesn't look like its being enjoyed.

 

[deleted19856411]

I have known a few straight women who preferred lesbian porn to other kinds - just because it was often less aggressive and more gentle. Never personally known any straight men who admitted to enjoying gay porn, though known a few who've enjoyed mutual masturbation and considered it more a relaxation thing than anything overtly sexual.

 

[LVCB77]

Try watching this. It’s a really interesting resource and covers the gay porn for straight blokes etc. Dr Joe Kurt is so sensible, and its informed by decades of clinical experience. And Cam Fraser (the Aussie who talks too much) has a heap of resources on what men do and the range of experiences. Lots of interesting stuff on what is Bi, gay or straight.

in short - many straight men like the “act” of sex with a man, but not the emotional connection or relationship that goes with it. It’s more like a fetish. Some men are emotionally bi, and some men are gay. But there are still plenty of men who enjoy sex acts with other men who are not gay.

There is way more fluidity to these things but society seems to take simplistic views of pigeon-holing us into boxes they decide for us based on what we do rather than who we are.

Fantasy is by nature, fantastic - it may not be what we actually do - but is a way to process other issues. The other issue may not in fact be as obvious as they seem. They may represent some other struggle in our lives, but take on the look if being a “gay“ fantasy. Check out this link. Male Sexual Fluidity

I wanted to marinate on the excellent video and your amazing post before replying so sorry for the belated response. First off, thank you for this wonderful gift. I wasn't familiar with these gentlemen or these resources on this subject. This brilliantly articulates most everything I thought about and experienced when it comes to this subject. I could go off on the many things that are mentioned in the video but that would take entirely too long. Some of the things that stood out to me, were sexual fluidity, men's desire for transactional sex compared to emotional sex, and sexual fantasies being just that and not necessarily defining who we are.

I definitely didn't do the video justice with that assessment but overall it was a revelation in my eyes and something I'd encourage people participating on this thread to watch.

 

[Curious65]

I wanted to marinate on the excellent video and your amazing post before replying so sorry for the belated response. First off, thank you for this wonderful gift. I wasn't familiar with these gentlemen or these resources on this subject. This brilliantly articulates most everything I thought about and experienced when it comes to this subject. I could go off on the many things that are mentioned in the video but that would take entirely too long. Some of the things that stood out to me, were sexual fluidity, men's desire for transactional sex compared to emotional sex, and sexual fantasies being just that and not necessarily defining who we are.

I definitely didn't do the video justice with that assessment but overall it was a revelation in my eyes and something I'd encourage people participating on this thread to watch.

Agree!!!

 

[Lovetobetouched]

Agree!!!

And yet Dr Joe has had a bit of grief over the years from the LGBGT community accusing him of bi-erasure or condoning Gay men staying “in”. Neither of which is true. He speaks from his own clinical experience. The Aussie bloke speaks also about normalizing anal play and toys for str8 blokes and how liberating it is for men to find pleasure in their arse.
My own experience has been that once aware of the cues, sex between str8 men is more common that you would think and a far more natural thing to jerk in the shower or hotel sauna, or to have a wank-bud. No big deal. Men don’t want “an emotional affair” so helping a dude get each others rocks off is perfectly normal. NSA.
I agree with Dr joe, it’s actually the act of MM sex I enjoy. I don’t find the man attractive. I enjoy how he makes me feel to make me cum. The concern he shows to make sure I cum and I enjoy seeing him feel good when I do the same. appreciate the joy he experiences when he cums. It’s a mutual reciprocity - a transactional enjoyment that is so different from me doing most of the work to please my wife and her receiving from me and not doing much to excite me. She doesn’t feel the need to excite me. She knows just her body, her curves, her smell, her slippery pussy excites me - and so she just sort of acts like a passenger in sex - whereas two blokes are actually really into pleasing each other. Two very different types of sex. The politics is different. The power-dynamic, the pleasures different.

so yes. Str8 men can enjoy sex with another man.

 

[Curious65]

And yet Dr Joe has had a bit of grief over the years from the LGBGT community accusing him of bi-erasure or condoning Gay men staying “in”. Neither of which is true. He speaks from his own clinical experience. The Aussie bloke speaks also about normalizing anal play and toys for str8 blokes and how liberating it is for men to find pleasure in their arse.
My own experience has been that once aware of the cues, sex between str8 men is more common that you would think and a far more natural thing to jerk in the shower or hotel sauna, or to have a wank-bud. No big deal. Men don’t want “an emotional affair” so helping a dude get each others rocks off is perfectly normal. NSA.
I agree with Dr joe, it’s actually the act of MM sex I enjoy. I don’t find the man attractive. I enjoy how he makes me feel to make me cum. The concern he shows to make sure I cum and I enjoy seeing him feel good when I do the same. appreciate the joy he experiences when he cums. It’s a mutual reciprocity - a transactional enjoyment that is so different from me doing most of the work to please my wife and her receiving from me and not doing much to excite me. She doesn’t feel the need to excite me. She knows just her body, her curves, her smell, her slippery pussy excites me - and so she just sort of acts like a passenger in sex - whereas two blokes are actually really into pleasing each other. Two very different types of sex. The politics is different. The power-dynamic, the pleasures different.

so yes. Str8 men can enjoy sex with another man.

Your comment... so she just sort of acts like a passenger in sex... perfectly describes my wife's approach to our relationship.

 

[deleted690810]

I’m gay in my 50s and like watching straight porn on occasion but I have to turn the sound off because I can’t stand all that moaning! When I was a teenager growing up, the only access I had to anything erotic was to stay up past midnight after my parents went to bed and watch the soft core porn on Cinemax or Playboy. However we didn’t have Cinemax or Playboy so the only way I could watch it was to find the scrambled channels at the very very end of the cable channel line up. The scrambled channels had a wavy line running through screen so you could kind of see what was going on but not really. I watched that fucking line for hours just to catch one glimpse of something tantalizing every one to two minutes! I always loved it when I found the Playboy channel and the show Electric Blue was on because I knew I was in for a treat. Good times.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

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Your comment... so she just sort of acts like a passenger in sex... perfectly describes my wife's approach to our relationship.

Yep. I reckon women are selfish in sex. Partly because society tells them to be meal and mild and demure. Partly because they think that’s what we like and, now I’ve heard Helen Fisher’s research on how women lose erotic interest in their husbands faster than we do of them, because chemically they are just not that into us.

 

[Curious65]

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Yep. I reckon women are selfish in sex. Partly because society tells them to be meal and mild and demure. Partly because they think that’s what we like and, now I’ve heard Helen Fisher’s research on how women lose erotic interest in their husbands faster than we do of them, because chemically they are just not that into us.

This site needs a sad and pissed off emoji to select.

 

[LPSG Support]

@LVCB77 Thank you for starting a great thread.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

It’s great to discover what works for you sexually. I just hope everyone who’s enjoying some form of gay sex/gay porn votes for the right people to secure LGBT rights so we are all equal. No need to come out or be public, just make sure you’re voting for the right candidates and raising your children to be a good ally to everyone.

Do ya know buddy - thats entirely between you and your fellow ‘Mericans to decide John Wayne. The rest of us dont vote in your “cuntry“ and are pretty glad we dont need to put up with your Mickey Mouse shit over here. Now dont get me wrong. We luvs ya and all that - but we are not all Yanks here - but, granted, we do enjoy a good yank now and then…

 

[yos]

I’m more attracted to the idea of guys I get nervous every time, and it would be thrilling at times, then I’d lose arousal. Another man has never made me cum.

We definitely need to change that