If you're not white, muscular/fit, and/or hung like myself, then good luck on the cruising app Sniffies. I tried getting invited to several events (including ones that are "chill" or "welcoming") and didn't get a single response from a host. People complained about Grindr users being racist or fatphobic and it seems like Sniffies is actually worse. I finally deleted my account.
Are you mad that people weren't attracted to you? That seems sorta entitled. If your profile picture is you then... I mean, come on man.
At least I have the confidence to show my face instead of making rude comments from a blank profile! And no it's not just me: the majority of visible attendees on these events (and active users in general) are white and muscular.
Isnt that true for most apps ? grindr, scruff, tinder etc ...
Anyone on any hookup is always going to care primarily about looks and pretty much only that.
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I'm 66 and white here. Kind of the nature of these events. It's a private event put on by folks that are looking for a certain "thing" (like fitness models). In my area there is a (white) guy that posts "taking multiple loads... Hung black tops to the front". Don't take it personal. Also, the block function is great for weeding out the ones that annoy. I use that a lot.
Now... There are also private sex clubs (in private commercial spaces) showing up around me on Sniffies. The two near me post "all types of men welcome". Look for those. Some have sex slings, couches, and beds. Usually for like $20-$30. Check it out.
What you're saying is spot on. There's a lot of racism (and ageism) on these apps and websites. There are also a lot of limited, unrealistic body standards or expectations, or weird behavior in terms of a lack of good communication. I don't have an answer for you, but just wanted to validate that there's nothing wrong with you and this is super common. If anything, as fucked up as it still is, it would be great if those guys explicitly said in their bios that they're only looking for fit hung white guys (I've seen a handful of guys that do); it saves everyone time and energy, and it's best if they just tell on themselves up front.
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I'm sure you have your own sexual preferences.
Would you be happy if forced to meet with any guy using the app?
It sucks to not be the most desirable demographic ever, but take solace in knowing >90% of other men also aren't.
Would you be happy if forced to meet with any guy using the app?
It sucks to not be the most desirable demographic ever, but take solace in knowing >90% of other men also aren't.
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Racism, yeh, it's just how the world is now and nothing you can change there. I'm a dom Asian. I've had loads of fun and loads of racism-ish moments.
Fat, well, it's also just how the world is but there is something you can change about it. If you can't change the world, change yourself. If you are unwilling to make effort yourself and whine about the world, feel free but nobody is gonna help ya.
Fat, well, it's also just how the world is but there is something you can change about it. If you can't change the world, change yourself. If you are unwilling to make effort yourself and whine about the world, feel free but nobody is gonna help ya.
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By the way, like others already pointed out, you won't want to have sex with whom you are not interested in neither. These ppl on sniffles have their types which is not you. But all they did is not responding to you. Impolite? Errrr. Racism? Hard stretch. They didn't say or do anything about your race, just didn't have sex with you that's all.
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Yes. In the suburbs where I live..? Middle aged white guys and Latinos. Closer to city centers..? Younger party boys looking for Brad Pitt.
But interspersed is always the occasional "White guy looking for BBC" profiles out there to fill that fetish. I think the OP's issues are with these invite only parties... Of course they are going to "cherry pick" their guests. I would too! But I wouldn't be concerned with skin tone... I'd be screening for a nice body and girth... and must be a top.
It's kind of like that here in Phoenix. Downtown is a bunch of hot guys refusing to hook up with each other, all wanting an Adonis to fuck them senseless. The guys who look like Adonis with a big cock don't want to fuck them, so everyone is bitchy. Stop being nasty to each other, everyone fuck, and be happy. Problem solved.
Further out, some guys like me want to have a good time occasionally without drama. What do I get? A bunch of 18 - 20-year-olds trying to get me to host a hotel cum dump party for them. No. Thank you. What do I want? A hot guy with a nice dick to let me blow him and a hot bottom to let me fill him up. Same person, or one of each, once a week. It's not too much to ask for. Yet these twinks and their invite-only cum dump parties, with 40+ people attending... ugh. Not for me.
