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I stumbled on this link, and thought of @Snarky_succubus immediately.
What’s the Best Way to Compliment a Fit Girl? [Or: What NOT to say to a fit girl!]
Compliments are a minefield, they can come across as objectifying, demeaning/negging (for a girl, little bitch boy, please, we are women. Call us girl, and we think of you as boys), note the cute and kind comment followed by a deflator, or thirsty.
Compliments when men are surprised to see women in “their” manly spaces are even more problematic.
It’s usually up to the recipient to “excuse” a double pronged statement.
But, the gym, the basketball court, the trail, even the ice, is not exclusively male domain.
What weird compliments (well intended or not) have flown your way just because men thought of something (place, activity) as “theirs?”
I’ve been lucky, and on trail, people are usually cool. I’ve had comments on my speed/endurance (it was the latter. They took more breaks, so I made more miles in the same timeframe).
Working in concert production, problem solving was often praised.
What’s the Best Way to Compliment a Fit Girl? [Or: What NOT to say to a fit girl!]
Compliments are a minefield, they can come across as objectifying, demeaning/negging (for a girl, little bitch boy, please, we are women. Call us girl, and we think of you as boys), note the cute and kind comment followed by a deflator, or thirsty.
Compliments when men are surprised to see women in “their” manly spaces are even more problematic.
It’s usually up to the recipient to “excuse” a double pronged statement.
But, the gym, the basketball court, the trail, even the ice, is not exclusively male domain.
What weird compliments (well intended or not) have flown your way just because men thought of something (place, activity) as “theirs?”
I’ve been lucky, and on trail, people are usually cool. I’ve had comments on my speed/endurance (it was the latter. They took more breaks, so I made more miles in the same timeframe).
Working in concert production, problem solving was often praised.