No. I feel loved and respected, with a deep emotional connection to my girl.Does anyone here feel you are nothing more than a big dildo for your significant other? Curious about your deepest thoughts . . .
Well. Maybe sort of a long time ago, kind of.
I had a girlfriend (she was, alas, married but not living with her husband--although he would still drive her places, paid her credit card bills, etc) and I really fell for her and thought I was deeply in love.
I fantasized not about sex with her but about growing old with her.
We never really went out on any "dates." We might hit a bar for happy hour after work and then go back to her place and fuck our brains out. Sometimes it was me lying back on the couch while she bounced up and down until she orgasmed. And sometimes I really felt like she was in it just for the sex.
I told her how I felt, and that there was a really strong sense in me that I would love her even without the sex. That I would love her even if we were entirely platonic. She laughed and told her friends.
After she ditched me, and I got over her, and she pulled me back in months later for another few weeks of sex before I finally ended it, her b.f.f. told me that I should have stuck with her and used her for sex because that's what she used me for. And I will say she was the only woman who totally, completely, and wildly impaled herself on my cock with hardly any complaints. Sometimes she's complain about me hitting her cervix, though. Maybe she was a size queen but didn't know it.
So maybe the answer is yes, but it was a lot more emotionally complicated for me.
No. I feel loved and respected, with a deep emotional connection to my girl.
But...
There is something freaking insanely hot when she just uses me to get herself off real quick, before going out or going to sleep.
Wooooo-oof!!!
The connection for you was more than just about sex but I wonder if you'd have felt that way about her, or so intensely, if the sex hadn't been so good? I've never fallen deeply in love with anyone who I didn't have a great time in bed with, but it's difficult to know which comes first, as it were.Well. Maybe sort of a long time ago, kind of.
I had a girlfriend (she was, alas, married but not living with her husband--although he would still drive her places, paid her credit card bills, etc) and I really fell for her and thought I was deeply in love.
I fantasized not about sex with her but about growing old with her.
We never really went out on any "dates." We might hit a bar for happy hour after work and then go back to her place and fuck our brains out. Sometimes it was me lying back on the couch while she bounced up and down until she orgasmed. And sometimes I really felt like she was in it just for the sex.
I told her how I felt, and that there was a really strong sense in me that I would love her even without the sex. That I would love her even if we were entirely platonic. She laughed and told her friends.
After she ditched me, and I got over her, and she pulled me back in months later for another few weeks of sex before I finally ended it, her b.f.f. told me that I should have stuck with her and used her for sex because that's what she used me for. And I will say she was the only woman who totally, completely, and wildly impaled herself on my cock with hardly any complaints. Sometimes she's complain about me hitting her cervix, though. Maybe she was a size queen but didn't know it.
So maybe the answer is yes, but it was a lot more emotionally complicated for me.
I personally would LIKE to be a sex object (but I don't know what that feels like)
The connection for you was more than just about sex but I wonder if you'd have felt that way about her, or so intensely, if the sex hadn't been so good? I've never fallen deeply in love with anyone who I didn't have a great time in bed with, but it's difficult to know which comes first, as it were.
I can only wish that I was....hahahaDoes anyone here feel you are nothing more than a big dildo for your significant other? Curious about your deepest thoughts . . .
The real problem with this scenario arises when you have deep feelings, but the other person only views you as a human dildo. In those situations, it has the potential to get emotionally abusive.Does anyone here feel you are nothing more than a big dildo for your significant other? Curious about your deepest thoughts . . .