How to explain the phenomenon of dick size importance? do you have any theory why that matters?
How to explain the phenomenon of dick size importance? do you have any theory why that matters?
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I hate saying this because I think this phrase gets thrown around way way too much, but toxic masculinity is the answer.
They look nice, but in real life it’s all about the personality, conversation skills, chemistry, and a pretty face never hurts.
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It probably started with porn, and all the oohing and ahhing the women would make when they encountered a large dick. Plus the fantasy of a bigger dick = better sex too. Once porn exploded in availability to the general public, first through home video rentals, then the internet, the myth of the importance of having a big dick spread even further into popular culture.
In the real world 98% of women don't care about your dick size as long as you are an attentive and giving lover, in and out of bed. I am above average in length and girth, both over the 90+ percentiles, but the thing every woman has mentioned to me about our sexual experiences together was about how I pleasured them. I paid attention to their body language and ensured that I was giving them the most pleasure I could, whether that was through the use of my tongue, dick, or fingers. Having a larger than normal dick was just a bonus as I knew how to use all of me to please all of them.
Gay man here. In my experience it's good insurance in case the other is inept at love-making, at least you have a nice large cock on which to practice and improve your cock sucking skills. The visuals are good, too!
I think we live in a society with well defined gender roles, and those roles define how men and woman should look or act. There is a set of expectations of how women should look and act, and the same is true for men as well. The more a man adheres to that list of expectations, the better fit he is to perform the ideal of masculinity our society has defined. The penis is one of the main symbols of masculinity (if not the most important one) as perceived by our society. A man's sexuality/virility is also seen as a desirable trait, and the dick symbolizes that as well. The more dick you have, the more sexual and virile you are, the more of a man you are perceived to be. Same is true for height, muscles, strength, body hair, "macho" attitude, and so on. Those standards are not set in stone and they change/evolve from time to time (Michelangelo's David sculpture is an example of an ideal of man from a time in which sexuality and dick size were perceived as not desirable).
This is my theory, or at least my view on the subject.
This is my theory, or at least my view on the subject.
We are always assessing each other. He's short or tall or fat, etc. A cock is a very special part of a man's anatomy. When we take our clothes off at the gym our eyes go right to the guys cock. Or at least mine does. I think the obsession with cock size goes back centuries. There's a line from Shakespeare and I paraphrase: when a women is asked where would you like an inch added to your husband she said, not to his nose. Someone here will find the actual quote I hope because it was clear she wanted it on the end of his cock.
Pretty much every woman has mentioned the same to me about just being generally attentive to their needs/desires and being a nice guy out of the bedroom - and rather dominant in the bedroom. Seems that is a recipe for success with most women.
But I do NOT agree that 98% of women don't care about the size. Almost the opposite! I find that the vast majority of them do appreciate when it's huge and pushing the limits of what they can take. Yeah, there are other things that matter more, but the excitement when they see/feel it is palpable, there's often a lot of "you're so big/so deep" type talk, and I've had several praise how much better a big dick is afterward. And come back specifically because it was hard for them to find a guy with a huge dick, especially one who was also all of those other things you mention (attentive, nice, etc.) The ones who truly didn't care about the size were rare exceptions.
It's 100% science
Quick anatomy examples-
Females: When fully aroused form a cup shaped pocked to hold sperm, and further and orgasm squeezes this pocket and cervix together to increase pregnancy chance.
Males: intact men do in fact have the largest penises and only ones with heads in primate world. Perfectly adapted to creating suction in about mentioned pocket, to remove any foreign fluid and deposits it's own. This additionally explains almost all men and most women's concern with- it's in the DNA
Quick anatomy examples-
Females: When fully aroused form a cup shaped pocked to hold sperm, and further and orgasm squeezes this pocket and cervix together to increase pregnancy chance.
Males: intact men do in fact have the largest penises and only ones with heads in primate world. Perfectly adapted to creating suction in about mentioned pocket, to remove any foreign fluid and deposits it's own. This additionally explains almost all men and most women's concern with- it's in the DNA
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I based my comments and percentage of women based on what women have said, in research, here on LPSG, news articles, etc. I too, have had women really enjoy my larger-than-average cock, but the reason I got to use my cock with them at all had nothing to do with its size, as absolutely none knew what I had until after they already decided that they were having sex with me.