Further out, some guys like me want to have a good time occasionally without drama. What do I get? A bunch of 18 - 20-year-olds trying to get me to host a hotel cum dump party for them. No. Thank you. What do I want? A hot guy with a nice dick to let me blow him and a hot bottom to let me fill him up. Same person, or one of each, once a week. It's not too much to ask for. Yet these twinks and their invite-only cum dump parties, with 40+ people attending... ugh. Not for me.
Why do people keep replying “well some people have a preference ¯\_(ツ)_/¯” like the OP isn’t aware of that? He’s not demanding people have sex with him, he’s lamenting that there aren’t enough people on the app that are interested in him.
I would wholeheartedly agree with you if OP (and for arguments sake anyone who this applies to) was living in North Korea, or Kuwait or Iran/Iraq or Russia or somewhere to where you by law have to conform the way you look/your appearance etc., and are judged from head to toe for being yourself/different.
He's from the United States of fucking America. Although politically things here are effed up, it's still very much a free and liberated country, and that's sad that he has to not be himself in a free God Damn country, to be accepted by others. Jesus. Smh.
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Funny. Cos your main complaint is he can't be himself to be accepted by others. It's funny because that's not determined by him is it. It's determined by others. Are you forcing others to change their sexual preferences? Forcing them to have sex with fat guys that they are not interested in? That sounds like the North Korea you are mentioning.
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Ain't no "fat guys" (except the top brass) fat in NK. I would imagine a lot of (malnutritioned) twinks to be sure.
Seriously though, I find there is a LOT of fibbing on Sniffies. If you only see a close up of a dick... Usually a bad sign.
That's not what I meant. I'm saying, the only time he would have to change/conform himself, and then you would have the perfect argument/rebuttal/defense, is if the area he is in, by law, says he has to present himself "A" "B" or "C', (which is a thing in some countries by the way)
He's from America/United States, so that part of the argument is void.
Next, I never said that people who are not attracted to him, have to be forced to be attracted to his appearance. What I meant was, he's in America, and he doesn't have to (and shouldn't have to) change who he is. He has a right to whinge and yearn about rejections, and guys not being into him. He also needs to accept the fact that not everyone is going to like him, and he can't force people who aren't attracted to him, to be attracted to him.
However, he doesn't need to conform, and he doesn't need to change himself, unless he wants to, or that's his agenda, or he wants to experiment with something to build his confidence etc. But yeah. I'm not in the camp/category of thinking that people need to make themselves over. (For example, if you want to attract buff/bodybuilder/swole guys, you need to start lifting weights etc. No. Unless that's truly your hobby is to get into strength training/gym etc. then don't do that. There are guys who look like that, who aren't into guys who look like that, and even if not, always keep your type/dating options open but still etc. So yeah)
Just my opinion.
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That's a long post that said so much but said nothing. A show case of how much unnecessary political correctness is floating in the US.
"He has a right to whinge and yearn" - Don't others have rights to whinge and yearn about his entitlement or what's so ever?
"He doesn't have to change who he is, unless he wants to." - Who's forcing him? Though by whinging about others not want to have sex with him and labling it as RACISM, it does hint that not wanting to have sex with him is BAD, and "should be fixed" - fixed to what? to want to have sex with him so others are not racist? The logic is rich.
Nobody is forcing him anything. I personally just said this whole thing is not to do with racism. Of course that's just my opinion. He can choose to agree or not agree with it. But do I have a rights to say it? Use your logic on others you will find nothing ever needs to be explicitly said.
"He has a right to whinge and yearn" - Don't others have rights to whinge and yearn about his entitlement or what's so ever?
"He doesn't have to change who he is, unless he wants to." - Who's forcing him? Though by whinging about others not want to have sex with him and labling it as RACISM, it does hint that not wanting to have sex with him is BAD, and "should be fixed" - fixed to what? to want to have sex with him so others are not racist? The logic is rich.
Nobody is forcing him anything. I personally just said this whole thing is not to do with racism. Of course that's just my opinion. He can choose to agree or not agree with it. But do I have a rights to say it? Use your logic on others you will find nothing ever needs to be explicitly said.
I have learned age is a large deciding factor as well. If you are past 50 everyone thinks you are the one looking to give oral not receive. Even when you tell them I want to receive no recip suck n swallow service. Their ad reads oral give only swallow. But they want to swap or receive when you communicate. A lot of pic collectors as well.
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