Ex gf's current boyfriend is bigger than me, and it's stirring something inside me

[akbakb]

Trick...find someone that says you are the biggest, best, most hugest and ginormous monster cock she has ever had and at that point accept it. Don't ask about dudes where in all actuality may and probably are hung like the stuff sold at your local sex store. Unless you can truly find every single one of her past sex partners, ask them to compare dicks, not get arrested, and prove that you are bigger. Then and only then will you truly know. Or, is this really the complete and unabridged list of everyone from her sex life past and present? Moral of the story: like everyone else who has said it, yet in a different way, stop torturing yourself over stuff that you have abso-friggin-lutely no control over what so ever.

Frisian...out

I actually do not like the flattering of being the "most hugest and ginormous monster" bla bla bla.... Kinda like you followed up on she perceives it.... I like hearing it, but at some point.... it's kind of annoying, reminds me of fictional porn...

I think that's more of a guy thing... Urinal.. Locker room... Whatever it may be....

You ask women who have been with multiple men and it becomes less of an issue. Except for LPSG of course .

 

[Lookingood]

I do miss having sex with her, but sex with my wife is good too. They're just different. So maybe I subconsciously miss the different type of sex that I had with my ex, but before this conversation I hadn't been thinking about her sexually much at all.


I'm a white American. I think I would feel similarly? But would maybe feel more competitive if her new bf was white, as opposed to how I feel submissive in this case. I didn't initially think it was a race thing, but I guess I shouldn't rule it out as being a factor.

Does your wife orgasm on your cock easily?

Similar to what a few others have said, maybe it’s more about his skill / cockshape rather than size and for her, his personality turns her on more. Because you’ve get superior feelings and you think bigger cock equals better person, you’ve psyched yourself out.

Thinking about your wife having intense frequent orgasms like your ex currently is - would be a massive turn on for you. That could be partial root of your feelings which you now equate with cuckold.

the black / white thing you only stated as observable fact. It’s got very little to do with it - and certainly not in a negative way.

 

[mk19]

To keep it simple, maybe you're into BBC's with white women. There's sites for that for a reason lol

 

[all4windy]

I doubt he is bigger than 8 inches. She probably is more attracted to him. Women are horrible at estimating size.

True

 

[Liftergio]

Had some similar experience where i was super into a girl from my school who i was seeing a lot, but nog having sex with.
She ended up hooking up with one of my friends.
She went out on a Saturday and called me the next morning.
So we know eachother for a year at this point and at some point she told me she was very sore, and told me about discomfort besides the usual ones if thats makes sense.
I asked her what happened?
She said she slept at a friends house, and there were two men, of which one fancied her. They became intoxicated and he apparantly could get in or had a hard time geting in.
Then i found out who it was and she had been seeing him many times, and now knowing it was a friend of mine, i steered the convo into that exact evening and he even told me about it serparately.

I am bi, but discretely, so my interest was winning it from the shame, and i finally went to him drunk as i was that night and asked if i could see it.
He first laughed and then seeing my expression, he quickly said are you serious?
I said yea man lets say i heard something. Then he replied, ok undid his belt and zipper and slid his hand down his jean shorts. Next a huge floppy thick slowly flopped out and he swung it around a little while saying This is what the girl last night saw when i stepped in the shower.
And i froze. I just awkwardly grinned and said wow Bro! next time they tried to mug me you can hit them with it. He smiled, and surprisingly easy hid that thing back in what now seemed like magic bulge eraser shorts. I had no idea. Then he described a girl who he said "couldnt take half" and "felt like she was dying"
I was now 100% sure it was her who he was talking about, to the car, and the shape of her big butt.
I kept seeing her, and a couple of moments even passed when we could hook up, but all i could think of when she was with me, was that... huge muscle pounding her guts out and her screaming in pleasure. Or the disappointment of my 7" barely satisfying her while she noticabley has a much less intense reaction than i imagined she would have with him.
Worst part is he stole everyones girlfriend. He is a small guy, about 5'5 - 5'6 but as harmless as he looks, news about him plowing through the local girls went around.
He now has a terrible substance addiction but i still wish him well, for telling me about it. And i also dont feel resent toward her, bacause, come on. I would do the same thing i think.
Its just been traumatizing for my self esteem thats all.

 

[Slam91]

Hey, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I wanted to share because it's an unfamiliar feeling for me and I was curious if anyone else has had a similar experience.

I'm pretty hung (about 8" and thick), and I'm used to being the biggest whoever my partner has had. Until recently, no woman has told me that they had been with a bigger guy, so it's been a source of pride for me. I consider myself pretty dominant and alpha and often fantasize about being the bull for couples. After catching up with my recent ex girlfriend though and hearing about her current man, that's all starting to change. The TLDR is that he is bigger than me and she admitted the sex is amazing, better than with me. No one has ever said that to me, and now it's giving me very strong cuckold feelings.

This ex (let's call her Lauren) and I dated for about 2 years. She's great, but we had opposite schedules and she ended up moving away for work, so we decided to split. We ended things on good terms and have kept in touch. Recently she brought up her boyfriend and I asked how things were going, and she said everything was great. I made a joking comment, hoping he wasn't another "Daniel" (an ex she had before me who she said had a small penis and came almost instantly). She replied and said "no, quite the opposite!!". So that piqued my interest. Here's how the convo went, but let me preface that she is not some sexual freak: she literally grew up on a farm and has the ultimate girl-next-door look. She got straight As in school and is super sweet and pretty shy. Kinda nerdy in a great way, but has a bangin body and an amazing bubble butt for a white girl. I was obsessed with it. Her current boyfriend is this ripped black guy that I think she met on a dating app. Anyways, here's how the convo went after she said "no, quite the opposite!!":

