Straight Friend Playing Around Too Much?

[marslander]

I have a friend just like that, we do street workout together, he's really into outdoor activities which is why we're mates, and then out of nowhere he just starts touching my butt, legs, little rubs on the shoulders... He's saying that he is just checking the progress. Or he just randomly slides his hand up my thighs really quickly, saying legs days payed off. Weirdly he always does that right before or right after the remarks how he was fucking this and that girl. He also gets really drunk and if he see some guy leaning over the table or something he starts dry humping him for a laugh. And he has a tendency to call everyone "darling" but only on night out. He calls me "bean" though, not sure why or how this happened tbh.

So I confronted him one time when he was in his element like "what's up mate, what's going on, are you up for a jerkoff shes or something". It took him a minute to realise what I asked him, and his reply was that he's not faggot. So I just casually brushed it off, saying "Alright, I can't wait to get home and knock one out". And he changed the topic to earthquakes or something.

About two days later, he bring it up, asking if I'm planning to have a wank today, and just for fun and to give him the taste of his own medicine I said "Why? Are you going to have one with me mate?" I swear I didn't think nothing of it, I wasn't even in the mood. And he just placed his hand on my thigh. Not just for quick rub like he usually did, he just placed his hand there, doing and saying nothing. So I told him he's giving me weird vibes, which was poorly chosen words and it did freaked him out. I haven't seen him for two weeks after that, out of nowhere he texted me one day if I ever did anything with the guys or I'm just messing around, and I told him that I like receiving blowies from cute guys. No reply from him to that. And that was that for a long time.

We were drunk together few days after Christmas and he came up with an idea that we should fuck a girl together, how fun would be to have a threesome, seeing ME fucking a girl etc. and he's really hanging on to that idea, but honestly lads I'm not sure going into that with him. He's well fit, I'd love to have a threesome with him, but he's clearly confused about his sexuality and what he wants, I don't want to be responsible if this experience messes him up, I don't know.

He talks about her like all his other hoes and when he invites me to hang out he always tells me to get her ( I say no because it's a bit of a drive). She really likes him though. When I hang out with him he always asks if we should pick her up, but it's not like she's his first choice a lot.

Did you two ever had a conversation about smashing that girl together, do you feel that there are hints, and if so - would you do it? Or do you feel that it would complicated whatever you two have now with that messing around?

Also, does he knows that you are into guys and maybe that's the reason why he's comfortable do those stuff with you?

Sorry for buzzfeed questions, I'm really interested in who will cave in and suck dick first in your case lol

 

[TrueB2]

I have a friend just like that, we do street workout together, he's really into outdoor activities which is why we're mates, and then out of nowhere he just starts touching my butt, legs, little rubs on the shoulders... He's saying that he is just checking the progress. Or he just randomly slides his hand up my thighs really quickly, saying legs days payed off. Weirdly he always does that right before or right after the remarks how he was fucking this and that girl. He also gets really drunk and if he see some guy leaning over the table or something he starts dry humping him for a laugh. And he has a tendency to call everyone "darling" but only on night out. He calls me "bean" though, not sure why or how this happened tbh.

So I confronted him one time when he was in his element like "what's up mate, what's going on, are you up for a jerkoff shes or something". It took him a minute to realise what I asked him, and his reply was that he's not faggot. So I just casually brushed it off, saying "Alright, I can't wait to get home and knock one out". And he changed the topic to earthquakes or something.

About two days later, he bring it up, asking if I'm planning to have a wank today, and just for fun and to give him the taste of his own medicine I said "Why? Are you going to have one with me mate?" I swear I didn't think nothing of it, I wasn't even in the mood. And he just placed his hand on my thigh. Not just for quick rub like he usually did, he just placed his hand there, doing and saying nothing. So I told him he's giving me weird vibes, which was poorly chosen words and it did freaked him out. I haven't seen him for two weeks after that, out of nowhere he texted me one day if I ever did anything with the guys or I'm just messing around, and I told him that I like receiving blowies from cute guys. No reply from him to that. And that was that for a long time.

We were drunk together few days after Christmas and he came up with an idea that we should fuck a girl together, how fun would be to have a threesome, seeing ME fucking a girl etc. and he's really hanging on to that idea, but honestly lads I'm not sure going into that with him. He's well fit, I'd love to have a threesome with him, but he's clearly confused about his sexuality and what he wants, I don't want to be responsible if this experience messes him up, I don't know.



Did you two ever had a conversation about smashing that girl together, do you feel that there are hints, and if so - would you do it? Or do you feel that it would complicated whatever you two have now with that messing around?

Also, does he knows that you are into guys and maybe that's the reason why he's comfortable do those stuff with you?

Sorry for buzzfeed questions, I'm really interested in who will cave in and suck dick first in your case lol

I've never talked about my interest in either gender around him or anyone else from my work lol. I just got done hanging out with him and it was pretty much the same as it always is. Though this time he encouraged me to try and get him hard (which i did). While i was rubbing his crotch I moved my hand back a little and he said "keep going that feels good". He did still talk about smashing chicks (I never really respond when he does because women are more than just objects for our fantasy. Boring answer I know I know). Like i said in my first post (I think?) I'm not interested in dating him or anything like that. I just think he's interesting.

