Love this. Very interesting topic and definitely one that needs more open discussion.
Sexuality is by far one of the most complicated things and experiences I’ve ever come close with. It’s fluid, no doubt. But it’s also shaped in so many ways that we just don’t even have the capability to understand exactly how-when-what and why it shapes us.
At some point I believe every man has it in them to be or to later become attracted to another man. For some this window opens up during his first years, for others during puberty etc. Our reactions to these "windows" are probably one of the major things that determine in which way our sexualities develop.
Then there’s the complexity of human nature. In many ways sex is what drives us throughout most of the things we do. It’s in our nature to keep the species alive, regardless of our sexuality. So most of us have this unstoppable hunger for intimacy. Yet we can’t be out there making babies 24/7. So what do we do with this need? We try to tame it maybe and to some extent we succeed but you can only tame a lion to a certain level. Its predator nature always comes out in the end. I guess what I’m trying to say is that our nature can lead us to places we didn’t expect to visit and yet when we do we may grow to like them and they may even shape us.
I expect more and more men to become bisexual in the coming years and decades. And I’m not just talking about more men openly identifying as bisexual. Since we are all shaped by our surroundings to at least some extent I think this will be the case. And I say that without any doubt in my mind. Men have their own biological nature just as women do and therefor some things are written in stone. Yet so many things aren’t. When you look at our culture and in what direction it’s going it’s easy to see that men are "allowed" to be more and more vain. I don’t want to use the term "more feminine" but in general men are expected to take better and better care of their physical appearance in a way that smoothens their masculinity. And this changes fashion, culture, education, self realization, interests, topics among men etc. etc. And undoubtedly this allows more and more men to explore their softer sides without self judgment or too much fear. The way our culture is going is one where more and more men will live in a space that allows them to contemplate on even the wildest ideas that appear in our minds. And on top of it all, in this cultural evolution women will continue to be more accepting and be more drawn to bisexuality among men. And this is a major thing because men who have homosexual tendencies yet are attracted to women as well, are often afraid to drive females away by admitting their true sexuality.
I have no idea how large the percentage of bisexuality is amongst men but I’m pretty sure it’s close to being identical to the percentage of female bisexuality. It’s just that women have had the chance to experiment with their sexuality in an environment that not only doesn’t judge their homosexual behavior but encourages it.
Times are changing.