Me: "Oh, that's good! So he's big then?"
Lauren: "Ummm.... yes LOL"
Me: "Good for you! Not bigger than me I hope?? lol"
Lauren: <monkey covering mouth emoji>
Me: "Wow, good for you!"
Lauren: "Sorry, you asked!"
Me: "No, it's all good! You know I'm not the jealous type. Happy to hear you're getting the good stuff lol. So it sounds like the sex is good then?"
Lauren: "Its really good."
Me: "Awesome, I'm glad for you. I'm surprised you can take him if he's bigger than me!"
Lauren: "I know right?!"
Me: "How much bigger is he than me? Just curious"
Lauren: "Lol, why do you want to know?"
Me: "I dunno, it's kinda hot to think about"
Lauren: "Really? Why is that?"
(it took me a bit to figure out the best reply for this bc I didn't want to weird her out and I wanted her to keep talking)
Me: "Hard to explain! But it's hot to imagine you taking a really huge dick. That's probably weird for me to say lol. But part of it is also that I know you enjoyed mine, so you must really enjoy his, so it makes me happy that you're happy and having good sex."
Lauren: "Aww! That's not weird. It's actually pretty sweet!"
Lauren: "Yes, I do enjoy his. He's probably an inch or so bigger than you and maybe thicker too. And it curves in a way that feels amazing. It's also really pretty to look at (like yours!)"
Me: "Nice! Sounds like you hit the dick jackpot lol"
Lauren: "LOL I really did. And he really knows how to use it. I can't get enough lol"
Me: "That's so hot"
Lauren: "LOL you're funny. Are you sure you're OK with me saying things like that? I don't want to hurt feelings or make you jealous, you know I'm not like that. I'm only saying these things bc you asked!"
Me: "No, it's good, keep going! It's really hot to hear"
Lauren: "Lol are you getting turned on?"
Me: "Kinda, yeah!"
Lauren: "Really? You're so funny"
Me: <shrugging emoji>
Lauren: "but yeah, everything is good in the sex department."
Me: "Sounds like it, that's awesome. Sounds like some epic sex. Hope he gives it to you often!"
Lauren: "Almost every day, unless I'm too sore LOL. But even if I can't have sex, I at least will give him a BJ."
Lauren: "He tole me he wants a blowjob ever day and I think I've done it every day since. I actually really enjoy it. I like the challenge LOL"
Me: "Hot!! He's a lucky man..."
Lauren: "I'm lucky too though, for real. Sometimes I think I enjoy giving him head more than he does lol. Not that he doesn't like it, it's just that it turns me on to do it."
Me: "That's awesome. You think it turns you on because he's so big?"
Lauren: "Yeah, that's a big part of it. It's big but also beautiful. I get wet when I do it"
Lauren: "Sorry if that is TMI!! We can talk about something else if you want lol"
Me: "No, I appreciate you sharing this with me and love hearing about it! Thank you for being so open"
Lauren: "Thanks for being cool about it! You know I really enjoyed the sex we had too, right?"
Me: "I do, and I enjoyed it too, and you saying these things doesn't make me feel any different about anything, so we're all good."
Lauren: "OK cool. I'm happy to answer questions bc you seem to be enjoying it lol but let me know if I say something that hurts your feelings. I don't want that at all."
Me: "I know, and you're not at all, seriously. I'm really enjoying the convo."
Lauren: OK cool
Me: "So he asked to get a BJ every day and you get wet doing it, that is so hot."
Lauren: "Yeah, I often wake him up with one, first thing in the morning
Me: "What a way to start the day!!"
Lauren; "LOL, right?? But sometimes I stop before he cums because I want to have sex."
Me: "If you don't have sex, where does he cum?"
Lauren: "... I swallow it <monkey closing mouth emoji>"
Me: "Damn girl!! Amazing!! He is living the best life!"
(At this point I'm feeling some jealousy because she never swallowed me, ever, and she blew me maybe 2 times a month...But I'm not going to bring that up)
Lauren: LOL yup
Me: "Does he ask you to swallow it?"
Lauren: "No, actually. I just do it. I just kinda have an urge to do it and just go with it. I actually enjoy it."
Me: "That is so hot. I'm glad you are both benefiting from it and enjoying it."
Lauren:
Me: "Do you try to deepthroat it?"
Lauren: "I do, but I am not coming close lol. I practice though. He said he wants to train me lol."
Me: "Practice makes perfect!"
Lauren: "Lol yep! It's fun trying"
Me: "Damn, must be a hot sight. And the sex doesn't hurt?"
Lauren: "No, it feels amazing. He's gentle with me at first and then gets pretty dominant which I've found that I enjoy. Not like pain stuff, but he's strong and can toss me around lol"
Me: "Sounds like orgasms galore lol"
Lauren: "Seriously! I climax every time, and you know that is hard for me to do!"
(My jaw was on the ground at this point because her thing was that she had never cum from penetration - not with me, or with any guy before me. She would tell me she thought it was impossible for her. And now I'm hearing that she cums EVERY TIME with this guy....)
Me: "Amazing!! That is awesome, I'm so happy for you!!"
Lauren: "Thank you!! I'm happy too, you know I thought it would never happen."
Me: "What do you think it is that did it, the size?"
Lauren: "The size is a big part. The shape, how he uses it, I dunno... whatever it is, it works lol"
Me: "That's awesome, I'm glad to hear it!"
Lauren: "I even squirt sometimes!"
Me: "Woah!!"
(I am floored)
Lauren: "I know! I was so embarrassed when it happened the first time, I didn't know what was happening lol. Then it happened again and it would always coincide with a really big orgasm and I now can feel it coming. Crazy!!"
Me: "That is so hot. You must need to change your sheets often lol"
Lauren: "I do! We put an extra sheet down now LOL"
Me: "Lol amazing"
Me: "So this sounds like some best-ever type sex here. Is he a porn star or something??"
Lauren: "It really is. Nope, just a regular guy!"
(Hearing it's the best sex ever for her gave me a feeling in the pit of my stomach, but I was also rock hard)
Me: "Well you better not let him go, it sounds like you picked a winner there"
Lauren: "Oh, he's not going anywhere lol. I want to have sex with him for the rest of my life, I literally can't get enough lol. It's insane."
Lauren: ""That's another part of why I suck him every day, I want to keep him happy lol"
Me: "Damn, that's hot. I bet you guys look insanely hot having sex"
Lauren: "I think we do
Me: "He must love your ass. Is he obsessed with it like I was?"
Lauren: "Oh yeah lol. He's always grabbing it or smacking it. He wants me to wear booty shorts in the house all the time lol"
Me: "I don't blame him! Do you wear them?"
Lauren: "Yup Or just revealing underwear or a thong"
Me: "Holy fuck this is so hot"
Lauren: "lol"

( actually came at this point. I was so hard and was stroking in between texts, and the thought of my sweet, dorky ex walking around in booty shorts for this ripped black guy with a huge cock was too much. I busted an enormous load. Then I started coming down and the I felt a little awkward for asking all those questions, so I felt I should wrap it up. I basically told her that I should go, and thanks for sharing, and she said thanks for being cool and she asked me things about my life and my wife and we chatted a little longer about normal stuff.

