Trying To Bottom

[fuckersplit]

Today, I was in a threesome. I was bottom (I don’t bottom usually, this was my third time. First time was bad, second was perfect), one was top and one was vers. Firstly we all kissed and I sucked their dicks. Then I laid on a bed so vers could fuck me. He tried, entered a little, but he couldn’t slide in. I was in really big pain, used poppers but they didn’t help. He tried to fuck me but every movement inside of me was really painful for me. Then top and vers were kissing and blowing dicks, while I fucked vers with my dick and dildo. After that, top fucked vers and it was such a turn on. But, top couldn’t cum so he tried to fuck me but he also couldn’t enter my asshole. After that I sucked off top and vers unsuccessfully tried to fuck me with dildo. After that we ended it.

So they were really great to me, I field secure and loved. Oral part for me was perfect but the anal part fucked me in my head. I really wanted them to fuck me but it was not possible.

Do you have any suggestion for me so I could try to become a good bottom?

 

[theplayerking]

Did they rim you?

When is stared getting fucked I would try and loosen up with a small butt plug an hour or two before. It doesn’t have to be a big one. Just something to get your sphincter to relax.

 

[fuckersplit]

Did they rim you?

When is stared getting fucked I would try and loosen up with a small butt plug an hour or two before. It doesn’t have to be a big one. Just something to get your sphincter to relax.

No, they only poured a lot of lube. Small butt plug is a great idea

 

[theplayerking]

No, they only poured a lot of lube. Small butt plug is a great idea

Lube alone is not enough if you’re a beginner. If your partner(s) won’t play with your hole you need to do it yourself. I always stick a finger or tO in my ass to stretch out right before getting fucked.

 

[OKCLane]

I’m 57 and versatile, which is to say I’ve been at it for well over 40 years.
Even so, we use a well lubricated vibrating butt plug to loosen me up during foreplay.
My husband pulls it out and slides his hard dick inside while I’m still open and relaxed.
That works for us but you’ll have to discover what works best for yourself.

 

[herbho]

I think bottoming is more psychological than physical. Just as some tops feel the pressure to get and keep an erection, so too do bottoms feel some pressure to relax and not overthink what is about to happen. The " Is it going to hurt?" syndrome can force the sphincter to tighten in anticipation of the " invasion." I have bottomed for years to the point where I can completely relax and take some cocks that I never thought I could take. But, after the initial "pain" of insertion ( made easier by lube, foreplay, and a patient partner), I have experienced great bliss. Nothing I have experienced sexually has been more pleasurable than being fucked, of totally surrendering to the pleasure provided by a man in charge. Unless one can get over the psychological barrier and just learn to relax, bottoming will not be what it could , and should, be.

 

[hvdude]

Long answer to a short question: All of the above and...

Being a bottom is all about the lead up to actual penetration, especially if you aren't used to being a bottom. Your anus is naturally tight and you control the level of how tight. Here are some suggestions:

Your partner needs to spend time "getting you ready": kissing and making you feel safe and loved which will help you relax, gently touching your anus then slowly sliding a finger inside you with either spit or lube. He should swirl his finger around the inside of your anus, and if he feels you contract, encourage you to relax and breathe. At some point he should start rimming you, spreading your ass cheeks to get full access to your hole and using the tip of his tongue to gently penetrate into you, stimulating the inside of your hole (which will send electricity up your spine and drive you crazy). This should take time and be repeated as often as necessary. Relax and breathe.

The goal is to get you to a point where you really need to be penetrated. Think of it like and itch that gets to the point where it just HAS TO BE scratched. When you are there and he is ready to enter you, get into a position where you are comfortable. Look into each others' eyes and he prepares to slowly enter you. Concentrate on the fact that your lover is going to be inside you, sharing each other's bodies. Feel the stretch of your hole as the head of his cock slides past the sphincter and into your rectum. Once he is fully inside he should stop and allow your body to get used to having him there. Then slowly he should withdraw all the way out and repeat again.

It's also important for your to vocalize: moan, whimper, talk. That will help with your breathing but also provides an erotic setting. Tell him how you feel, what you need. Once you've had him inside you he can really start fucking and the fun starts.

p.s. Remember that when he is fucking you some air may build up inside you which will cause pressure. Don't be afraid to ask him to pull out. Make sure you have a towel or something under you. Bear down to push the air out. You may also feel like you have to have a bowel movement (sorry to be gross). If so, stop and use the toilet. There is nothing worse than having your lover see your stool on his cock - definitely kills the mood.

