Could We Both Be Into Each Other?

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I don't know what we're doing but we're definitely flirting. I think I'm trying to convince myself he isn't saying the things he is in meme form but he is. It's right there in our text exchange. I forgot to mention that he's an old soul. He uses a handkerchief to wipe his hands and mouth with and depending on the hat he's wearing sometimes he will tip his cap to me when I open my front door to him. I haven't seen anyone from the last 3 generations who does that. It's one of the things I find attractive about him. He's like a man from the 1940s.

I don't want to discuss his personal business, but I asked him how he was feeling and he said he wasn't feeling well. I sent him a gif of two bears hugging with the caption saying hugs and kisses. He sent back a meme saying "what if we kissed under the missile toad" an image of a toad hanging from a string with a toy missile attached to it. I know he's trying to be funny but that's a helluva response to anything I send him. So I sent him a gif of a guy kissing his girl's forehead with the caption saying "don't worry. I got you".

He sends me a lot of suggestive stuff. There's the raunchy memes he sends cuz we talk about sex and stuff, then there's the suggestive memes like kissing under the missile toad. I have half a mind to ask him straight up if he needs me to hug and kiss him. If he says yes, ain't no peck on the cheek. I'd go straight for the lips to let him know I'm feeling him and I'm here for you whenever you need me.

He makes me hard when he sends that kinda stuff and the more he sends suggestive stuff, the more I feel he is subtly flirting with me. I would be devastated and embarrassed to my core if I felt brave enough to ask him if he likes me romantically and he says no. I was just kidding with the memes and stuff. And that shock from sheer trauma will make me never try to find love again. I can't help how people feel about me, but at the same token, I can't help how I feel about people either. There's a lot of things I like and enjoy about him. He can talk to me about a girl he likes them send me suggestive stuff and I wouldn't even be confused. I'd feel like he is a bisexual man. But I'm happy he's choosing to flirt with me. That I know of, anyway.

 

[deleted19841121]

...There's a lot of things I like and enjoy about him. He can talk to me about a girl he likes them send me suggestive stuff and I wouldn't even be confused. I'd feel like he is a bisexual man....

From stuff you've said, he definitely seems to rank mental and emotional connections pretty high on the scale. Now it is possible for someone to be mainly physically attracted to one thing yet only mentally and emotionally attracted to another, But if there's bleedover between the two, he sorta sounds more pan than anything, or at least curious in that way.

It's the toughest thing of finding love outside the common societal "norms" in that as a guy, if I expressed attraction to a girl, she might reject those feelings, but from a societal standpoint, guy-girl is the "standard" so the post announcement awkwardness isn't as bumpy.

Figuring out if it's time is always the toughest thing to do. The times I've been there, I've deeply stressed what the friendship means to me and that no matter what, I want that in my life forever. There's always risk involved in life in taking that step, even in potential straight relationships. It's sorta like going to Las Vegas and laying down a bet. Are the payoff and the odds good enough to risk the chance at losing what you place down on the table? That's the question. The answer becomes clearer given time, but it will always be risk versus reward to some degree

I'm not saying now is the right time, only you could make that decision or not, but I will say that yeah it turning out not as you hoped will hurt like fuck, but it's not the only option on the table that has pain attached to it. Regretting never even taking a shot can hurt like fuck in the future too. Both instances of pain suck, but for me, I've always found the pain of disappointment is strong but does slowly fade away, but the pain of regret and always wondering "what if" is the one that doesn't

You guys seem to have similar strong sci-fi interests. Have you ever considered asking if he wanted to take a few days sometime and travel somewhere for a comic convention. Especially if there's someone on the guest list that's Trek-related, it's a good innocuous excuse to spend some extended personal time together just the two of you. Sometimes travelling with someone is a good way to dive deeper into figuring out what a relationship is or isn't.

 

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From stuff you've said, he definitely seems to rank mental and emotional connections pretty high on the scale. Now it is possible for someone to be mainly physically attracted to one thing yet only mentally and emotionally attracted to another, But if there's bleedover between the two, he sorta sounds more pan than anything, or at least curious in that way.

It's the toughest thing of finding love outside the common societal "norms" in that as a guy, if I expressed attraction to a girl, she might reject those feelings, but from a societal standpoint, guy-girl is the "standard" so the post announcement awkwardness isn't as bumpy.

Figuring out if it's time is always the toughest thing to do. The times I've been there, I've deeply stressed what the friendship means to me and that no matter what, I want that in my life forever. There's always risk involved in life in taking that step, even in potential straight relationships. It's sorta like going to Las Vegas and laying down a bet. Are the payoff and the odds good enough to risk the chance at losing what you place down on the table? That's the question. The answer becomes clearer given time, but it will always be risk versus reward to some degree

I'm not saying now is the right time, only you could make that decision or not, but I will say that yeah it turning out not as you hoped will hurt like fuck, but it's not the only option on the table that has pain attached to it. Regretting never even taking a shot can hurt like fuck in the future too. Both instances of pain suck, but for me, I've always found the pain of disappointment is strong but does slowly fade away, but the pain of regret and always wondering "what if" is the one that doesn't

You guys seem to have similar strong sci-fi interests. Have you ever considered asking if he wanted to take a few days sometime and travel somewhere for a comic convention. Especially if there's someone on the guest list that's Trek-related, it's a good innocuous excuse to spend some extended personal time together just the two of you. Sometimes travelling with someone is a good way to dive deeper into figuring out what a relationship is or isn't.