Ever since, all I've been fantasizing about it the two of them together. Her cumming, squirting, swallowing his cum, worshipping his cock. I even think about this guy fucking my wife. Like, I have an urge to hand her over to him and let him make my wife's pussy his. Like he deserves her. I picture my wife and my ex sucking his cock together. I picture my wife walking around in booty shorts for him. Her sitting on his lap and kissing him while she strokes his cock. I've been watching more cuckold porn and I never used to. It's like I've gone from a "bull" to a "cuckold" after a single text conversation. I'm feeling submissive, especially towards this guy who I've never met. It's a wild feeling that I'm not used to. Has anyone else experienced something like this? Am I crazy for feeling this way? Is this a phase, or do you think this was something that's been inside me that just got unlocked?

Thanks for reading this wall of text!

Everybody likes a big dick, even guys with big dicks. Even straight guys. Even straight guys with big dicks. People find them fascinating. I'm fluid and a top with a pretty big dick but even I like bottoms with big dicks. I've even been with a couple of guys who were in the double digits. So, I can see how you can find it so alluring.

 

[nolbaby]

I had a similar conversation with an ex once. She was very hesitant to admit that the sex was better with her new guy because his dick was bigger, but she eventually confessed to it. She said it was the factor that made her love him more than she did me, also. Not that she only loves based on dick size, but she said the relationships were equally the best she had ever been in, and everything else about both of us was identical as far as how in love she was. The only thing he had that I didn't was a 10 inch dick, so she loved him more than me. A lot of people will hear these stories and try to claim that the girl has some deep issues of some sort, or that it is more about the alpha factor than the size of the dick, or that it has more to do with what she had for dinner the night before and whether it was a leap year or whatever else they want to say to avoid admitting that dick size really can and does matter so incredibly much to women.

 

[nolbaby]

I should mention what became of her and that guy- they dated for several months and she was totally in love and they were together constantly and then one day he ghosted her. just stopped responding to any attempt she made to contact him. and he didn't move or die or anything. eventually she found that other people she knew had seen him at social events recently. he totally just ghosted her. and she isn't crazy or violent or offensive or untrustworthy- meaning that he didn't ghost her for his own safety or anything like that. just decided he was done fucking her one day and never spoke to her again.

 

[Evenflow618]

I had a similar conversation with an ex once. She was very hesitant to admit that the sex was better with her new guy because his dick was bigger, but she eventually confessed to it. She said it was the factor that made her love him more than she did me, also. Not that she only loves based on dick size, but she said the relationships were equally the best she had ever been in, and everything else about both of us was identical as far as how in love she was. The only thing he had that I didn't was a 10 inch dick, so she loved him more than me. A lot of people will hear these stories and try to claim that the girl has some deep issues of some sort, or that it is more about the alpha factor than the size of the dick, or that it has more to do with what she had for dinner the night before and whether it was a leap year or whatever else they want to say to avoid admitting that dick size really can and does matter so incredibly much to women.

10 inches doesnt exist

 

[Liftergio]

10 inches doesnt exist

Yes youre right, i know about the contest and all. But that was more figuratively speaking, we were in basically an alley, this short dude and i winging it in a snap moment with just a phone flash, he whipped it....out, and then it swung around what looked like my forearms length of radiant white pale salami. I agree with you, but then it HAD to be 9 inches. And even counting the whole small guy, visually large penis out, i mean, big is big when seen irl and in proportion to surrouinding.

 

[DavidAlmeria]

If you’re big…..you’re big

 

[FlowC]

Hey, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I wanted to share because it's an unfamiliar feeling for me and I was curious if anyone else has had a similar experience.

I'm pretty hung (about 8" and thick), and I'm used to being the biggest whoever my partner has had. Until recently, no woman has told me that they had been with a bigger guy, so it's been a source of pride for me. I consider myself pretty dominant and alpha and often fantasize about being the bull for couples. After catching up with my recent ex girlfriend though and hearing about her current man, that's all starting to change. The TLDR is that he is bigger than me and she admitted the sex is amazing, better than with me. No one has ever said that to me, and now it's giving me very strong cuckold feelings.

This ex (let's call her Lauren) and I dated for about 2 years. She's great, but we had opposite schedules and she ended up moving away for work, so we decided to split. We ended things on good terms and have kept in touch. Recently she brought up her boyfriend and I asked how things were going, and she said everything was great. I made a joking comment, hoping he wasn't another "Daniel" (an ex she had before me who she said had a small penis and came almost instantly). She replied and said "no, quite the opposite!!". So that piqued my interest. Here's how the convo went, but let me preface that she is not some sexual freak: she literally grew up on a farm and has the ultimate girl-next-door look. She got straight As in school and is super sweet and pretty shy. Kinda nerdy in a great way, but has a bangin body and an amazing bubble butt for a white girl. I was obsessed with it. Her current boyfriend is this ripped black guy that I think she met on a dating app. Anyways, here's how the convo went after she said "no, quite the opposite!!":

