Even if he's caught me looking at his dick multiple times but still shows to me, and looks at me as he's undressing? After I told him he looks amazing?
Guy I've wanted to see naked for ages gets naked in locker room when we are alone...
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Some guys like the validation and he feels safe showing off in the locker room because it's not a place it's inappropriate to be naked. I'm not saying for sure he has no interest I'm just saying you need to allow for that possibility. Or that he DOES have interest but what's happening now is as far as he is willing to take it at the moment.
Yeah, I think that is what this is. I saw him again, he met me with a fist pump and big smile in the sauna. He asked about my weekend because I had told him I went out with someone. In the sauna asked about my sleep patterns, gave advice, asked what I do for work, we had a nice convo.. he hasn't told me if he's single yet or who his partner is. But he's really open, friendly and not ashamed of his body at all. I love complimenting him.
He told me he's going into the jacuzzi to sort of lead me there. He held eye contact a lot in the sauna which I loved. Opened up about his job etc. He called me 'big guy' as he left the shower area even though I'm taller than him and thinner, and he's shorter but much more bulky and muscley. Again, his son was in the changing room with him so he changed dynamic and didn't really talk to me. But I really like him. I suppose it is all platonic for him, but sadly feel myself getting feelings for him.. I'd love if he'd get closer to me. Want to know what to say to find out? Should I test touching his shoulder or similar, or ask if he wants to hang out after gym?
Can't you both just enjoy a little exhibitionism? You're gay he's straight, you both get off a little being nude. nobody likes being stared at, but to be admired is a compliment. I don't like the over sexualization of these spaces. I agree they are inherently sexual, but that's if you have relationships with the people in the room. It's not sexy to ogle over a stranger in hopes of some telepathic connection that leads to reciprocity. It's sexy to show off the body you're working hard on.
You should compliment him on the gym floor and just be a nice guy and it could always lead to more, but i would lose any expectations. Expectations are not sexy unfortunately, and often just come off as desperation or general ass-hole-ery. I do enjoy the idea of meeting someone sexy at the gym and having a hot moment or hitting it off, but it's not really fair to everyone else there to use the space in that way.
I would change my mind in situations if you convinced me though im sure. I just think that it can be unfair to the average joe who just wants some peace changing. But also, it's almost poetically anti-patriarchal to give them the experience of the male gaze, as straight's have plagued women with forever. Sorry if this is dumb i am a little baked
You should compliment him on the gym floor and just be a nice guy and it could always lead to more, but i would lose any expectations. Expectations are not sexy unfortunately, and often just come off as desperation or general ass-hole-ery. I do enjoy the idea of meeting someone sexy at the gym and having a hot moment or hitting it off, but it's not really fair to everyone else there to use the space in that way.
I would change my mind in situations if you convinced me though im sure. I just think that it can be unfair to the average joe who just wants some peace changing. But also, it's almost poetically anti-patriarchal to give them the experience of the male gaze, as straight's have plagued women with forever. Sorry if this is dumb i am a little baked
This guy seemed pretty happy and comfortable over time...
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