The friendship means the most to me. I would be very sad if I lost it. However, I would hate to be friends for 5 years and flirting in texts the entire time and never taking the chance to know if the flirting was something he was trying to tell me. That is why my past situationship ended because he kept hinting that he cared for me, saying all the time "I care for you, you know I do" but still being treated as a hookup. I stopped that because I was catching feelings and I didn't want to give myself to him in the way he wanted while telling me things I want to hear.

My new friend isn't this other guy who I last spoke to in 2018, but I feel like he's communicating with me(through memes) how he feels. I remember asking him when we texted for the first time, "Are the memes a form of communication?" He said yeah. I can respect how he communicates. I'm not the best communicator myself when it comes to heavy emotion. I'm good through written words over spoken words. He is beginning to remind me of Bumblebee from the live action movies. Using different kinds of speech from radio frequencies to complete a sentence. Only he does it through memes.

We talk about going to conventions all the time. We both have never attended a con for different reasons. But I have given further thought over doing something outside the home. I guess the both of us have just found it comfortable for him to come over to unwind for a couple hours. He has not missed a Sunday since September when we initiated our Sunday movie day. Someone asked before if I ever invited him over for dinner or something. Yes, I have. We had a pizza extravaganza one Sunday and he enjoyed it. We devoured two pies leaving a few slices leftover. And then there was my birthday which just passed, I didn't want to invite him over because if I'm being honest, the older I get, the more I am celebrating by myself with my dad. And asking if he wanted to spend time with me on my bday I saw as being juvenile. But look at God, he initiated that on his own and said he would come to spend time with me which I found very sweet. He was happy to divulge in some cake and he just felt very comfortable. He even got the knife from the dish rack for me to cut second slices for us, then washed it and put it back which showed me how comfortable he was in my home. Nobody ever washes their own dishes! Looking directly at my sister and her kids when they used to frequent my home.

I think the both of us are VERY comfortable with each other. But how comfortable are we to discuss things further? He will be here tomorrow. I'm catching him up on the relevant Marvel MCU movies. We just watched The Marvels after watching Ms. Marvel, now I have to show him Secret Invasion. Then we can move onto other movies.

 

[deleted19841121]

the doing his own dishes sounds like my friend Logan who is completely straight or I'd approach something, but that's totally something he'd do. Just a thoughtful, kind-hearted dude

The two of you have a cool friendship indeed

 

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Today we both took to the floor to lie down and chat. He was telling me about a story he wants to write and I was just amazed to be lying somewhere with him. It was almost romantic. He gifted me two more books today, after having bought me a thick graphic novel for my birthday. He continues to give me gifts but I think that is just as a thank you for the hospitality I show him. He doesn't have to do that and I told him so. I am happy to share my private domain with him. He makes me super happy and I think I have the same affect on him. I receive a lot of joy just being around him. Looking at how hot he is. I stare at him all the time when he's focused on the TV. He's too cute not to. Regarding the text messages, I told him today if he needs me to hug and kiss him, let me know. I told him I'm not just good for a movie and some TV. If you need me, let me know and take full advantage of that. He nodded and said okay. He probably thinks I'm kidding with the kisses remark but just wait til that day comes. He won't forget it. This man makes me super horny when I am around him. I don't think I've ever had a friend friend who I was super attracted to. I was getting hard as I laid on the floor watching him tell me his story idea. He's skinny and has a muscular upper body, but is getting a belly which I love and he hates. It's adorable and I think he is perfect just the way he is. He thinks he's getting fat. I'm fat, he's thick around the gut. There's a difference. I just wanted to gush about him before I go to bed.

 

[geordie-bloke]

Today we both took to the floor to lie down and chat. He was telling me about a story he wants to write and I was just amazed to be lying somewhere with him. It was almost romantic. He gifted me two more books today, after having bought me a thick graphic novel for my birthday. He continues to give me gifts but I think that is just as a thank you for the hospitality I show him. He doesn't have to do that and I told him so. I am happy to share my private domain with him. He makes me super happy and I think I have the same affect on him. I receive a lot of joy just being around him. Looking at how hot he is. I stare at him all the time when he's focused on the TV. He's too cute not to. Regarding the text messages, I told him today if he needs me to hug and kiss him, let me know. I told him I'm not just good for a movie and some TV. If you need me, let me know and take full advantage of that. He nodded and said okay. He probably thinks I'm kidding with the kisses remark but just wait til that day comes. He won't forget it. This man makes me super horny when I am around him. I don't think I've ever had a friend friend who I was super attracted to. I was getting hard as I laid on the floor watching him tell me his story idea. He's skinny and has a muscular upper body, but is getting a belly which I love and he hates. It's adorable and I think he is perfect just the way he is. He thinks he's getting fat. I'm fat, he's thick around the gut. There's a difference. I just wanted to gush about him before I go to bed.