Me: "Oh, that's good! So he's big then?"
Lauren: "Ummm.... yes LOL"
Me: "Good for you! Not bigger than me I hope?? lol"
Lauren: <monkey covering mouth emoji>
Me: "Wow, good for you!"
Lauren: "Sorry, you asked!"
Me: "No, it's all good! You know I'm not the jealous type. Happy to hear you're getting the good stuff lol. So it sounds like the sex is good then?"
Lauren: "Its really good."
Me: "Awesome, I'm glad for you. I'm surprised you can take him if he's bigger than me!"
Lauren: "I know right?!"
Me: "How much bigger is he than me? Just curious"
Lauren: "Lol, why do you want to know?"
Me: "I dunno, it's kinda hot to think about"
Lauren: "Really? Why is that?"
(it took me a bit to figure out the best reply for this bc I didn't want to weird her out and I wanted her to keep talking)
Me: "Hard to explain! But it's hot to imagine you taking a really huge dick. That's probably weird for me to say lol. But part of it is also that I know you enjoyed mine, so you must really enjoy his, so it makes me happy that you're happy and having good sex."
Lauren: "Aww! That's not weird. It's actually pretty sweet!"
Lauren: "Yes, I do enjoy his. He's probably an inch or so bigger than you and maybe thicker too. And it curves in a way that feels amazing. It's also really pretty to look at (like yours!)"
Me: "Nice! Sounds like you hit the dick jackpot lol"
Lauren: "LOL I really did. And he really knows how to use it. I can't get enough lol"
Me: "That's so hot"
Lauren: "LOL you're funny. Are you sure you're OK with me saying things like that? I don't want to hurt feelings or make you jealous, you know I'm not like that. I'm only saying these things bc you asked!"
Me: "No, it's good, keep going! It's really hot to hear"
Lauren: "Lol are you getting turned on?"
Me: "Kinda, yeah!"
Lauren: "Really? You're so funny"
Me: <shrugging emoji>
Lauren: "but yeah, everything is good in the sex department."
Me: "Sounds like it, that's awesome. Sounds like some epic sex. Hope he gives it to you often!"
Lauren: "Almost every day, unless I'm too sore LOL. But even if I can't have sex, I at least will give him a BJ."
Lauren: "He tole me he wants a blowjob ever day and I think I've done it every day since. I actually really enjoy it. I like the challenge LOL"
Me: "Hot!! He's a lucky man..."
Lauren: "I'm lucky too though, for real. Sometimes I think I enjoy giving him head more than he does lol. Not that he doesn't like it, it's just that it turns me on to do it."
Me: "That's awesome. You think it turns you on because he's so big?"
Lauren: "Yeah, that's a big part of it. It's big but also beautiful. I get wet when I do it"
Lauren: "Sorry if that is TMI!! We can talk about something else if you want lol"
Me: "No, I appreciate you sharing this with me and love hearing about it! Thank you for being so open"
Lauren: "Thanks for being cool about it! You know I really enjoyed the sex we had too, right?"
Me: "I do, and I enjoyed it too, and you saying these things doesn't make me feel any different about anything, so we're all good."
Lauren: "OK cool. I'm happy to answer questions bc you seem to be enjoying it lol but let me know if I say something that hurts your feelings. I don't want that at all."
Me: "I know, and you're not at all, seriously. I'm really enjoying the convo."
Lauren: OK cool
Me: "So he asked to get a BJ every day and you get wet doing it, that is so hot."
Lauren: "Yeah, I often wake him up with one, first thing in the morning
Me: "What a way to start the day!!"
Lauren; "LOL, right?? But sometimes I stop before he cums because I want to have sex."
Me: "If you don't have sex, where does he cum?"
Lauren: "... I swallow it <monkey closing mouth emoji>"
Me: "Damn girl!! Amazing!! He is living the best life!"
(At this point I'm feeling some jealousy because she never swallowed me, ever, and she blew me maybe 2 times a month...But I'm not going to bring that up)
Lauren: LOL yup
Me: "Does he ask you to swallow it?"
Lauren: "No, actually. I just do it. I just kinda have an urge to do it and just go with it. I actually enjoy it."
Me: "That is so hot. I'm glad you are both benefiting from it and enjoying it."
Lauren:
Me: "Do you try to deepthroat it?"
Lauren: "I do, but I am not coming close lol. I practice though. He said he wants to train me lol."
Me: "Practice makes perfect!"
Lauren: "Lol yep! It's fun trying"
Me: "Damn, must be a hot sight. And the sex doesn't hurt?"
Lauren: "No, it feels amazing. He's gentle with me at first and then gets pretty dominant which I've found that I enjoy. Not like pain stuff, but he's strong and can toss me around lol"
Me: "Sounds like orgasms galore lol"
Lauren: "Seriously! I climax every time, and you know that is hard for me to do!"
(My jaw was on the ground at this point because her thing was that she had never cum from penetration - not with me, or with any guy before me. She would tell me she thought it was impossible for her. And now I'm hearing that she cums EVERY TIME with this guy....)
Me: "Amazing!! That is awesome, I'm so happy for you!!"
Lauren: "Thank you!! I'm happy too, you know I thought it would never happen."
Me: "What do you think it is that did it, the size?"
Lauren: "The size is a big part. The shape, how he uses it, I dunno... whatever it is, it works lol"
Me: "That's awesome, I'm glad to hear it!"
Lauren: "I even squirt sometimes!"
Me: "Woah!!"
(I am floored)
Lauren: "I know! I was so embarrassed when it happened the first time, I didn't know what was happening lol. Then it happened again and it would always coincide with a really big orgasm and I now can feel it coming. Crazy!!"
Me: "That is so hot. You must need to change your sheets often lol"
Lauren: "I do! We put an extra sheet down now LOL"
Me: "Lol amazing"
Me: "So this sounds like some best-ever type sex here. Is he a porn star or something??"
Lauren: "It really is. Nope, just a regular guy!"
(Hearing it's the best sex ever for her gave me a feeling in the pit of my stomach, but I was also rock hard)
Me: "Well you better not let him go, it sounds like you picked a winner there"
Lauren: "Oh, he's not going anywhere lol. I want to have sex with him for the rest of my life, I literally can't get enough lol. It's insane."
Lauren: ""That's another part of why I suck him every day, I want to keep him happy lol"
Me: "Damn, that's hot. I bet you guys look insanely hot having sex"
Lauren: "I think we do
Me: "He must love your ass. Is he obsessed with it like I was?"
Lauren: "Oh yeah lol. He's always grabbing it or smacking it. He wants me to wear booty shorts in the house all the time lol"
Me: "I don't blame him! Do you wear them?"
Lauren: "Yup Or just revealing underwear or a thong"
Me: "Holy fuck this is so hot"
Lauren: "lol"

( actually came at this point. I was so hard and was stroking in between texts, and the thought of my sweet, dorky ex walking around in booty shorts for this ripped black guy with a huge cock was too much. I busted an enormous load. Then I started coming down and the I felt a little awkward for asking all those questions, so I felt I should wrap it up. I basically told her that I should go, and thanks for sharing, and she said thanks for being cool and she asked me things about my life and my wife and we chatted a little longer about normal stuff.

