i've been the fister in several encounters. the process/act is not violent or degrading. done properly, with a connection to your partner, fisting is pushing boundaries and intimacies.
you have to be in touch/connected to your partner. like, you can't phone in fisting. ya have to be able to read, know when to push, know with to let the plateaus ride. when done with total regard for your partner ya hand really is swallowed up. all curled and snug. you can feel every muscle movement, breath, every heart beat.
is fisting for everyone? no.
would i enter into the act with an attitude of pussy destruction? hell, no.
have i had powerful moments with a receptive partner? yeah, and i count myself lucky to have been apart of the scene. :smile:
also.. some of the technique used to open a woman for fisting can be beneficial for women with larger than comfortable partners.
and according to my ex-girl, super relaxing. like, curl up in a happy ball and doze off at times.
eta: i never associate fisting with large insertion fetishes. the head space is so different for me.