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It’s about reading that situation before you broach the subject. The guess or the figuring out of that coupled with the reward
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maybe you should teach me, i need a ''how to approach a str8 dude for dummies''
For myself, there are 2 types of straight guys:
1. The ones who are straight, but given the right scenario might allow a trusted bud to go a little further. For instance, a co-worker that they've become close to, gone to hell and back with, who they know is gay. Time, horniness, and maybe some alcohol, really loosen up the odds they will let you blow them. No kissing, no bodily contact, no clinginess, and 100% ironclad discretion. But, even if you do get to go there, there is no guarantee afterwards that it will happen again. In fact, they may be scared off and your friendship will end.
2. The ones who are deeply closeted, and give all appearances of being straight while also having a gf/wife and maybe some kids. These guys are tricky, or very easy, depending on if they are afraid of being caught, or have had a little more experience playing outside their relationship. The easy ones can be a little slutty, but you still have to be respectful of the illusion they maintain. You may know, they may play, but chances are their significant others are clueless.
The more closeted, fearful ones, are tricky because they very much have two warring personalities. I met one who was repulsed at himself, and other gay men, yet there were moments when his inner self popped to the surface. These are the types that can get violent, especially if you get to blow them, or fuck, as after they shoot their load all the guilt and self-loathing comes out. Best to stay away from these people, as they are very unstable.
There isn't a playbook like with gay men in a cruising bar. For the most part, you need to get in their inner circle, and it is a genuine friendship. So, on that note, you need to weigh the benefits of taking a potential opportunity with jeopardizing that friendship. The sluttier closeted guys generally have been there done that, often on Craigslist or in a porn theater. The latter can be risky as sometimes having spur of the moment anonymous sex doesn't involve condoms. If they are in a sexless marriage, they will be less concerned about contracting a STD.
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Personally I like to suck cock. I don't have any agenda except enjoyment. I'm not looking to convert anyone, I don't feel superior "luring" and innocent straight cock to it's moral doom of ejaculation in a gay orifice. It's just fun. If the cock gets hard, it indicates the effort was fun for the str8 guy too. I understand a lot of people fetishize gay / straight sex and often parse terms about how can a straight guy be straight of he's getting gay blowjobs, but I think the issue is overworked a bit all the way around.
I do know a few guys who only want straight guys for one way encounters, which quite honestly seems boring to me to focus on. I also meet straight guys in pick up venues that want to experiment or feel that the Mrs., as fine as she is, can't suck a cock for shit. Any port in a storm, and if its one way it is not cheating.
I don't go looking for straight guys, but I find them in the unlikeliest places and it usually turns out to be fun. Relax and let your guard down - if you feel inclined to take up an offer. There does not have to be an agenda, other than you look hot and might be "up" for some fun. And if the guy has an 'agenda' - well, why would that matter? A wet, talented, willing mouth still can get the job done. As long as we're all honest about what we want, and expect then let your own feelings be your guide.
All could be true, but I'll take the guy at his word for the moment. The way people are raised affects how they perceive others and for a lot of guys exploring gay sexual desire is a strange new world because if those childhood attitudes. A lot of people need to distance themselves emotionally from what they are interested in knowing. It reminds me of the Seinfeld line George and Jerry kept throwing out when talking about being gay - "Not that there's anything wrong with that." I betting our OP was raised to get married to a pretty girl and have kids like mom and dad did, and the idea of same sex attraction was either not n issue, removed from his circle of experience or downright discouraged. It is hard to overcome and there is a fear that it will change everything - not that a guy might switch teams, but that others will think less of him for exploring new feelings and ideas.
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It is a puzzle that may be tricky to figure out and while doing that one does not like to be seen as being awkward or to involved in figuring things out. The sub-forum is "Ask a Gay Man" - and he did. If he already knew the answer or was so arrogant as to not care what the answer is, he did not have to ask.
The attitudes you describe are very real, and in theory could be present here, but I think we all advance when we take things for the surface they present, not what might lurk beneath.
I'm not at all familiar with your area but if you find bars where gays like to hang out, that is an excellent place to find them - especially in the afternoon, during the work week. I don't know what makes those prime hours but that has been my experience for decades. Dress casually, not overly sexual and relax. Sit at the bar first and be friendly with the bartender, smile in a friendly way and speak to people. SOMEONE will take the bait and start a conversation that leads to some potential hook up ideas. It's a lilltle like fishing - location and a steady lure works everytime.
Good ramble! The old saying 'necessity is the mother of invention' has also been restated that 'necessity led to the invention of mothers.' It all depends of perspective. In some ways it was easier when we were more repressed. No, I don't want to go back to the old days, but picking up 'one and done' guys was easier for me because there were specific places I found to look. Those places are either gone or have changed with society (all good, mostly) so it is less black and white.
