Consensual Non-Consent

[gaydude45]

Any good advice for making this equally fun for my Partner and I? We both wanna try this from both vantage points. Just looking for a safe but uninhibited, private, taboo encounter with the love of my life, whether I be the aggressor or the one being pursued.

 

[Sturdywords]

Talk about what turns you on and what the limits are. Agree on a safe word. What type of scenarios do you have in mind?

 

[gaydude45]

Talk about what turns you on and what the limits are. Agree on a safe word. What type of scenarios do you have in mind?

This is where I am unsure. At a basic level, it's one of us [in a state of pretense] objecting to having sex, then to be "forced" into having it, hence the CNC. We've tried it a couple times, but it doesn't seem to click with us. Therefore, I need better suggestions.

 

[Sturdywords]

It might help if you make things more exotic, not just being a bit bossy in bed. Step outside the familiar routine.

Set a time and plan in advance. He is at home alone, watching a movie. He's just had a bath and is in a robe. You arrive unannounced, dressed all in black, with boots and a black ski mask. You pull out a screwdriver you used to 'break in' and tell him to do as he's told. Strip. You tie his hands behind his back. You make him lick your boots. Etc. Etc....

Keep the mask on and STAY IN ROLE until the game is done. Don't use his name because you don't know it. You are strangers.

That scenario is just an example, the details are not the crucial part, staying in role to make it feel authentic is.

 

[Brodie888]

A lot of it comes down to being comfortable in what you are doing without fear or awkwardness.

A good soft entry into forced play may be play wrestling with tickling. Don't go too crazy, you don't want to elbow your partner in the eye or break teeth.

If you are the bottom, after a bit of struggle, you may decide to let him win and let him do his thing. When you are fucking, you swap from resistance to wanting it and getting into it.

Another good starting point is one being bound, gagged and blindfolded while the other explores their body and uses it as they need. Mock struggling is optional.

It's useful to have a safe word and or signal to differentiate acting from real distress. In that way the aggressor knows they can keep going unless that happens.

 

[Brodie888]

When it comes to role-play, keep it simple. As few words as possible. Nothing kills the mood more than complicated staggering dialogue.

In my opinion, skip the intro scene and go straight to foreplay. Even if you were an Oscar nominated writer, I would give the same advice.

If you can't say it in four words or less, it will probably sound cheesy.

That's just me. See what works for you. Trial and error. Just persist.

 

[HungBtmVegas]

Any good advice for making this equally fun for my Partner and I? We both wanna try this from both vantage points. Just looking for a safe but uninhibited, private, taboo encounter with the love of my life, whether I be the aggressor or the one being pursued.

COMMUNICATE THOROUGHLY AND OFTEN. Even if the mutual agreement is that the aggressor can take whenever they want even if the prey resists, you should still have a safe word or safe gesture that is obvious and has no chance of being said/done on accident.

 

[gaydude45]

COMMUNICATE THOROUGHLY AND OFTEN. Even if the mutual agreement is that the aggressor can take whenever they want even if the prey resists, you should still have a safe word or safe gesture that is obvious and has no chance of being said/done on accident.

That makes sense. We'll discuss it.