Are you comfortable masturbating in front of your partner; does she masturbate in front of you?

[gbr2022]

I have asked my wife if she masturbates, and she has said no, not since she was a teenager. I have masturbated in front of her, but it was awkward.

 

[deleted12727521]

I'm bi, with a female partner. I'm often more horny than she is so absolutely I jerk off in front of her. We each have a collection of toys and sometimes we watch each other. My favorite is when I'm riding a dildo and fucking my fleshjack quick shot and she's tugging my balls and encouraging me to shoot a big load. I always do

 

[deleted627832]

I have asked my wife if she masturbates, and she has said no, not since she was a teenager. I have masturbated in front of her, but it was awkward.

My wife doesn't either.

 

[SSS79]

I always wanted to try this with my wife, but we never did!
My wife never masturbated before, she was very conservative before marriage, she was a virgin when we got married, and the idea of fondling and touching herself is very awkward and scary to her!! i kind of pushed her somehow to let her play with her clit during sex, she actually enjoyed it; but other than that she wouldn't do it!
As for me, I don't know how to explain it, but I'm very discouraged to do it in front of her! Since I ever started masturbation during teenage years, I never done it in front of anyone! It's like an act I always enjoyed by myself, and I don't see myself doing it in front of ANYONE, even my wife! Why? I don't really know why!

 

[merc41]

No problem sometimes she jump in and take over . Other times she will fondle my balls or suck on my nipple.

 

[Sagittarius84]

It's a societal thing, there's elements of shaming, unrealistic expectations of masculinity, even behavioral deviance all associated with men masturbating. It's something indoctrinated in the younger yrs, where either gender can face embarrassment if they are "caught" per se, but there's a stark asymmetry in how that act is recieved, especially by members of the opposite sex. So a female being "caught" by a male contemporary will most likely find him ambivalent, or interested in observing /participating...while a male "caught" by a female can usually expect revulsion, shaming and overall disgust.
It's weird because unfortunately the attitude persists even if you come a across a partner okay or even encouraging of your masturbatory life. My wife and I are at a bit of an impasse because she's all in for my masturbation now, but that wasn't her default. I'd always been secretive about my habits before her, so I didn't change...when she "caught" me the 1st few times it was always with some disgust and anger at play. We talked about it, she did some soul searching, and now, even I have to admit it's a much different vibe if she walks in on me. But while it's nice to feel confident that her walking in on me jerking it isn't going to result in her divorcing me and making me out to be the town pervert; her, as well as what seems like all of reality's 1st and default reaction of disgust have entombed ideas of self loathing and resentment into masturbation that I can't shake, which means I can't really be free about it around her.....
Which really sucks because now she's expressed interest in getting me some fancy fleshlight like stuff. I'm thinking about therapy, but I know sexual frequency is also a factor here, so that's a rickety bridge I'm not looking to cross as well.

 

[theclubist111]

Oh yes!

 

[hzs3fg]

Wife and I would sometimes lay side-by-side on the bed and both masturbate. It was fun.

Unfortunately, hasn't happened in at least a few decades.

I will often play with my junk while laying in bed in the morning, both before and after she has awakened. I have no idea if she is even aware, as she has never commented.

 

[wilsonthevolleyball]

Wife and I do it quite often. She cums really big and hard. I love watching her make herself cum while I stroke.

 

[merc41]

No problem sometimes she jump in and take over . Other times she will fondle my balls or suck on my nipple.

 

[merc41]

I wish see would. I think touching herself during sex would be a big plus for her. She never massages her clit or her breasts during sex. Maybe I'm doing a good enough job that in the she loses her self in rhe moment and additional stimulation is unnecessary. She does let me get her off manually as she strokes my cock.Foos but not great . Ahe is definitely a PIV girl.

 

[Magnum10x2]

Sometimes, I'm still raging hard, and she's completely spent so I'll finish on her while she watches.

I can't think of one time when a woman used a toy, or her hands and I didn't join in at some point.

Other times we'll lie on our backs, and I'll bring her to orgasm(s) as she jerks me off - more mutual masturbation...

 

[VladtheImpaler]

For years I jerked off privately. I began to have problems cumming. I would get close but couldn't finish it was very frustrating. One night in our hot tub I was so close while we were fucking I couldn't stand it any more. I sat on the edge and jerked off till I came. I think that was the first time my wife saw me. Several times in bed it would happen and after my wife got finished I would pull out and finish myself while she kept her head there to swallow my cum. With hormone therapy it is not as much of an issue as it was

 

[dreambridger]