With guys who were determined to maintain their straightness I usually let them lead - I was available, and I respected limits. There were occasional potholes but it worked pretty well because the venue was clearly a pick up area, not a have a beer and watch a ball game area. As a patron you might be known, but it was not like the old tv show, "Cheers," where 'everyone knows your name.'
You're spot on about labels too. Expectations of behavior are often imbedded in someone's mind and moving from 100% straight to 'I'm interested in a blow job' is a long journey for a lot of guys, and the labels reinforce this divide.
Excellent point. No one can eliminate all risks. That said, a detailed conversation about expectations and limits is crucial. If he can't navigate that, good reason not to take him on. Too often we imaging a hot scenario of possibilities and gloss over getting into the logistics out of fear of losing the moment.
Homosexual acceptance is slowly improving in many parts of the world but bisexual acceptance is viewed with suspicion on both sides of the fence.
I think there is still a strong view in the straight community that gay sex for a man is like a fire door. Once you go through that door, there is no turning back to get into their old life and no way to unring the bell and be labelled as gay forever.
In the gay community, many have the opinion that bisexuality is merely a soft landing for closeted gay men to come out.
So for guys who are happy to dabble on both sides, it's still more difficult than it needs to be.
Times are changing for the better but we still have a way to go.
I think there is still a strong view in the straight community that gay sex for a man is like a fire door. Once you go through that door, there is no turning back to get into their old life and no way to unring the bell and be labelled as gay forever.
In the gay community, many have the opinion that bisexuality is merely a soft landing for closeted gay men to come out.
So for guys who are happy to dabble on both sides, it's still more difficult than it needs to be.
Times are changing for the better but we still have a way to go.
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Id let a gay guy suck my cock, why not, you only live once, worst case scenario I finish haha
I think that SOME gays have an inner feeling or fantasy of wanting to be a woman or to be as feminine as possible. Not all gays btw. And sucking a straight guy fulfills that inner feeling or fantasy or makes them the most feminine, since they are able to catch a straight gu
I think that SOME gays have an inner feeling or fantasy of wanting to be a woman or to be as feminine as possible. Not all gays btw. And sucking a straight guy fulfills that inner feeling or fantasy or makes them the most feminine, since they are able to catch a straight guy who only seeks women.
I think that SOME gays have an inner feeling or fantasy of wanting to be a woman or to be as feminine as possible. Not all gays btw. And sucking a straight guy fulfills that inner feeling or fantasy or makes them the most feminine, since they are able to catch a straight guy who only seeks women.
I don't seek out straight guys but I did have an experience once. It was summer vacation and a bunch of mates and I were partying etc. Me and this bloke got close and had deep conversations and he said he wanted to try being with a guy and eventually we mutually agreed to experiment. The important factor was trust, we both knew what was going on nobody lead anyone on under false pretences. We had fun, he was a bit musky as were partying in the hott sun and straight blokes don't think about sucking dick all that much but overall a fun time.
I don’t want to be a woman. Possibly, as you stated, some guys do, but I’m not one of ‘em. And even though I’m not, I’d still love for a straight dude to fuck my throat as though it were a pussy.
Does that mean I want to be feminine? Nope; I’m probably just as masculine as the dude I’m blowing, and for me - that’s hot! Otherwise, if not, I’d get just as hot over a guy and girl engaging in the same act, and that I don’t.
But just because I don’t, that doesn’t mean, as you stated, that some gay guy’s don’t secretly wish or fantasize that they were a woman. I’m just not one of them.
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I grew up in a small town long before there was internet so we had to find ways to entertain ourselves. In my 20's I had many straight friends that I would hang out with and for the most part they knew I was gay. It almost never failed that I would be put in a situation where I had a chance to suck someone's dick. I sucked my best friend for several years even when he had a girlfriend. If he wasn't getting it from her he was getting it from me. I got several hand jobs from him and a fuck once but he went into the air-force and got married. I had a third cousin that i hung out with a lot and We spent a lot of nights at each other's places. One night we were smoking some weed and one thing led to another and I sucked his dick. We went back to my house and he said if I sucked him again he would suck me. He did and did it surprisingly well and he also fucked me that night. He moved away and went through three bad marriages. A guy I use to work with was a drinking buddy and we would drive out in the country after work and kill a 6 pack or two. One night we stopped and we started jacking off. He admitted he had sucked dick before and he saw nothing wrong with it. We played around several times after that just sucking dick but one day he said he didn't want to be around me any more because he was afraid of being called gay. I saw him a few years later very fat and stuck in a bad marriage. So I had my share of straight dick but afterwards they had nothing to do with me.
Yeah, goes to show us that having our fantasy’s fulfilled is not always what it’s cracked up to be.
Thanks for sharing.
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