Southeasterner
Superior Member
I think you need to put yourself first in this situation. You don't want to admit that you're bi, so don't admit it.
When he starts playing these games, ask him: "- This is getting repetitive. Do you want to tell me something? I don't like mind games and you're acting confused. Is something going on that I don't know about?". This way, you'll put him in a position where he'll have to decide whether to tell you something or stop playing these games.
If he doesn't talk about himself, don't expose yourself, especially since you're both black men. If he comes out as bi, you can think about whether or not you want to tell him that you're bi too, but then think about whether it's worth it. Otherwise, use your energy for something else, like studying or working.
I had a straight College friend who kept teasing me because he knew I was gay even though I hadn't told him, but I realized that it was a strategy he used to have power over me. So little by little I started moving away from him because I saw that I was wasting time with flirtations that wouldn't come to fruition.
When he starts playing these games, ask him: "- This is getting repetitive. Do you want to tell me something? I don't like mind games and you're acting confused. Is something going on that I don't know about?". This way, you'll put him in a position where he'll have to decide whether to tell you something or stop playing these games.
If he doesn't talk about himself, don't expose yourself, especially since you're both black men. If he comes out as bi, you can think about whether or not you want to tell him that you're bi too, but then think about whether it's worth it. Otherwise, use your energy for something else, like studying or working.
I had a straight College friend who kept teasing me because he knew I was gay even though I hadn't told him, but I realized that it was a strategy he used to have power over me. So little by little I started moving away from him because I saw that I was wasting time with flirtations that wouldn't come to fruition.