Ever since, all I've been fantasizing about it the two of them together. Her cumming, squirting, swallowing his cum, worshipping his cock. I even think about this guy fucking my wife. Like, I have an urge to hand her over to him and let him make my wife's pussy his. Like he deserves her. I picture my wife and my ex sucking his cock together. I picture my wife walking around in booty shorts for him. Her sitting on his lap and kissing him while she strokes his cock. I've been watching more cuckold porn and I never used to. It's like I've gone from a "bull" to a "cuckold" after a single text conversation. I'm feeling submissive, especially towards this guy who I've never met. It's a wild feeling that I'm not used to. Has anyone else experienced something like this? Am I crazy for feeling this way? Is this a phase, or do you think this was something that's been inside me that just got unlocked?

Thanks for reading this wall of text!

Again another story where straight women don't get oral sex.

 

[Botty222444]

Hey, not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I wanted to share because it's an unfamiliar feeling for me and I was curious if anyone else has had a similar experience.

I'm pretty hung (about 8" and thick), and I'm used to being the biggest whoever my partner has had. Until recently, no woman has told me that they had been with a bigger guy, so it's been a source of pride for me. I consider myself pretty dominant and alpha and often fantasize about being the bull for couples. After catching up with my recent ex girlfriend though and hearing about her current man, that's all starting to change. The TLDR is that he is bigger than me and she admitted the sex is amazing, better than with me. No one has ever said that to me, and now it's giving me very strong cuckold feelings.

This ex (let's call her Lauren) and I dated for about 2 years. She's great, but we had opposite schedules and she ended up moving away for work, so we decided to split. We ended things on good terms and have kept in touch. Recently she brought up her boyfriend and I asked how things were going, and she said everything was great. I made a joking comment, hoping he wasn't another "Daniel" (an ex she had before me who she said had a small penis and came almost instantly). She replied and said "no, quite the opposite!!". So that piqued my interest. Here's how the convo went, but let me preface that she is not some sexual freak: she literally grew up on a farm and has the ultimate girl-next-door look. She got straight As in school and is super sweet and pretty shy. Kinda nerdy in a great way, but has a bangin body and an amazing bubble butt for a white girl. I was obsessed with it. Her current boyfriend is this ripped black guy that I think she met on a dating app. Anyways, here's how the convo went after she said "no, quite the opposite!!":

Me: "Oh, that's good! So he's big then?"
Lauren: "Ummm.... yes LOL"
Me: "Good for you! Not bigger than me I hope?? lol"
Lauren: <monkey covering mouth emoji>
Me: "Wow, good for you!"
Lauren: "Sorry, you asked!"
Me: "No, it's all good! You know I'm not the jealous type. Happy to hear you're getting the good stuff lol. So it sounds like the sex is good then?"
Lauren: "Its really good."
Me: "Awesome, I'm glad for you. I'm surprised you can take him if he's bigger than me!"
Lauren: "I know right?!"
Me: "How much bigger is he than me? Just curious"
Lauren: "Lol, why do you want to know?"
Me: "I dunno, it's kinda hot to think about"
Lauren: "Really? Why is that?"
(it took me a bit to figure out the best reply for this bc I didn't want to weird her out and I wanted her to keep talking)
Me: "Hard to explain! But it's hot to imagine you taking a really huge dick. That's probably weird for me to say lol. But part of it is also that I know you enjoyed mine, so you must really enjoy his, so it makes me happy that you're happy and having good sex."
Lauren: "Aww! That's not weird. It's actually pretty sweet!"
Lauren: "Yes, I do enjoy his. He's probably an inch or so bigger than you and maybe thicker too. And it curves in a way that feels amazing. It's also really pretty to look at (like yours!)"
Me: "Nice! Sounds like you hit the dick jackpot lol"
Lauren: "LOL I really did. And he really knows how to use it. I can't get enough lol"
Me: "That's so hot"
Lauren: "LOL you're funny. Are you sure you're OK with me saying things like that? I don't want to hurt feelings or make you jealous, you know I'm not like that. I'm only saying these things bc you asked!"
Me: "No, it's good, keep going! It's really hot to hear"
Lauren: "Lol are you getting turned on?"
Me: "Kinda, yeah!"
Lauren: "Really? You're so funny"
Me: <shrugging emoji>
Lauren: "but yeah, everything is good in the sex department."
Me: "Sounds like it, that's awesome. Sounds like some epic sex. Hope he gives it to you often!"
Lauren: "Almost every day, unless I'm too sore LOL. But even if I can't have sex, I at least will give him a BJ."
Lauren: "He tole me he wants a blowjob ever day and I think I've done it every day since. I actually really enjoy it. I like the challenge LOL"
Me: "Hot!! He's a lucky man..."
Lauren: "I'm lucky too though, for real. Sometimes I think I enjoy giving him head more than he does lol. Not that he doesn't like it, it's just that it turns me on to do it."
Me: "That's awesome. You think it turns you on because he's so big?"
Lauren: "Yeah, that's a big part of it. It's big but also beautiful. I get wet when I do it"
Lauren: "Sorry if that is TMI!! We can talk about something else if you want lol"
Me: "No, I appreciate you sharing this with me and love hearing about it! Thank you for being so open"
Lauren: "Thanks for being cool about it! You know I really enjoyed the sex we had too, right?"
Me: "I do, and I enjoyed it too, and you saying these things doesn't make me feel any different about anything, so we're all good."
Lauren: "OK cool. I'm happy to answer questions bc you seem to be enjoying it lol but let me know if I say something that hurts your feelings. I don't want that at all."
Me: "I know, and you're not at all, seriously. I'm really enjoying the convo."
Lauren: OK cool
Me: "So he asked to get a BJ every day and you get wet doing it, that is so hot."
Lauren: "Yeah, I often wake him up with one, first thing in the morning
Me: "What a way to start the day!!"
Lauren; "LOL, right?? But sometimes I stop before he cums because I want to have sex."
Me: "If you don't have sex, where does he cum?"
Lauren: "... I swallow it <monkey closing mouth emoji>"
Me: "Damn girl!! Amazing!! He is living the best life!"
(At this point I'm feeling some jealousy because she never swallowed me, ever, and she blew me maybe 2 times a month...But I'm not going to bring that up)
Lauren: LOL yup
Me: "Does he ask you to swallow it?"
Lauren: "No, actually. I just do it. I just kinda have an urge to do it and just go with it. I actually enjoy it."
Me: "That is so hot. I'm glad you are both benefiting from it and enjoying it."
Lauren:
Me: "Do you try to deepthroat it?"
Lauren: "I do, but I am not coming close lol. I practice though. He said he wants to train me lol."
Me: "Practice makes perfect!"
Lauren: "Lol yep! It's fun trying"
Me: "Damn, must be a hot sight. And the sex doesn't hurt?"
Lauren: "No, it feels amazing. He's gentle with me at first and then gets pretty dominant which I've found that I enjoy. Not like pain stuff, but he's strong and can toss me around lol"
Me: "Sounds like orgasms galore lol"
Lauren: "Seriously! I climax every time, and you know that is hard for me to do!"
(My jaw was on the ground at this point because her thing was that she had never cum from penetration - not with me, or with any guy before me. She would tell me she thought it was impossible for her. And now I'm hearing that she cums EVERY TIME with this guy....)
Me: "Amazing!! That is awesome, I'm so happy for you!!"
Lauren: "Thank you!! I'm happy too, you know I thought it would never happen."
Me: "What do you think it is that did it, the size?"
Lauren: "The size is a big part. The shape, how he uses it, I dunno... whatever it is, it works lol"
Me: "That's awesome, I'm glad to hear it!"
Lauren: "I even squirt sometimes!"
Me: "Woah!!"
(I am floored)
Lauren: "I know! I was so embarrassed when it happened the first time, I didn't know what was happening lol. Then it happened again and it would always coincide with a really big orgasm and I now can feel it coming. Crazy!!"
Me: "That is so hot. You must need to change your sheets often lol"
Lauren: "I do! We put an extra sheet down now LOL"
Me: "Lol amazing"
Me: "So this sounds like some best-ever type sex here. Is he a porn star or something??"
Lauren: "It really is. Nope, just a regular guy!"
(Hearing it's the best sex ever for her gave me a feeling in the pit of my stomach, but I was also rock hard)
Me: "Well you better not let him go, it sounds like you picked a winner there"
Lauren: "Oh, he's not going anywhere lol. I want to have sex with him for the rest of my life, I literally can't get enough lol. It's insane."
Lauren: ""That's another part of why I suck him every day, I want to keep him happy lol"
Me: "Damn, that's hot. I bet you guys look insanely hot having sex"
Lauren: "I think we do
Me: "He must love your ass. Is he obsessed with it like I was?"
Lauren: "Oh yeah lol. He's always grabbing it or smacking it. He wants me to wear booty shorts in the house all the time lol"
Me: "I don't blame him! Do you wear them?"
Lauren: "Yup Or just revealing underwear or a thong"
Me: "Holy fuck this is so hot"
Lauren: "lol"

