Am I the only person who has had no luck on Grindr?
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I use Grindr, Sniffies, and Squirt. I am very detailed in my ad description, explaining my position, and what turns me on and off. I don‘t mind taps, but will respond to whoever I’m tapped by, and I follow up my taps with a message. I agree with what was stated above, it’s a numbers game. I do not respond to blank profiles or profiles with pixelated photos that look like they were taken in 2005. Confidence is also key, but desperation is a huge turn off. Everyone has their flavors, don’t take it personally and let the block button be your friend… your sanity will thank you later.
One tip for all: Update your pics. If you’re over 40 and posting pics of yourself in your 20’s… you’re setting everyone up for disappointment. And, be honest with your pics… the extreme head tilting to hide fat or wrinkles, or, Instagram/Snapchat filters… again, false advertising sets up disappointment!
One tip for all: Update your pics. If you’re over 40 and posting pics of yourself in your 20’s… you’re setting everyone up for disappointment. And, be honest with your pics… the extreme head tilting to hide fat or wrinkles, or, Instagram/Snapchat filters… again, false advertising sets up disappointment!
From my experience, Grindr and the like are a numbers game in the same way as a sauna or a video store or a public toilet. You have to sort through a lot of rubbish to find someone good. The flip side of this is you have a number of bad elements who employ a similar strategy.
The vast majority of people on apps are just sleaze bags who know that if they just keep rolling the dice, eventually they get some poor sucker to make a bad decision.
You also have a number of deluded/sociopathic/narcissistic types who think they have a chance with a 9/10 when they are a 3/10.
Then you have the catfish (straight women, perverts, social outcasts etc) and the bots who are only there to scam you out of your dick pics or worse.
The block function is your friend, anyone you aren't interested in, just block. This will bring better choices to the top.
You are getting rid of/ignoring all the rubbish and we assume you are not rubbish yourself. The problem may just be how you are presenting yourself on your profile or your profile pic. If possible, ask a friend to have a look to get their opinion or google tutorials on how you can improve.
The vast majority of people on apps are just sleaze bags who know that if they just keep rolling the dice, eventually they get some poor sucker to make a bad decision.
You also have a number of deluded/sociopathic/narcissistic types who think they have a chance with a 9/10 when they are a 3/10.
Then you have the catfish (straight women, perverts, social outcasts etc) and the bots who are only there to scam you out of your dick pics or worse.
The block function is your friend, anyone you aren't interested in, just block. This will bring better choices to the top.
You are getting rid of/ignoring all the rubbish and we assume you are not rubbish yourself. The problem may just be how you are presenting yourself on your profile or your profile pic. If possible, ask a friend to have a look to get their opinion or google tutorials on how you can improve.
You are not pathetic.
Believe me hook ups are not for everyone and that's ok. Maybe you are more of a "relationship type of guy".
You could still follow some of the tips that some guys have given to you in this thread, I think they're good.
Don't give up and you will find someone that best suits you and what you want.
I think it varies a lot by region. In most regions it just sucks now and the "glory days" are over
hairybubblebum
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I’ve had amazing luck on it, but I also only use it when traveling. Last time I used it locally I sent pictures of my butt hole to a friend I didn’t know was into guys. That was embarrassing, local I use insta, traveling Grindr
Oof. Sorry to be part of the frustrating rubbish. I know many men think exactly as you which is why i gave up. My mere presence infuriates you. It always kind of hurts hearing how blunt gay men can be to undesirables like me
Oof and you also confirmed my worries and suspcions on if i ever were to try the saunas or jack off clubs. Even there people are trying to filter out rubbish like me lol
Haha so if i were to message you on Grindr, you wouldnt automatically assume im one of those deluded/narcissistic 3/10's trying to hook up with you?
Im just being realistic. I dont feel bad being rubbish anymore. Been there done that, judged as such for years. Its just kind of hurt hearing it bluntly sometimes lol
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It sucks nowadays, but all of the apps nowadays suck anyways.
Scruff has been decent and I find that Grindr has TONS of catfishers. But I agree with others that it depends on where you live. I'm not one for instant hookups either. I tend to try for FWB and there is at least a lot of messages before a meeting is ever planned. That way I feel comfortable with the person beforehand and have had a chance to really gauge the situation.
The most likely relationships are where both sides are relatively equal.Haha so if i were to message you on Grindr, you wouldnt automatically assume im one of those deluded/narcissistic 3/10's trying to hook up with you?
Im just being realistic. I dont feel bad being rubbish anymore. Been there done that, judged as such for years. Its just kind of hurt hearing it bluntly sometimes lol
On a platform that is based heavily on the visual comparison, that is unfortunately how people are judged.
If you believe that you are a 3/10 and you are messaging a 9/10. The likelihood of success is low. Sure, go for it if you want but as you experienced, you will get a lot of rejection.
Wouldn't it be better to approach someone who's more similar?
I just find it ironic that if i were to message you and you perceive me as a 3/10 and below you, you thought that I perceive myself as a 3/10 and I knew it and im being deluded and narcissistic for trying to go as you define as "out of my lane".
See, I didnt even message them. They messaged ME and then rejected me. Or just messaged me saying how guys like me have no place on Grindr and im just clogging people's blocks.
The people i messages were those "looking for friends, no sex". But even then you need to look a certain way. As someone else posted elsewhere on LPSG, gay guys wont be your friend if you arent attractive enough to fuck. And I've learned that quickly. I accept my percieved attractiveness by others. But sometimes hearing that truth and other's annoyance so bluntly just stings a bit.
What you are talking about is on topic so no need to worry about hijacking.
If people are messaging you to bully you, that is wrong and unfair to you. It's a very legitimate thing people should be warned about when they use such services.
Everyone's experience is different. For me, grindr started been out as a hit or miss. I'm 42 now, once it hit 35, I started having more success with grindr and others guys around my age or older. I feel like that's bc when ppl get older, they stop focusing as much on superficial things and are more go with the flow. But that doesn't mean that there still aren't some dry periods.
I've never had success with meeguys on IG. But then again, I've never considered IG as a way to meet guys ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I've never had success with meeguys on IG. But then again, I've never considered IG as a way to meet guys ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Okay guys, I did it, sort of. I met a guy and we attempted to have sex but he was completely unable to get aroused, he told me he had masturbated once that day and he could only cum once a day. But he got inside me and I got inside him. He said my dick was enormous, so big that it was actually painful, I'm not kidding. I'm not a virgin anymore.