 

[TrueB2]

Not to say i'd never do anything with him, but that's not why i hang out with him lol

 

[TrueB2]

I said "either gender" ANY GENDER

 

[BigBen110]

That seems to be the thing with some guys that are a bit bi-curious. I have a feeling my ex-housemate (who’s also still a friend) tried to initiate sexual stuff in a kinda jokey sorta way. I told him nah (even though part of myself wanted to say yeah) and he apologised in a sincere way because he thought I wasn’t interested in him like that.

Truth be told though, I just didn’t want to make our friendship weird. I’ve been through some stuff before (although it was other gay guys) where we were friends to begin with (for a good while), then we’d get curious and try stuff. And then they slowly pulled away from being a friend. And I think a bicurious friend would definitely pull away from being friends if we ever got sexual with each other. Shit would get too complicated.

 

[Nando492]

Ask how big he is lol

 

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[Razor500]

Actually, he sounds exhausting. Does he want it? Doesn't he want it? Gals? Guys? Grabbing you at work, reaching for you, backing off. Really, why don't you find a REAL friend. He doesn't know WHAT he wants, and you are hanging around, like some unpaid therapist, trying to figure him out. It's a big world out there. MOVE ON.

 

[TrueB2]

It's been a while, so here's a bit of an update:

We've been hanging out a lot these passed few months and things have been interesting. To keep it slightly short I'll just post the highlights.

So he would take a shower and ask me to sit in the bathroom with him (he doesn't have a shower curtain or anything). One of the times I was in there he asked me if his butt was hair then lifted up both of his legs. It's the 2nd time he's done that around me but the first time when it was just me and him around.

Another time while he was in the bath he started stroking his cock really fast until he got hard. We both laughed about it lol At this point I've seen his dick at least once a week

He also makes a lot of jokes about me sucking his dick (he does that with a few of his other guy friends), makes jokes about me cheating on him when I hang out with a chick, and makes a few jokes about us being in a relationship.

The last thing I want to talk about is that one night I was staying the night at his house and he started playing around and grabbing my dick trying to get me hard (we both sleep in our boxers in the same bed). When he stopped I started doing the same to him, except...I kept going to see if he would say anything. He didn't look at me and texting people back on his phone then he put his phone down and just looked up at the ceiling while I kept stroking his dick (over his boxers of course). After about 3-4 minutes I felt his cock start throbbing and he slowly put his hand on top of mine without saying anything. I took this as a sign that he wanted me to stop and for a minute we just laid there my hand still on his dick. Honestly, idk if he really wanted me to stop or what, but oh well lol. He never brought it up though. Your thoughts?

And I'm going to say this again, I'm just curious as to how he feels about me or the same sex. He has a very religious upbringing so I doubt he would admit to any of if to me under normal circumstances. I don't hang out with/stay the night with him too much right now though. I enjoy hanging out with him for the most part and I'm not trying to be his therapist or anything. I just think he is an interesting person to be around never a dull moment. And I'm curious if anyone knows anyone like this or thinks he might have Bisexual tendencies. One woman I work with has told me that he has told her he was Bi and on another instance he said he was sexually confused. Idk how true it is because they don't get along too well, but idk why she would lie. I wish he had the opportunity to come out as Bi (if he even considers himself that) and maybe he would be happier. Either way I hang out with him because I don't mind lol some of these comments are a bit harsh towards him which is fair lol but when I don't want to hang out with him I tell him

 

[deleted5339781]

Sounds like he is bi but can't face up to it or admit it publicly. Probably the same reason why he was making all the bullshit bragging about how many women he'd been with. Clearly confused about his sexuality and it's making him act like a dick.
I know how hard it is to admit to yourself that you are bi but once he can do that then maybe he'll calm down and stop acting like a bellend!

 

[Marco86]

It's been a while, so here's a bit of an update:

We've been hanging out a lot these passed few months and things have been interesting. To keep it slightly short I'll just post the highlights.

So he would take a shower and ask me to sit in the bathroom with him (he doesn't have a shower curtain or anything). One of the times I was in there he asked me if his butt was hair then lifted up both of his legs. It's the 2nd time he's done that around me but the first time when it was just me and him around.

Another time while he was in the bath he started stroking his cock really fast until he got hard. We both laughed about it lol At this point I've seen his dick at least once a week

He also makes a lot of jokes about me sucking his dick (he does that with a few of his other guy friends), makes jokes about me cheating on him when I hang out with a chick, and makes a few jokes about us being in a relationship.

The last thing I want to talk about is that one night I was staying the night at his house and he started playing around and grabbing my dick trying to get me hard (we both sleep in our boxers in the same bed). When he stopped I started doing the same to him, except...I kept going to see if he would say anything. He didn't look at me and texting people back on his phone then he put his phone down and just looked up at the ceiling while I kept stroking his dick (over his boxers of course). After about 3-4 minutes I felt his cock start throbbing and he slowly put his hand on top of mine without saying anything. I took this as a sign that he wanted me to stop and for a minute we just laid there my hand still on his dick. Honestly, idk if he really wanted me to stop or what, but oh well lol. He never brought it up though. Your thoughts?

And I'm going to say this again, I'm just curious as to how he feels about me or the same sex. He has a very religious upbringing so I doubt he would admit to any of if to me under normal circumstances. I don't hang out with/stay the night with him too much right now though. I enjoy hanging out with him for the most part and I'm not trying to be his therapist or anything. I just think he is an interesting person to be around never a dull moment. And I'm curious if anyone knows anyone like this or thinks he might have Bisexual tendencies. One woman I work with has told me that he has told her he was Bi and on another instance he said he was sexually confused. Idk how true it is because they don't get along too well, but idk why she would lie. I wish he had the opportunity to come out as Bi (if he even considers himself that) and maybe he would be happier. Either way I hang out with him because I don't mind lol some of these comments are a bit harsh towards him which is fair lol but when I don't want to hang out with him I tell him

Jeez, man, you two just need to fuck and break the tension!

 

[Nando492]

It's been a while, so here's a bit of an update:

We've been hanging out a lot these passed few months and things have been interesting. To keep it slightly short I'll just post the highlights.

So he would take a shower and ask me to sit in the bathroom with him (he doesn't have a shower curtain or anything). One of the times I was in there he asked me if his butt was hair then lifted up both of his legs. It's the 2nd time he's done that around me but the first time when it was just me and him around.

Another time while he was in the bath he started stroking his cock really fast until he got hard. We both laughed about it lol At this point I've seen his dick at least once a week

He also makes a lot of jokes about me sucking his dick (he does that with a few of his other guy friends), makes jokes about me cheating on him when I hang out with a chick, and makes a few jokes about us being in a relationship.

The last thing I want to talk about is that one night I was staying the night at his house and he started playing around and grabbing my dick trying to get me hard (we both sleep in our boxers in the same bed). When he stopped I started doing the same to him, except...I kept going to see if he would say anything. He didn't look at me and texting people back on his phone then he put his phone down and just looked up at the ceiling while I kept stroking his dick (over his boxers of course). After about 3-4 minutes I felt his cock start throbbing and he slowly put his hand on top of mine without saying anything. I took this as a sign that he wanted me to stop and for a minute we just laid there my hand still on his dick. Honestly, idk if he really wanted me to stop or what, but oh well lol. He never brought it up though. Your thoughts?

And I'm going to say this again, I'm just curious as to how he feels about me or the same sex. He has a very religious upbringing so I doubt he would admit to any of if to me under normal circumstances. I don't hang out with/stay the night with him too much right now though. I enjoy hanging out with him for the most part and I'm not trying to be his therapist or anything. I just think he is an interesting person to be around never a dull moment. And I'm curious if anyone knows anyone like this or thinks he might have Bisexual tendencies. One woman I work with has told me that he has told her he was Bi and on another instance he said he was sexually confused. Idk how true it is because they don't get along too well, but idk why she would lie. I wish he had the opportunity to come out as Bi (if he even considers himself that) and maybe he would be happier. Either way I hang out with him because I don't mind lol some of these comments are a bit harsh towards him which is fair lol but when I don't want to hang out with him I tell him

I can feel the sexual tension from here

 

[TrueB2]

He wants to hang out today, too. But I honestly don't think he would make an actual move unless he was drinking a bit. Idk I guess we'll see

 

[maxmax25]

He wants to hang out today, too. But I honestly don't think he would make an actual move unless he was drinking a bit. Idk I guess we'll see

Then give him some drinks

 

[njersey]

I was in the same situation once. It sounds counter-intuitive and you have to figure out how to block out that fuzzy adrenaline rush of extreme nervousness; but just be up front about it.

I had a straight friend who did that shit all the time, sending me snaps of his dick, etc. It got to the point where it was keeping us having a normal conversation, so I told him I was going to suck him off and then we’d clear the air.

So I did and it honestly didn’t change a thing except making us more comfortable around each other. I think it was because he wasn’t having intrusive thoughts anymore.

 

[TrueB2]

So we didn't hang out last night because I went to the gym, but something interesting to mention is he always wants me to cancel going to the gym or asks how long I'll be there

 

[maxmax25]

So we didn't hang out last night because I went to the gym, but something interesting to mention is he always wants me to cancel going to the gym or asks how long I'll be there

how about asking him to join and then use the publix shower together ;-)

 

[TrueB2]

how about asking him to join and then use the publix shower together ;-)

He did ask if he could go with me and my gym friends about a week ago haha, but I don't have a membership

 

[Notaes]

I would ask him why he grabs your dick? Does he want it? Does he want see it? What is the motivation behind him grabbing your dick.

 

[CoolHanz]

Too much dancing around the issue. Next time you are in a “conducive” situation with him, tell him you want to explore further. Make it a game if that will ease the sexual tension, “let’s see who can hold their cum the longest under the other guy’s control”