@billybones: i can see your point to a degree, and i agree that a person's characteristics don't necessarily make them more or less of a man.... there are exceptions to just about every rule when it comes to character, and regardless of whether or not we're attracted to them it doesn't mean that they don't deserve respect as a human being....
however, i have one specific example of how 'coming out' has resulted in a major change in character from sensitive-masculine to down right flaming:
in the current season of 'project runway (USA)', they brought back a former contestant from last season named 'christopher'.... last season, christopher was not out to his family and many people in his personal life, and his personality and character came off as ambiguously straight.... during the course of last season, christopher finally came out to his family, and it was great to see that they not only accepted him but were proud of him.... this season (only a year later), christopher came back 'on fire'.... he has adopted so many gay stereotypes in to his personality to the point that it's like he's a completely different person.... i'm not sure if i like this flaming character he is now, though i can see that he's noticeably happier and more comfortable in his skin.... but this is a prime example of how coming out does have an effect on a person's character, and it's extremely common....
did anyone else who watches project runway notice this????