I’m thinking you have not been in contact while she was married, and now, widowed, you seem to see her as “on the market* or *fair game.*
I'm pretty sure this is exactly what happened to my aunt when my uncle was murdered. There were a lot of guys at the funeral from the high school her and my mom went to, and my mom pointed out that a few of them had mad crushes on her and were jealous of my uncle when he got with her.
If they hadn't caught the killer before the funeral, I think that I, lowkey, would've wondered if they put a hit out on my uncle. A couple of them were just a little
too nice to my aunt at the funeral. Pretty sure they just showed up to confirm that he was really gone.
Anyway, it depends on the person (not just women) how long it takes them to start dating again after the death of a spouse. Some may never date again. My aunt is still single, and this incident happened several years ago. She just focused on raising her kids.