It's a societal thing, there's elements of shaming, unrealistic expectations of masculinity, even behavioral deviance all associated with men masturbating. It's something indoctrinated in the younger yrs, where either gender can face embarrassment if they are "caught" per se, but there's a stark asymmetry in how that act is recieved, especially by members of the opposite sex. So a female being "caught" by a male contemporary will most likely find him ambivalent, or interested in observing /participating...while a male "caught" by a female can usually expect revulsion, shaming and overall disgust.
It's weird because unfortunately the attitude persists even if you come a across a partner okay or even encouraging of your masturbatory life. My wife and I are at a bit of an impasse because she's all in for my masturbation now, but that wasn't her default. I'd always been secretive about my habits before her, so I didn't change...when she "caught" me the 1st few times it was always with some disgust and anger at play. We talked about it, she did some soul searching, and now, even I have to admit it's a much different vibe if she walks in on me. But while it's nice to feel confident that her walking in on me jerking it isn't going to result in her divorcing me and making me out to be the town pervert; her, as well as what seems like all of reality's 1st and default reaction of disgust have entombed ideas of self loathing and resentment into masturbation that I can't shake, which means I can't really be free about it around her.....
Which really sucks because now she's expressed interest in getting me some fancy fleshlight like stuff. I'm thinking about therapy, but I know sexual frequency is also a factor here, so that's a rickety bridge I'm not looking to cross as well.

I'm not sure if I've ever felt shame associated with masturbating. I felt like a pioneer of sexual exploration when I first discovered masturbation. Then some of my first sexual feelings for other men occurred when I watched men masturbate or masturbated with friends, so it was always something beautiful to me.

anyway it sounds like your relationship with your wife is evolving towards better health and she's clearly doing the work to have a healthier mindset about your sexual desires.

 

[1randombeauty]

So I was a little shocked by my straight friend who was in a situation where he was living in a tiny home with his girlfriend of five years and complaining about her not having a higher sex drive. I'm, like, okay, that's a normal complaint. then he adds about it being too cold out to masturbate in the outdoor shower and not having any privacy to masturbate at all, or the possibility of being caught. He said, word-for-word, he would be "devastated if she ever caught him masturbating". Mind you they're not just starting out. They've been together for *five years*. I inquired further and he admitted to me that "of course we've never seen each other masturbate, that's weird." Now, to my point of view, this sounds really unhealthy to me. How can you feel really comfortable and safe around an intimate partner if you're not comfortable with them seeing you masturbate or vice versa?

When I expressed my confusion and concern, he told me, "Well, I'm a lot more vanilla than you." But I couldn't wrap my head around that. What's a more vanilla and wholesome sex act than a couple masturbating together? Is this normal for straight couples? Or am I correct in thinking that my friends' relationship has a sexual disturbance because of this bizarre discomfort surrounding masturbation?

I have always loved masturbating with my partners. Some have been more fun and comfortable than others, but that is normal, as we are all different. I love watching Mrs. Random touch herself. Especially when toys are involved.

 

[AHandfull]

Masturbation has always been free and easy in our house as some nights that's just the what we feel like doing. I will wait till she's about to cum and then I can finish at the exact same time while our legs are locked and it's still a very awesome, intimate sexual experience. Maybe if you're scared to take a chance and start rubbing one down while lying in bed or to ask her if she minds if you masturbate, why don't you just tell her it would be really hot and a complete turn on if we could masturbate and cum together? Break the ice?

 

[AHandfull]

Nobody can "finish me" like me so I guess it's always something that I've been comfortable doing in front of a partner.... it's part of my DNA and it would be a non-starter in a relationship if my partner was turned off by that. Adios.

 

[justahornyguy174]

I pretty much do it with every woman I'm with when we are having sex. If I'm going down on her I'll be playing with my cock, to be honest I want her to know I am so she knows how turned on I am by licking her pussy. If I pull out of her to cum on her boobs or in her face I'll pull it out and jerk it off in front of her. I guess it's just when you are having good sex you are comfortable to do what you want,when I've been with girls who are really comfortable and open they will usually play with their clit etc while sucking me off, sometimes if they aren't I'll guide their hand to where it needs to be!
When not as part of sex I've done it too, often with girls I've been with in the morning I've just started and she has too, sometimes nice to hold hands with your other had while you are both doing it!

I have a bit of a CFMN fantasy too, so I have started to jerk off over my fuck buddy while she is getting ready for work and I'm in bed, she likes the fact I'm turned on by seeing her naked and I can't resist the urge to jerk off over her.

With one girl I was with a few years ago we were really open and she'd tell me her fantasies, I'd tell her mine and we'd do them. One of mine was jerking off in front of her, so she say fully clothed drinking a glass of wine as I stripped off in front of her and sat there completely naked jerking off in front of her, she gave me instructions on what to do and when to cum, was one of the hottest experiences I've had!
(I did suggest next time for her and her friend to watch but sadly that never happened)

 

[deleted581546]

Every long-term partner I have had has been fine with me masturbating in front of her or with her, it's a normal part of the relationship.

 

[thongboy]

Isn't it just part of a full sex life? My gf gets on watching me jerk off — it often happens during a marathon session when both of us want to cum more than just a couple of times. And I love it when she gets out her favourite Rabbit and brings herself to a couple of shuddering orgasms. When we're in an MMF, it's pretty certain that at a certain point she'll be watching my buddy and I both working our cocks and enjoying the entertainment.