How do you test the waters if you don't know a guy's orientation?

[slutboi69]

Will be going on vacation to a resort soon and figure it might be a good opportunity for some fun. Problem is, how the hell do I test the waters with a guy I find attractive if I don't know his sexuality?
Am I supposed to just rely on Grindr? lmao

This resort is in Cuba if that matters lol

 

[chrissal480]

Learning to figure out who’s gay or not is something learn at younger ages ..(like 18 -19 ) and then you just take chances

The funny thing is some guys I’ve flirted with and they say they weren’t gay but say they’ll let me suck them off ..

All you can do is give them the eye — the glance n stare up and down their bodies and hope someone takes the bait

 

[dfw051980]

Will be going on vacation to a resort soon and figure it might be a good opportunity for some fun. Problem is, how the hell do I test the waters with a guy I find attractive if I don't know his sexuality?
Am I supposed to just rely on Grindr? lmao

This resort is in Cuba if that matters lol

Ask them their interests, i.e., favorite music artists (he say something like Ariana Grande or Taylor Swift.... thats a sign lol).

Ask if hes traveling alone or not. If hes straight he will probably say wife or GF (though of course that still doesnt mean hes not down for some DL play).

And honestly its best to just throw out some incognito hints about yourself. Let him come to you. If you are talking to people within the resort you probably have greater leeway to flirt with strangers but if its outside the resort be wary (not sure what Cuba's thoughts on homosexuality are).

 

[LPSG Simon]

Am I supposed to just rely on Grindr? lmao

This made me a little sad. I used to know one person who thought that they only appropriate way to flirt with someone was on an app because that was the only way to avoid sexually harassing people (through context I guess). IMO people who dont practice the art of flirting in person are really missing out.

Don't get me wrong, consent is important - if you get rebuffed, shut it off like a light switch and MOVE ON, and if someone happens to be working at the time, really really pay attention to this. Even if you think there's a spark. Not everyone wants that kind of attention at their job and sometimes they're being friendly because that's what is expected and it's honestly better for tips.

Usually, you can tell by the eye contact. If you're going somewhere like the Gran Mathu Rainbow, this should not be a problem. Except, just dont expect the staff to be open to advances simply because they work there (see above).

 

[Boaxy]

Cuba, (although the beaches are beautiful) which is a conservative/anti LGBTQ ish?, (I know recently laws were literally passed in Cuba a couple of years ago) country, and also a country which as a tourist in general you have to be mindful/careful of (scams, muggings, police badgering etc.). In order words, Cuba isn't Paris, Rome, Amsterdam, Berlin etc.

But I'm assuming you're gonna be in Havana, or off the beach/Coast, so I guess statistically there would be some guys into other guys there.

I don't know if guys use Grindr/Apps in Cuba, and even if they did, not every guy is on there. So don't totally rely on that, even if you can.

Honestly, if there is a guy who is alone and you don't see him with a girlfriend/wife, (or if he is with a group of people or other guys, it's not obvious that he's Straight, and/or unavailable, because there probably would be guys of all categories in Cuba who are down idk lol) strike up conversation (I hope you speak Spanish), and see what happens. Worst case is he is going to say no not interested, but yeah. Hope you have a great trip regardless.

 

[theplayerking]

Exploring interest with other men has always been tricky for many reasons. He might be straight, or he might not be into you physically, or he might not like casual hookups, etc. We have taken to apps like Grindr because it removes so much of this potential awkwardness. If a guy’s not into me, personally I much prefer that he simply not respond to a txt rather than have to say something to my face.

That being said, the most effective way of expressing sexual interest is lingering eye contact. Most men do not look each other directly in the eye any longer than necessary unless they want to fight or fuck. If a guy senses a sexual interest in your gaze he will either pull back or lean in.

If he pulls back after a couple of tries, just let it go and pretend that nothing happened. Glances are also useful as, unlike words, they can be dismissed without too much awkwardness.