( actually came at this point. I was so hard and was stroking in between texts, and the thought of my sweet, dorky ex walking around in booty shorts for this ripped black guy with a huge cock was too much. I busted an enormous load. Then I started coming down and the I felt a little awkward for asking all those questions, so I felt I should wrap it up. I basically told her that I should go, and thanks for sharing, and she said thanks for being cool and she asked me things about my life and my wife and we chatted a little longer about normal stuff.

Ever since, all I've been fantasizing about it the two of them together. Her cumming, squirting, swallowing his cum, worshipping his cock. I even think about this guy fucking my wife. Like, I have an urge to hand her over to him and let him make my wife's pussy his. Like he deserves her. I picture my wife and my ex sucking his cock together. I picture my wife walking around in booty shorts for him. Her sitting on his lap and kissing him while she strokes his cock. I've been watching more cuckold porn and I never used to. It's like I've gone from a "bull" to a "cuckold" after a single text conversation. I'm feeling submissive, especially towards this guy who I've never met. It's a wild feeling that I'm not used to. Has anyone else experienced something like this? Am I crazy for feeling this way? Is this a phase, or do you think this was something that's been inside me that just got unlocked?

Thanks for reading this wall of text!

Jesus dude how did you remember the entire convo verbatim but yea I definitely feel you, it’s like when your used to being the tallest out of your friend and you see a 6’7 dude with Everything ! It’s like wtf, you should focus on yourself and not get psyched out. There’s always somebody bigger and richer, you do you and be happy for her.

 

[sandiasky9]

one of my favorite relationships of the pasts... okay, one of the two that were perfect for a person like me (obsessed with my hobbies and somewhat "unavailable" to other people having spent my life happy with one or two male friends and part time gf and lots of acquaintances from the divergent hobbies)... we would share a place for a stretch when she was in between jobs/adventures and she followed me to three different states as my job changed locations... anyway, in the Southwest she had come across an old fashioned cowboy type... she "dated" him when we were in a off phase, just friends not friends with bennies sharing rent/whatever... well, she would hook up with him now and again after moving into my, at the time, really cool place in the theatre district of downtown...

it was obvious when she had spent time with him because she let me know as i started something frisky that "she needed another day to recover"....

never been one to ask for details but did get some info through topical banter - he ran a horse ranch thus the old fashioned cowboy thing... one time she apologized though unneeded given when she needed to "heal" from him she gave great and sensual oral with something along the lines of "sometimes i wish he was not so big"

so i do not know what is wrong with me but that turned me on to know she periodically got stretched out in a time of passion... all my go to porn vids have one thing in common - the female "star" of the vid being passionate resembles an ex or current gf... having been with them intimately make them my favorite "porn" stars

 

[Helixo]

I understand that for some men it's a game of who's the alpha but it's only a game played by our minds. My wife sometimes wonders how she would feel with a 7" or if she could still take, after some extended foreplay, her huge ex (9"). Other times she thinks how the hell she could take that monster and thinks it was over her limits. To help her decide if she stills want to be with me or she needs something bigger I even tried to arrange a guy with a 7.5" dick to fuck her. The guy asked me about her past and when I told him her ex was at least 8" and probably closer to 9" he refused to fuck my wife. He wanted to be the biggest and anything else made him feel inadequate.

