What makes a good top a GREAT top?

[macho8]

i guess that is the point of this thread, for those tops who has never btm'ed before. some specific tip would be great....

 

[Lex]

i guess that is the point of this thread, for those tops who has never btm'ed before. some specific tip would be great....

But that's just it-- the "it" can't be read or taught. You have to feel your own erotic spots being hit and massaged to better appreciate taking the time to find them on another (while paying close attention to facial expressions/body language/etc. as has already been mentioned).

I mean, besides, "loosen him up/relx him by using fingers/rimming and lots of lube and penetrate slowly" (even slower than you think you should), most learning (IMHO) comes from being on the receiving end and then trying to replicate the good and great for others.

 

[dc46064]

Get in my sling and I'll show ya.....

Right On!!!! Got another sling? There are some hott little bottoms on here that I would love to plow, for a afternoon.................

 

[macho8]

Right On!!!! Got another sling? There are some hott little bottoms on here that I would love to plow, for a afternoon.................

love the confidence... nothing hotter than a confident top!

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

Sorry guys but every time i see the phrase 'top' and 'bottom' i always get the urge to say something like.....

What makes a good top for me is the neckline,the colour of the fabric and how well it goes with other skirts...or bottoms in this case being jeans,leggings,skirts or trousers.:tongue:

 

[kimlo777]

(a) tongue-fuck me until I am all wet, slippery and ready for the real thing
(b) finger-fuck me to locate my g-spot (prostate)
(c) slowly slide your dong in and try to hit my g-spot repeatedly - that will send me cumming without touching myself.
(d) make it last as long as you can and cum inside me only when I give the signal

 

[arthur]

Listen to Lex!!!! Everything he's said in this thread is 100% spot on. Nothing worse than a rubbish top!! Have known to fuck a few off me. Best experience as a top is to be a bottom. It's all about self awareness...

 

[macho8]

when a top goes balls deep... and then rotate his hips... OMG - that gets me all the time

 

[MarquisMike]

Great tops are usually men who have also bottomed. Once you learn how to take and enjoy a cock, you know better how to give a cock. Becoming versatile made me a much better top.

Agree 100%

As for a specific tip, I'd say avoiding acting like a jackhammer is pretty important...vary the depth, angle and rhythm of thrusts in accordance with the bottom's signals. Speaking of angles, that's probably the most important thing for me, both when I'm on top and when I bottom...penetrating pretty much won't do anything for the bottom unless you're directly rubbing his prostate.

 

[TexasTail4U2Use]

A ? for the tops...do you prefer to be "on top" or let the bottom get on top? I've found that the "straight" guys feel too dominated if I get on top and try to ride their dicks and they lose the desire to continue.
I like to start out on top and get the motion flowing and then both roll over, without loosing penetration and then let the top take over from there and ride me till the sun comes up. Or, at least, until something comes!

 

[wild_boy]

push it slowly and gently into me, and it will fit no matter how big. :biggrin1:

 

[TomCat84]

...penetrating pretty much won't do anything for the bottom unless you're directly rubbing his prostate.

Speak for yourself! I love it when my man keeps on penetrating me with the head of his cock! :biggrin1:

 

[macho8]

Speak for yourself! I love it when my man keeps on penetrating me with the head of his cock! :biggrin1:

damn right!!! the deeper the better. :redface:

 

[luvguyz]

I think I'm a good top based on the comments I get. The thing is, I'm very tuned into what the bottom likes. I try various things and eventually you get to know what the individual likes. When I fuck a guy, it's all about the bottom's pleasure for me.

 

[joeweekend]

It can be summed up simply: line up the parts before you push. Meaning - don't just jab your cock in. Make sure your cock is line up with the hole you're pushing into. I nice, smooth penetration, as opposed to an unguided stab.

 

[D_Trimbley Trousersprout]

What makes a great top is patience, lot of preparation (fingering with 1, 2 then 3 fingers and tongue fucking and spitting) and it takes a long and THICK cock to stretch the hole. Also the fucking should be slow and smooth in the begining and harder and faster as the bottom gets acustomed.

 

[Crex]

Yeah, as we've all stated before, don't rush things!

Unless your bottom is into being hurt, which is not my thing, be patient and considerate. It's a foreign object going into a place that doesn't usually have things forcibly rammed into it, so TAKE YOUR TIME.

Also, as others have mentioned, don't ignore my dick just because you're focusing on what's happening with yours. I'm not just an ass for you to use, I want to be engaged thoroughly throughout the entire session.

 

[Brensta]

Patience and the ability to read your bottom are the best qualities a top can have. It's amazing how different one thrust can feel to another even though an inexperienced top might think both were the same.

My man is a pro, he knows how to probe and tell when he hits the jackpot

 

[BJs4You IL]

I second third and fourth that!!!

when a top goes balls deep... and then rotate his hips... OMG - that gets me all the time

 

[maxcok]

This:

Every bottom is different, so communication is key. Not everybody likes getting their ass rimmed or fingered or whatever- so ask the bottom what's up. Ask him what he wants done, or what he wants to do to you.

and also this:

A good top knows what's he's doing and doesn't have to ask, "how are you doing?" every 2 minutes.

A great top knows how to read a bottom's body, face, grunts and moans . . . .

Communication is vital, it can be verbal, but often (mostly?) nonverbal too - a physical thing, a sensing thing, a feeling thing. So much depends on the interplay, the unspoken dynamics, reading and being in tune to the responses of your partner. As a top, what gets me off is the reactions I get from my partner (M or F) and the power I feel taking control and driving them crazy with pleasure. Their getting off on me and what I'm doing gets me going, their responses feed my responses, and on and on in a continuous feedback loop. It can be rough, tender, slow, powerful, raw, sensual, whatever - the key is to be observant, responsive and creative. Experimenting and trying new techniques is good, but you won't be great just practicing a bunch of physical tricks from a playbook, unless you're in tune with your partner and yourself on a psychological/sensual/spiritual level. Being fit and sexy helps too, and all things being equal I guess it doesn't hurt to have a big dick. :biggrin2:

p.s. I disagree with those who say you have to be a good bottom before becoming a good top. I think that's a cliche, and though I'm sure that would be helpful for many, for some of us topping just comes naturally. :smile2: