Do you consider same sex encounters away from your wife/gf as cheating?

[BC22x15]

Same for me, "As a bi married man... It's best with other bi married men. There is no romantic tie. We are on the same page. It's like going to play golf for many. Good or bad."
The wife would not like it.

 

[Jjsurp99]

Same for me, "As a bi married man... It's best with other bi married men. There is no romantic tie. We are on the same page. It's like going to play golf for many. Good or bad."
The wife would not like it.

So you would cheat

 

[BC22x15]

In fantasy only.

 

[WilliamG]

Same for me, "As a bi married man... It's best with other bi married men. There is no romantic tie. We are on the same page. It's like going to play golf for many. Good or bad."
The wife would not like it.

We know the wife would not like it. Certain divorce for getting caught. But the question was asked regarding how men resolve it internally. We men can be very simple animals.

To make our simple male animal minds worse... First ask the question for the ladies: Do you consider same sex encounters away from your husband-gf as cheating? 100% would say yes. No question. But then ask the men: If you found your wife-gf with another woman... Would you leave her? You might be surprised on the answers for some. The simple animal part would pause and consider the potential opportunity...

 

[Ninja108]

Yup, if you're having sex outside of your marriage and it's not an open one, it's cheating, plain and simple.

 

[Samantha V]

I suppose technically it is cheating but you're assuming that's a bad thing. I don't think 'cheating is the big bad taboo that it was in the past. Perhaps it's an age thing, I think cheating becomes more tolerable with age - perhaps because older people are more tolerant or perhaps because people become more aware of the alternatives to leaving their partner in a cheating scenario. There's also the age we are living in, bisexual, pansexual, open relationships, throuples, etc. Ideas of faithfulness have changed. People getting married later in life: I'm sure it's devastating when you wife/husband was your high-school sweetheart but when you marry and you both had a reasonable boy count cheating is less impactful. Cheating has lost it's stigma IMO.

 

[elklindoxxx]

I suppose technically it is cheating but you're assuming that's a bad thing. I don't think 'cheating is the big bad taboo that it was in the past. Perhaps it's an age thing, I think cheating becomes more tolerable with age - perhaps because older people are more tolerant or perhaps because people become more aware of the alternatives to leaving their partner in a cheating scenario. There's also the age we are living in, bisexual, pansexual, open relationships, throuples, etc. Ideas of faithfulness have changed. People getting married later in life: I'm sure it's devastating when you wife/husband was your high-school sweetheart but when you marry and you both had a reasonable boy count cheating is less impactful. Cheating has lost it's stigma IMO.

I don't agree with that...and it's safe to say that most other people don't either. To me it's a deal breaker in a relationship. Whenever someone cheats...then you lose trust. Think about what a marriage is in principle. It's really a handshake agreement where you recognize that you have a union with obligation(s) to the other person. And presumably one requirement is to be faithful.

If you are not even going to honor your commitments, then don't even bother being married.

 

[Ninja108]

I suppose technically it is cheating but you're assuming that's a bad thing. I don't think 'cheating is the big bad taboo that it was in the past. Perhaps it's an age thing, I think cheating becomes more tolerable with age - perhaps because older people are more tolerant or perhaps because people become more aware of the alternatives to leaving their partner in a cheating scenario. There's also the age we are living in, bisexual, pansexual, open relationships, throuples, etc. Ideas of faithfulness have changed. People getting married later in life: I'm sure it's devastating when you wife/husband was your high-school sweetheart but when you marry and you both had a reasonable boy count cheating is less impactful. Cheating has lost it's stigma IMO.

Uh yea...I was cheated on once and I can assure you that I didn't feel anything but betrayed.