Close your eyes and imagine that you are a straight girl with a huge crush on a gay guy. He, in this scenario, is you and/ but he’s the kinda guy that can’t help being a tad proud to have such a cute fag hag lusting over him (although that is not to say that he doesn’t truly love her as a mate because he does and often shows that affectionally!!). Rescan all of the situations you’ve been in with him and imagine what he might be thinking and feeling about this girl. Only then will you have some of the answers that you seek.

 

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I'm loving him more and more every time. EVERY. TIME. He just left after spending time with me and I got to know him a little better tonight, and vice versa. I initiated a game we played called truth, like truth or dare but without the dare. Just a way for me to get to know him a little better. I asked him when his last relationship was and he told me 2021 and it was with a non binary person, hence why he always says "they" when speaking in past tense about a former lover. I understand now. I referenced this in the original post. He told me everything. He asked me what porn stars I like and I told him they are mostly male porn stars he might have heard of. I reiterated that I am attracted to men and masculinity as well and he asked if I ever dated a guy and that led to my bringing up the situationship that was essentially my last relationship, but we didn't date even though he was in my life for 4 years. I got to share that with him, although it was hard talking about it because I've never really spoken to anyone in person about him.

As we were talking he went into depth about how he feels hanging out with me and that made me happy to hear because being with him brings me great joy. Even though I am heavily attracted to him, it's not just a pretty face, a clean smell and built upper arms that make me smile. I can't remember the last friend I had who honestly brought me excessive joy like this. I am very happy to know he gets something out of it too. We hug every time we part ways and he squeezed me a little bit harder tonight. Mm.

Tonight made me feel closer to him and I hope he felt it too. I changed into a different shirt just before he arrived and I didn't button it up so I was unintentionally showing neck and chest all night. Let's hope he caught a glimpse. For once I didn't feel like a babbling geek in his presence. I felt attractive. It's not often I feel that way in front of anybody.

 

[geordie-bloke]

I'm loving him more and more every time. EVERY. TIME. He just left after spending time with me and I got to know him a little better tonight, and vice versa. I initiated a game we played called truth, like truth or dare but without the dare. Just a way for me to get to know him a little better. I asked him when his last relationship was and he told me 2021 and it was with a non binary person, hence why he always says "they" when speaking in past tense about a former lover. I understand now. I referenced this in the original post. He told me everything. He asked me what porn stars I like and I told him they are mostly male porn stars he might have heard of. I reiterated that I am attracted to men and masculinity as well and he asked if I ever dated a guy and that led to my bringing up the situationship that was essentially my last relationship, but we didn't date even though he was in my life for 4 years. I got to share that with him, although it was hard talking about it because I've never really spoken to anyone in person about him.

As we were talking he went into depth about how he feels hanging out with me and that made me happy to hear because being with him brings me great joy. Even though I am heavily attracted to him, it's not just a pretty face, a clean smell and built upper arms that make me smile. I can't remember the last friend I had who honestly brought me excessive joy like this. I am very happy to know he gets something out of it too. We hug every time we part ways and he squeezed me a little bit harder tonight. Mm.

Tonight made me feel closer to him and I hope he felt it too. I changed into a different shirt just before he arrived and I didn't button it up so I was unintentionally showing neck and chest all night. Let's hope he caught a glimpse. For once I didn't feel like a babbling geek in his presence. I felt attractive. It's not often I feel that way in front of anybody.

Aaaaw mate that is so sweeeeeeet but … sorry, I am so, so sorry, this ain’t gonna go where you want it to go. Not if that conversation didn’t lead to anything more than you described. I do sincerely hope so much that I am wrong and that you get your perfect happy ending but … I suspect that it would be wise for you to revisit your expectations, value and sustain what you already have with him but forget any notion of bedroom antics. IMHO of course and many others’ MMV!!

 

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Aaaaw mate that is so sweeeeeeet but … sorry, I am so, so sorry, this ain’t gonna go where you want it to go. Not if that conversation didn’t lead to anything more than you described. I do sincerely hope so much that I am wrong and that you get your perfect happy ending but … I suspect that it would be wise for you to revisit your expectations, value and sustain what you already have with him but forget any notion of bedroom antics. IMHO of course and many others’ MMV!!

Despite my passion about him, I do not expect anything to happen. If my words are reading into that it's simply because his presence makes me giddy. I've said multiple times that I don't expect anything romantic to happen between us. He's a great friend and I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize that. This thread is my space to talk about how he makes me feel instead of having those feelings and not being able to express them.