Women's Opinion on "Internet Jealousy"

[KindlyJedi]

I have seen other married men on LPSG say things like, "My wife would freak out if she found out I was on here.."

I have questions.

Do some women view this sort of thing as cheating, even though there's nothing going on other than anonymous pics being posted and commented on?

Why would a man's wife "freak out", if there's nothing serious going on?

Is it a jealousy/insecurity/posessiveness thing?

How would one explain this site to their wife/gf, to get them to understand and accept?

Disclaimer: my own wife already knows and understands. There may already be a thread on this, and if so, I couldn't find it. Sorry.

 

[EllieP]

Hard for me to answer since I sort of instigated my husband being a member here, and he, in turn got me hooked. It might be because I have absolutely nothing to be jealous about since he's real, and nobody else here is.

 

[a36ddd]

I might be able to put some insight into this. For many years my so to be ex husband did the online chatting and sexting with numerous women. The first few times I found out I asked him about it. I asked to be included or for him just not to hide it from me. (He would usually wait for me to go to bed and would leave me wanting sex.) After the first couple of times I told him it was cheating. Since he was sneaking and hiding it even after I asked to be included that is what made it cheating.

I dont think that the act of chatting online in itself is cheating but when you refuse to include your wife or significant other and leave them wanting sex so you can be off with the person you are chatting then yes it is cheating.

Again I do understand there are some women out there that are completely against the idea of chatting online and I dont understand that. You might as well get angry because your significant other is looking at someone walking down the street.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

I totally agree with a36ddd.

As long as your spouse is open about what's going on it's not big deal. It should bring new and added excitement to your bedroom (or give him/her relief if there is a medical issue that prevents sexual activity.)

BUT, like she said... when you leave your partner wanting so that you can enjoy an anonymous flirt or online encounter, then there is a problem. Hiding is cheating. Lying is cheating.

Some folks just believe that pornography is sinful. That's their right to believe that and I can't judge them. But that would be another reason that some women might have problems with their husband's behavior (or vice versa).

And not everyone here is only looking at pics and posting comments. Some are here to even go to the next level and have actual sexual encounters, either through video, phone sex, or actual meeting in person. Everyone has their own reasons for being here.

And if you ever lost a mate due to cheating and you found out that he/she lied about a site like this, I can understand where one would be jealous and have problems with that.

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

I wouldn't mind my boyfriend being a member here as long as I knew about it. I don't get upset about things that I'm aware of. When I start discovering secrets and other hidden things, that's when I get upset.

 

[Daisy]

I dont see the big deal but then Im not a jealous person.

 

[Jillang]

I do get jealous easily and you are right it is insecurity and a little possessiveness. I'm am a little bit of a controller too, I just feel like I should control situations and that drives my bf a little crazy sometimes.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Insecurity is often what instigates jealousy, but not always.

I'm not married to my guy, but he's the one that told me about the site.. He's not very active here and keeps to himself mostly but I enjoy sending him links to pics of sexy ladies I find here.

If I was married and my husband was going behind my back on a site like this I'd be annoyed, but it'd be nothing to end the marriage over. I'd just tell him "what the fuck bro, you're bogarting all the kinky websites..? I'm pulling up a chair.. bend me over and let's throw on the webcam for these people!!"

 

[botticellisvenus]

I wouldn't be jealous at all, but I got on here all by myself, too. I would just want a guy to be open and tell me, that's all. I would be much more bothered about not being told. To me, it would indicate we aren't able to be open and honest with each other, a much more disturbing aspect than him being on the site to begin with.

I don't see how simply having a profile on here is cheating. I think of cheating as having some sort of emotional connection with someone outside of a monogamous relationship. To me, that's not the point of this site.

 

[Mercurygirl]

I do get jealous easily and you are right it is insecurity and a little possessiveness. I'm am a little bit of a controller too, I just feel like I should control situations and that drives my bf a little crazy sometimes.

Haha, this^

I'm seriously starting to girl crush on you. So many times it's like you walked into my head and stole a page. :tongue: