Have you ever been groped without consent first?

[savageblue]

Got my ass groped in the middle of the street by some older girl when I was in my late teens. No words exchanged, she just passed by me and reached for it
Once, on a packed subway, with no chance of moving, the guy in front of me was clearly having fun, rubbing the back of his hand against the bulge in my jeans. Not vigorously, just enough for him to have fun and for me to wonder at first if It was intentional or not (but after a couple of minutes of him NOT moving the hand, all doubts were cleared). It was not consensual and it felt weird. My dick started reacting, obviously, but it was kind of... I don't know... un uncomfortable compliment, if it makes sense?

 

[AllieHeidi]

No. Thankfully, no one has been quite that stupid.

 

[erpap]

NYC in a restaurant! The waiter sat next to me and took my older and when I was done he took his hand and squeezed my crotch.

 

[Rob1hallz]

Guy on the NYC subway. I enjoyed it and was disappointed when he got off. without getting me off, lol

 

[marriedasian]

Strangers?... never...

Friends and my wife, ALL THE FREAKING TIME! Like nobody asks for consent anymore. It's fun and playful at times but also dang annoying too. To be fair to my wife, I don't ask for consent either, but I always ask when it comes to our friends and 95% of the time, it's always a "yes".

 

[halcyondays]

In an elevator at work I felt a hand on the back of my thigh move up and cup my butt. Her fingers up the inside of my thigh gave me a bit of a wedgie feeling for and brushing my ballsack though loose suit trousers. She was the married head of Human Resources responsible for harassment training. Me mid-30s, she older. It led to an affair.

 

[ILoveGames48]

Does a guy holding your arms while another cops a feel count

 

[bigbucky]

a gal once thrust her hand in my jeans in a crowded bar. "I need this." and she got it. my female boss rubbed my cock over my slacks twice. another gal sat on my lap and used her little finger to trace my girth, her eyes widened, and then a big grin. her husband was standing 10 ft away and had no idea. another time a gal grabbed my junk from behind as I sat down on a backless bar stool. she gasped a little, and later told me "you're big".

 

[likitisplit]

Yes, at a concert while down on the floor an unknown hand reached through the crown and begs massage me. Never knew who.

 

[Jacksbiguncutcock]

Yes I have been groped many times, mostly by women but sometimes by men. I’m very well hung and I wear clothes that make it obvious. I love it!!!

 

[dreamer20]

I (@ 26) had a middle-aged friend/"Larry" who invited me, and 3 others, to his home for dinner. I had a slender frame and wore shorts. At one point 3 men were at the dinner table, me seated between Larry and a man I shall call "Dillon", both of them being heavy-set men. Dillon was smiling whilst I conversed with Larry. Our conversation was interrupted, and I literally cried out "Yipe!", as Dillon had suddenly grabbed my dick. Larry laughed. I instinctively felt this was some set up by sex fiends who didn't know the meaning of the word "No".

 

[playklax01]

When it's happened, I generally took it as a compliment unless the groper seemed to be too aggressive. It's happened casually in public as well as in more private settings such as sex parties where consent is assumed. Bars and clubs are a bit trickier because sometimes there is liquor involved and people don't know how to take "no" for an answer if I'm not in the mood.

Same here. Back in the day when I was a hot twink and clubbed every night, I got groped constantly and took it as a compliment too. No one went overboard and it superficially boosted my self esteem.

 

[ILoveGames48]

I don’t mind being groped.. or pantsed or anything of the sort .. that’s all in fun.. but I do hate being “ bag tagged” that shit hurts

 

[chrisrobin]

What happened and how did you react? I have had men and women playfully grab my crotch and butt. Some of it has been consensual but other times strangers have just grabbed handfuls out of nowhere.

Its always a surprise and hopefully meant as a compliment, though a couple of times when I was very young they were from men old enough to have known better. In those cases I didnt smile but moved away - message understood.

 

[Rooker]

It isn’t a compliment if it is non-consensual. They’re looking for a victim.

 

[AllieHeidi]

After reading most of these responses, assuming they're true, there seems to be a stark difference between how males and females respond to what is, by all accounts, sexual assault by strangers.

Can someone please explain to me how your initial reaction to having this happen to you isn't to get the person to stop? Violently if necessary? I can understand the "freeze" reaction when you're startled or don't know what to do. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about allowing it to happen because you get some sort of "enjoyment." This doesn't compute for me because...what??

Let this same question be posted on a forum frequented by mostly females and you would definitely notice a difference in the tone of the responses. I refuse to believe that most males enjoy when this happens to them. I think the sample size is just screwed up (LPSG may just have an unusually high number of users who would find this endearing for various reasons). Gotta be. Because, again...WHAT??

 

[Topher the Gopher]

I think it's because gay men and men in general are less inhibited, for better or worse, and less intimidated by other men. I agree, it's kind of weird, but if it was done by someone in a gay bar by someone I would welcome, then I wouldn't mind so much. I imagine I'd be a bit assertive because of it, though.

 

[AllieHeidi]

men in general are less inhibited

Men are also socialized to be takers and to always be in control/power, namely over others. Sadly, I think this socialization lends itself to having a poor concept of boundaries. In both directions.

 

[Naughty Teacher]

This usually happens to me when I’m in a gay bar. It’s a weird kind of compliment, I suppose.

 

[Rooker]

After reading most of these responses, assuming they're true, there seems to be a stark difference between how males and females respond to what is, by all accounts, sexual assault by strangers.

Can someone please explain to me how your initial reaction to having this happen to you isn't to get the person to stop? Violently if necessary? I can understand the "freeze" reaction when you're startled or don't know what to do. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about allowing it to happen because you get some sort of "enjoyment." This doesn't compute for me because...what??

Let this same question be posted on a forum frequented by mostly females and you would definitely notice a difference in the tone of the responses. I refuse to believe that most males enjoy when this happens to them. I think the sample size is just screwed up (LPSG may just have an unusually high number of users who would find this endearing for various reasons). Gotta be. Because, again...WHAT??

I don’t think I’m your target audience for this question, but I do have some thoughts.

With women, I immediately removed them from my body. The only exception was one of the lap dancers because of logistics. There is a physical threat aspect to it. They were not a threat to me so really I just had to physically push them away and tell them to back off.

With the guys, multiple of them responded with a comment about how I was homophonic, or how I needed to “lighten up”. The complexity of that is if I punched them, I was gay-bashing homophobe.

I’ve spoken with several women about these things. Their experiences and mine. I have been creeped on much less than