T-dar (transgendar)

[motoramic]

In contrast with gaydar, is T-dar is a senstive subject especially for those who want to pass as the opposite sex?

I know gaydar and T-dar work in different ways. To have my T-dar to go off especially with MTF transgender, it's more of a physical hints and the voice.

I don't want to offend anyone but I think it's quite sensitive subject especially those who want to be the opposite sex but some people may suspect something different about him/her. Forgive me if I may be ignorant in this matter.

Anyone welcome to post comments but I would like transgenders to help me understand where they are coming from. Thanks!

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

wow!

 

[desilover]

t-dar doesn't work like gaydar. there are many TSs who look like genetic women, and female voice and mannerisms can be learnt.

To me at elast she is passable.

 

[Samantha Hopkins]

Getting read, or clocked sucks and that is why its a sensitive subject. Its totally awful. I started going in public as a teenager and made every mistake imaginable and some that aren't.

Have been with guys, I admit I have really really bad gaydar. Guys I thought were, weren't and vice versa.

Its my experience that women will read you before guys will. I think GG's are more detailed oriented. Guys see boobs butt and stop thinking.

 

[MizzSummers]

Getting read, or clocked sucks and that is why its a sensitive subject. Its totally awful. I started going in public as a teenager and made every mistake imaginable and some that aren't.

Have been with guys, I admit I have really really bad gaydar. Guys I thought were, weren't and vice versa.

Its my experience that women will read you before guys will. I think GG's are more detailed oriented. Guys see boobs butt and stop thinking.

I completely agree. I find women more critical towards trans women then men. Not saying its in mean spirit, but I definitely get more shade from women then men. Almost like I am challenging them as a trans woman. But I mean cis gendered women get this same treatment from other women. I think its sad part of reality. Women are harshest on other Women.

I also went through a really awkward stage. as a teenager i would steal my moms clothes and buy cheap clip in ponytails and dress and walk around at night and was clocked rather easily. I also remembe thinking noone would ever think I am a woman, let alone pretty. I think most trans women go through an awkward " I want to look like britney spears" stage when they initially transition. But i find once you become more comfortable with yourself the world tends to accept you more.

That being said, I am rather fortunate as I have have never had any surgery and I pass rather easily just as a taller bigger woman ( 5'10) . When a trans woman sees another trans woman i feel most of us can relate to them. I dont personally hide the fact I am trans as I feel like if I need to hide it like a dirty secret, the public will never view it as normal, and life will never get better for trans women.

As for passing... Most trans women will agree when I say, passing is just a perk, but its never been about passing, its been about being yourself and being accepted for yourself!

I attached some pics of me throughout time and as you can see I definitely had an awkward stage! lol.

 

[Mister2101]

@Samantha Hopkins, "Its my experience that women will read you before guys will. I think GG's are more detailed oriented. Guys see boobs butt and stop thinking." LOL. Maybe sad, but I find this very true about men. Thanks for sharing stuff about yourself.

@MizzSummers Thanks for sharing.