GOOD LUCK!

 

[chrisrobin]

Long answer to a short question: All of the above and...

Being a bottom is all about the lead up to actual penetration, especially if you aren't used to being a bottom. Your anus is naturally tight and you control the level of how tight. Here are some suggestions:

Your partner needs to spend time "getting you ready": kissing and making you feel safe and loved which will help you relax, gently touching your anus then slowly sliding a finger inside you with either spit or lube. He should swirl his finger around the inside of your anus, and if he feels you contract, encourage you to relax and breathe. At some point he should start rimming you, spreading your ass cheeks to get full access to your hole and using the tip of his tongue to gently penetrate into you, stimulating the inside of your hole (which will send electricity up your spine and drive you crazy). This should take time and be repeated as often as necessary. Relax and breathe.

The goal is to get you to a point where you really need to be penetrated. Think of it like and itch that gets to the point where it just HAS TO BE scratched. When you are there and he is ready to enter you, get into a position where you are comfortable. Look into each others' eyes and he prepares to slowly enter you. Concentrate on the fact that your lover is going to be inside you, sharing each other's bodies. Feel the stretch of your hole as the head of his cock slides past the sphincter and into your rectum. Once he is fully inside he should stop and allow your body to get used to having him there. Then slowly he should withdraw all the way out and repeat again.

It's also important for your to vocalize: moan, whimper, talk. That will help with your breathing but also provides an erotic setting. Tell him how you feel, what you need. Once you've had him inside you he can really start fucking and the fun starts.

p.s. Remember that when he is fucking you some air may build up inside you which will cause pressure. Don't be afraid to ask him to pull out. Make sure you have a towel or something under you. Bear down to push the air out. You may also feel like you have to have a bowel movement (sorry to be gross). If so, stop and use the toilet. There is nothing worse than having your lover see your stool on his cock - definitely kills the mood.

GOOD LUCK!

Sounds like you've done this before, excellent, and yes its the foreplay that's important to find the mood and get relaxed, and dont forget top make sure he takes it slow letting you experience each little bit of the penetration, even breaks in entry!.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

I think bottoming is more psychological than physical. Just as some tops feel the pressure to get and keep an erection, so too do bottoms feel some pressure to relax and not overthink what is about to happen. The " Is it going to hurt?" syndrome can force the sphincter to tighten in anticipation of the " invasion." I have bottomed for years to the point where I can completely relax and take some cocks that I never thought I could take. But, after the initial "pain" of insertion ( made easier by lube, foreplay, and a patient partner), I have experienced great bliss. Nothing I have experienced sexually has been more pleasurable than being fucked, of totally surrendering to the pleasure provided by a man in charge. Unless one can get over the psychological barrier and just learn to relax, bottoming will not be what it could , and should, be.

This--^

I am a vers and I haven't done it in a while but I never needed butt plugs or anything like that. I just needed to really be into the guy and be in the moment. If I liked the guy enough, with a little lube and lots of patience, it would always work.

 

[Brodie888]

Good anal sex = stretching time + experience - girth.

So to end up with a positive outcome, if you don't have experience you need to spend more time stretching during foreplay to overcome the girth.

But if you want more spontaneous anal sex, you either need to have more experience which is more in your control with sex toys or plugs or someone with less girth.

 

[hvdude]

Just found this vid. Kind of demonstrates how to do it.

The two guys spend a lot of time kissing and sucking. The ginger (bottom) gets on top. That's not the best position for a new bottom: he is clenching his legs to stay up, which causes all the muscles to tighten. He tries to get the top's cock in him, but you can see that the cock kind of goes in, but bends at the tight opening.

At 19:10 (edited time) they cut to the bottom on his back and the top sucking his cock and fingering his hole. That's the right thing to do. The top spends time kissing his lover and caressing his cock - all the while getting the bottom's hole ready. At 24:10 the top does something very smart and considerate: he puts a pillow under this lover's hips, taking the pressure off of him having to position is hole for penetration. He's finally able to slowly enter at 26:20.

The fucking doesn't take long and a couple of minutes later (after some loud moaning and grunting) the bottom cums (not very spectacular, but...). The scene ends with the top inseminating his lover, giving him the most precious gift.

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