Anyway, the dick game is important both for men and women and the size is not the first thing in a relationship but it's important sometimes. I have two relevant stories.

The first story is closer to now chronologically but less important so I start from this one. I was working out of town for quite some time. I made some friends over there. One of them was a tall funny guy with a big flaccid dick. He was very good with women and fucked many of them even though he was much older than some of them. One of his GF was a divorced woman with two children. She was a tall blond woman with big boobs. One could understand she was a sex maniac only by looking at her. I had a relationship with my wife back then and I wasn't interested in finding other women so I had the same approach to everyone (polite, honest, straight forward, trying to help all the time). Once the blond woman (she worked at the same company) saw me fixing something while being hung from the ceiling. I don't know what happened, probably she never thought a scientist (nerd) could be a handyman, but the same evening she found my profile in Facebook and started texting me. One led to the other and she asked me if I wanted to go with her and 2 other colleagues to a party. I didn't have a car back then (the work was 1/4 mile from home) and accepted since I was invited to the party and didn't have a way to go. She then came without the colleagues and told me they found another car. As she was driving to the party (a terrible driver, I was afraid I would attend the party at the paradise that night) she turned to a dead end road and started a sexual assault: kissing me, touching me, trying to unzip my pants etc. It was very awkward for me since I was engaged, I was a friend with her ex BF (the one with the big dick) and she didn't mention sex action will take place. Anyway... she managed to unzip my pants, she started sucking my small dick but she couldn't make me hard. My thoughts were: "fuck her and we are on our way, it's just a fuck, nothing more". I didn't want to have a fight cause she could leave me there and I didn't have a way to return home (20 miles in a dark rural area with wild animals around and you don't have a good chance to survive) + we worked together + I knew her ex BF + I wasn't local so everybody would take her word against mine. After a while she got bored and stopped the attack so we went back home (no party after all). She then started seeing ghosts. A "good morning" meant I was hinting on her. If I was sitting at the same table (people from the same company and she was always second to come) it was an effort to approach her etc. Once she called me and we had a long talk but she wouldn't listen. Finally I found a solution to my problem: I told her that I knew her ex BF was huge and I couldn't compete with his big dick so I had a SPH thing and couldn't get it hard while my mind sent me pictures of him fucking her. It was the perfect excuse for a dick addict like her and something she accepted at once. "Big dicks are for pleasure and you don't have one", she told me. "You could be a perfect relationship but you are engaged so it was better we didn't fuck. Don't contact me again.", she said. Lucky me... fortunately I returned back home after 2 months and escaped this crazy woman.

The second story is about my ex. I met her while we were both waiting for the bus. We exchanged mails and social media and that was it. She had an affair and I was alone (1-2 months after I broke up with my ex GF). We didn't talk for almost a year (11 months) and one day during summer I was bored and then I saw her online and we started talking. I was at my home town studying for my phd. She was at her home town but she was a student at another town and the only thing she had to do then was study for the exams on September. We talked much, we had many things in common, and then we started exchanging information on relationships. She told me she had a BF but being together since high school was difficult, she wanted to experiment with other guys. When she returned to the university she met a local guy. She told me he was a good fuck, he was popular with women cause he had a big dick (7" very thick) and was cute. All that happened after we first met (let's say September). So she broke up with her BF during Christmas (after a night of fucking his brains out with the new skills she learned from the big dick guy and crying afterwards for cheating on him) and after that, up to the August we talked, it was the same pattern: out of the home town, university, studying, every now and then fucking with the big dick guy. She had a crash with the new guy but then she found out he was fucking many women except her and she stopped thinking about a relationship. He used him as a sex teacher. After the exams she wanted to relax for while and since she knew me and had a friend who could give her a room to stay she decided to come visit me. We went out together and after the second date she came over to my place and we had sex. I knew she was ready to fuck and I was prepared. I fucked her twice that night. The first session was 45min and she came twice. The second session was 30min, she came once. "It's the first time I orgasm 3 times in a row", she told me. At the same moment she arrived back at the city she was studying she called me. She told me she wanted a relationship. After that we started a relationship while being away from each other. We were both in love and we tried to make it work. I helped her with her studies, she was coming to visit me for extended periods of time, she used the pill so she asked me to remove the condom and that I she preferred to cum inside her cause she really liked to feel my semen; she felt I was hers. We took sex to another level since we both liked to experiment and we are good lovers. She then finished her studies, returned to her home town, started working part time and tried to find a permanent job. I was visiting her driving 700 miles every 15 days, she was visiting me, I met her parents and everything was leading to an engagement (and marriage). Then some strange things happened. One time she came to visit me and her pussy was itching. We visited a doctor and the doctor said it was an infection or something that is transferred from men to women or from the toilet to women. We both used antibiotics and everything was ok. But this thing troubled me a lot. She was working but she was also going out with friends and suddenly here comes an infection? I started using condom again but there was no problem with her behavior so I don't think there was another guy. Another thing was that during vacation every-time she saw a big dick (big bulge to be exact) it was the same pattern: "I can take that big cock". It was like she was searching for a big dick all the time. I knew she was measuring dicks since she told me how big was mine, her big dick ex and her other ex. She was into sex and dicks big time. I knew her high school lover had a big flaccid (5") with no growing when erect. I knew about the 7" very thick dick of her ex etc. After a while a health problem in her family made her very distracted without telling me what the problem was (she just told me there was a problem and after 2 months I learned what it was about). She even asked me for a break in our relationship. I was furious since we had started building our home. After 2 months she revealed the problem but things were still very cold between us. We decided to go to a neutral ground and talk. We stayed together for a weekend. She tried to have sex but it was like trying to make contact between north and south pole of a magnet. I woke up in the middle of the night asking her who was the other guy. At first she refused that she had another guy but finally she admitted an old classmate asked her out. They went out a couple of times (more with other friends) but nothing happened. Finally one night he brought her back home, they kissed and the guy tried to have sex with her. He even took his dick out and asked her to touch it and suck it. She refused (at least this is what she told me) and went back home running and crying cause she understood what she just did. She was sick afterwards and the relationship with the other guy ended there but she was feeling guilty + the health problem so she asked me to break up. I decided to forgive her but we both took the decision to stay away for a while. In the meantime a girl was hitting on me so, after the break up with my ex, it was a good time to try a new relationship. The new girl was a sex addict too and very experienced. We fucked for 2 months. She was the one told me about 7" being the ideal size. She though my dick was smaller than the ideal but I was a good fuck since we had sex 3 times a day for 45min each session (pure fucking not foreplay) and no-one ever made her orgasm 2 times during a session. She had an ex with 7" "who would be very jealous if I tell him what a good lover you are and about your stamina". After the 2 months though she asked me to marry her. I wasn't ready for such a step and after all we started the relationship for the pure joy of sex. It wasn't a serious relationship. So, after a big fight ("you fucked me like no-one else, I gave you everything I sexually got and now you are about to leave me"), I decided to leave her. I was lucky since my ex called me and wanted to meet me. So that was a new beginning to our relationship... I thought. The problem was that I was still angry from the things she had done but she was ready for an engagement. I then went to another town to work for a while (1st story). There my GF came to visit me couple of times but there I also met a new girl (she is my wife now). We both had relationships, both cheated and finally got married. Before that though my GF came to visit me; she even met the new GF (crazy things) without knowing who she was (she even told me she was beautiful). During the summer I decided to talk to my GF (and my wife to her BF) about the new GF. We talked much, both cried, we went for a weekend together where we had perfect sex, not fighting, just pure love (she had one orgasm after the other) but decided to let the summer pass and see after that what our final decision would be. At the end of August, just before vacations were over, GF had to go to a new town to work (the town she was studying). All summer we talked so I decided to drive around 800 miles to take her from her home town to the other town, help her unpack and return back to my home town since I had to work the next day. All went perfectly except one thing: my GF had arranged for her ex big dick BF to come over and fuck her. Even though she was still in love with me (as she said), even though all summer she didn't have mood to go out and have fun or even eat, she was in the mood for big dick. "It was the perfect medicine to forget you, at least try to", she told me. It's almost 15 years since then, we still talk with my ex (during birthdays only), we are both married with children (no, she didn't marry her big dick ex), but last time we talked (last year) I was in the mood for confessions and made her tell me everything. That big dick was unforgettable for her and it was her medicine every time she was in trouble. I believe she is still in love with me thing that she admitted*, but not directly, but big dick has done its miracle: she managed to get away from me and find a husband.

