Do you find these forums homophobic?

[magickhands]

Gay male erasure is a very real problem, but whenever you try to address it, you will always get hit with unfounded accusations of transphobia, biphobia, and/or misogyny. God forbid gay men should ever be allowed to have boundaries or opinions, or defend themselves.

I have no problem respecting trans people's identity or pronouns, but I am never going to be interested in your pussy.

If some guy identifies as gay and still has sex with women, fine, whatever, but don't hold that up as an example of what most gay men want or do.

I am sick of cis women insisting that they should have the right to enter gay men's sexual spaces. The state of Florida a couple of years ago made it illegal for all male nude men's resorts to be all male. If you want to suck a dick at a pool party in Florida you have to be okay with having a screaming bachelorette party snapping pics of you doing it.

Most people understand that lesbians don't want men in lesbian bars. I do not feel hurt or excluded at all. I say let them have their space. I just wish women would show gay men the same respect.

Women think that having a pussy entitles them to gawk and touch gay guys without their consent. What a fucked up double standard. Oh, and don't even think about complaining because that just means you are sexist.

 

[malakos]

There's nothing odious about being respectful towards trans people. Be better.

Questioning whether one ought to affirm an identity at odds with the apparent reality is definitely not a matter of disrespect. In fact, being unwilling to ask such questions and just credulously accepting one is whatever one says one is shows disregard for the truth and a lack of genuine care for the persons making such claims. Blanket validation is not care.

 

[Hotguysnudes5]

You do realise sexuality isn’t a choice. It’s a fixed thing. Meaning no you do not identify as something. You simply are straight, gay, bisexual etc. it’s an human sexual behaviour.

Just like men can call themselves women even when their biologically male. Just cause you call yourself gay doesn’t mean you are if you have sex with vaginas and trans “men”. Penis in vagina sex is heterosexual.

Bro you are telling that to a gay man. It’s like preaching to a pastor. I don’t see the point of you guys always bring up trans topics, passing a transphobic view to discuss gay man. Furthermore, it’s ridiculous for you to say that we are not just a “gay” man if we say so, when everyone knows the challenges of being gay. Whom do you think would call themselves gay while being straight or even Bi? For me just the thought of that is a complete joke.

 

[parsonstreet]

I find this shocking really. People are refusing to listen to victims of abuse who feel abused by forum content. For good reasons I have outlined.

For example people pressurised into marrying and having children for religious or other reasons. Or being disowned by their whole family because they were gay and wouldn't be able to have a heterosexual relationship.

This trauma is not a fetish for God sake!! But people aren't listening!! And you say it's just a fantasy but you wouldn't for good reason allow people to portray paedophilic or bestiality fantasies. Yet you are allowing them to enjoy the fetishizing of gay men's mental distress, trauma and humiliation. You have zero respect gay. No respect at all. You are dismissing peoples trauma then gleefully celebrating a representation of it.

But not only that it is not just fantasy gay men are being pressured and coerced into having straight sex in the porn industry and they've talked about this and for instance how they couldn't get or maintain an erection and then were ridiculed and it is also endorsing people taking pleasure from real humiliation of others.

I do not know what more I can say. This why humans and societies are fucked. DO NOT celebrate Gay men's DISTRESS and HUMILIATION. If you want to fetishize mine and other men's suffering please do it in the privacy of your own head. You can do that 24/7 as far as I care. But you've made our humiliation and coercion public consumption and apparently you want stop because you have no, absolutely no compassion or empathy.

 

[phantompantomime]

Can a gay men, say that man who enjoys sex with women is not gay? Or is that too "problematic"?

 

[Southeasterner]

Can a gay men, say that man who enjoys sex with women is not gay? Or is that too "problematic"?

You are free to have your own opinions. If people think they are problematic, it´s their problem.
Piensa por tu propia cabeza.

 

[jbf78]

Can a gay men, say that man who enjoys sex with women is not gay? Or is that too "problematic"?

If you’re exclusively attractive to the same sex.
You might not be straight

 

[malakos]

Can a gay men, say that man who enjoys sex with women is not gay? Or is that too "problematic"?

The problem comes in in unpacking what precisely that means. If it means a man who enjoys sex with adult female human beings is not gay given 'woman' being defined as an adult female human being, that would be contrary to the policy of the site that some adult female human beings are men. So we are not allowed to say this if that's what you mean by it.