Couple things, many dudes push and push about fantasies until they get to,d a bedtime story t9 make them shut up, because multiple rounds of “I don’t/don’t want to talk about that” have gone ignored.
And maybe like “walkies the dog”, we hold hope of some training. Or at least distraction. So instead of “wheres the ball? Where’s the ball?” We puke up some thought we had randomly as fantasy. Even as it isn’t, or isn’t that important.
Also, here’s what I wrote in an earlier thread:
In 1973, a woman wrote about the role of fantasy in a woman’s sex life.
In 2020, we see proof no man has ever read it to learn about the role of fantasy in her sex life.
Basically, fantasy is to either get in the mood, or to “get to the finish line.” when that fantasy is spoken, it’s to fuel the fire for one or both.
While some fantasy is innocuous enough to be acted upon, some fantasy is obviously meant to stay in the realm of fiction. Fantasy Is free flow, not a script for next week (or whatever.)
Think about how hot her comments make you. They get both of you at a fever pitch, no?
The fantasies are doing their job.
When I try to describe a fantasy, it’s weird, because I describe through the lens of touch and sensation, more than narrating a scene.
If I’m talking about something I want to try, I’m pretty clear.