* She told me 3 things and done another:
1. She told me that the first two times she fucked her husband she was riding him with closed eyes and when she opened her eyes saw him instead of me (with her eyes closed she was thinking about fucking me). She jumped from the bed and run and the poor guy didn't know what was wrong.
2. Her husband has the same name and is from the same birthplace. "Nice replacement you got there", told her. "Indeed, I found a substitute...", was her reaction. And then she told me everything (read below).
3. Her line of thinking was something like this: "You changed my world, you changed everything for me, you fucked my mind and then you fucked my pussy and from that time you fuck my mind every time I think of you. From time to time I have told you stupid things, like I would like to be friends with your wife. The truth is I can't see you again cause it hurts and I will leave everything behind for you: husband, kids, everything. It's very hard to avoid someone you want to see but it must be done. I found a substitute, a good husband, I fucked a big dick to forget you for a while so I can go on with my life, but I it was all an effort to forget you. I believe everything is done for a reason, I feel blessed I have such a good husband and 2 wonderful kids, but I feel sorry it didn't go well with us. I have never said these things to anyone, I even told lies to my friends. They attacked you, they deleted you from social media to cut all bridges, but I still have all your friends as common friends to learn your news. I'm sorry but I will not talk to you again after all the things I revealed to you tonight."
4. And that was it. No contact after that, no wishes for my birthday, nothing. Told my wife about our conversation since she knows everything about my ex. Her reaction was cool and 100% on target: "You were made for each other, I know that, I have already told you that, all she has to do is ring our doorbell and you are gone for good, but now we are all stuck and we should live with our decisions. You always tell me about big dick, my ex and other stupid things. I left my HUGE dick BF for your dick. She fucked a big dick to forget you and she can't even talk to you right now, not even see you. Now cut all the bullshit about big dicks and act like all this conversation never happened. We have kids and all we have is each other and nothing more."

 

[Don Logan]

Whoa. What?

 

[shiroikoibito]

Isn't that cuckold? I would say it's pretty normal

 

[chesticles55]

Isn't that cuckold? I would say it's pretty normal

Some segments of society like to sell the idea it’s normal. It most definitely is not normal.

 

[8Cylinder]

I completely disagree with the poster Bellavie, above. The fact that he read it may mean that he, too has a marginal attraction to the situation. Otherwise, wouldn't he have just moved on? What do you say, Bellavie?

Most humans have a secret turn-on that they would possibly be ashamed of revealing, but in doing so releases a feeling of liberation that is exhilerating. It is also normal to at first deny the attraction you feel.

I remember my first time at a nude beach and working up the nerve to shed my swimsuit and walk around, swim and join others more versed in the feeling of the breeze against your naked body, the lack of shame at exposing yourself to others doing the same, and the enjoyment of being looked at while looking myself.

Since that time many years ago, I've visited nude beaches all over the world and can see that people everywhere have the same tendencies. So hearing about sex and how hot that is for the OP's ex is another case in point. It just proves that the liberty to do what you never have can be very exciting. Not unlike bungee jumping, roller coasters, or skydiving. Sex should not be so off limits... humans are sexual creatures with more in the game than breeding for reproduction.

 

[JonoHari]

I can completely relate to your feelings OP. 12 years ago I had a fling with a work colleague and although there was more to it than just size she really loved that my cock is so big. She’d never experienced one like mine before and always told me how great it felt. Our relationship ended when our partners found out and she ended up moving away but we secretly stayed in touch.

A few years later she and her bf split up and she decided she wanted some fun and joined various dating apps as well as a swingers site where she had her pick of single men. It was her first opportunity since me to have big cock and by her own admission she was like a kid in a sweet shop!

I had very similar feelings to the OP when I got her to tell me about some of the guys she hooked up with. Especially when I asked her if any of them were bigger than me and she coyly admitted that they were. I then pressed her by asking if I was still in her top 3 and said no. Top 5 then? She took a while to reply before eventually telling me “no not top 5 but still in the top 10 I think”. I was stunned!