Also, most of the women I've been with could not have orgasms from penis-in-vagina sex (never, with any man of any size) so my skills as a lover are what gave them orgasms they deserved by whatever means worked for them (oral, digital, vibe, etc.)
Bottom line, while the women in my life have enjoyed my large dick, they did so because it was attached to me.
Probably the Evolution matters.
Most cultures preferred larger penis, but Greek was different.
The evolutionary reasons for the increased thickness have not been established. One explanation is that thicker penises are an adaptation to a corresponding increase in vaginal size. The vaginal canal is believed to have expanded in humans to accommodate the larger size of a newborn's skull. Women may then have sexually selected men with penises large enough to fit their vagina, to provide sexual stimulation and ensure ejaculation. Other evolutionary hypotheses to explain humans' relatively large penis length and girth include a sperm competition hypothesis and a mate competition hypothesis. The sperm competition hypothesis does not have much support as in other mammals where sperm competition is present, larger testes evolve, not larger penises. The mate competition hypothesis involves the prediction that a human with a larger penis would be able to displace the sperm of another. Studies have found that larger penises do not displace other sperm more effectively than smaller penises, but rather longer penises may ejaculate sperm inside the vagina in places that would be harder for a following penis to displace. The depth of pelvic thrusting was correlated to the displacement of competing sperm. Most cultures preferred larger penis, but Greek was different.
The males of ancient Greece believed that small penises were ideal. Scholars believe that most ancient Greeks probably had roughly the same size penises as most other Europeans, but Greek artistic portrayals of handsome youths show them with inordinately small, uncircumcised penises with disproportionately large foreskins, indicating that these were seen as ideal. Large penises in Greek art are reserved exclusively for comically grotesque figures, such as satyrs, a class of hideous, horse-like woodland spirits, who are shown in Greek art with absurdly massive penises. 
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The first thing to say is that it doesn't matter biologically. Erection size equals vaginal size generally and most are average +/-. Ours isn't the only species where this holds.
IMO the phenomenon is simply size fascination because extra big anything is rare. While not truly a secondary sexual characteristic like large breasts/booties on women and large chests/arms with body hair on men, a large male member is still eye popping. Curiosity is aroused.
My mother even warned me that women would be interested in me because of it. It wasn't all women but it's a lot. She wasn't wrong. I was barely 18 when most of my older sister's friends (early-mid 20s) wanted a crack at it and got it. Some of them couldn't keep our trysts secret and word spread including word that I was willing.
Before I was even aware of size fascination I overheard my older sister and her friends and other girls talking about who had big cocks. To me it was no different than the boys talking about who had big tits.
The phenomenon is size fascination. The world's biggest frying pan or ball of twine on Route 66. Tallest building. Biggest ship or airplane. Longest bridge. Largest net worth. Most platinum albums. Most home runs, points per game or gold medals. You name it. Guinness Record Book.
Let's face it. Our lives are ordinary. The fascination with superlatives is our desire for the extra-ordinary.
Oh and then gay lads found out... but that's another story.
IMO the phenomenon is simply size fascination because extra big anything is rare. While not truly a secondary sexual characteristic like large breasts/booties on women and large chests/arms with body hair on men, a large male member is still eye popping. Curiosity is aroused.
My mother even warned me that women would be interested in me because of it. It wasn't all women but it's a lot. She wasn't wrong. I was barely 18 when most of my older sister's friends (early-mid 20s) wanted a crack at it and got it. Some of them couldn't keep our trysts secret and word spread including word that I was willing.
Before I was even aware of size fascination I overheard my older sister and her friends and other girls talking about who had big cocks. To me it was no different than the boys talking about who had big tits.
The phenomenon is size fascination. The world's biggest frying pan or ball of twine on Route 66. Tallest building. Biggest ship or airplane. Longest bridge. Largest net worth. Most platinum albums. Most home runs, points per game or gold medals. You name it. Guinness Record Book.
Let's face it. Our lives are ordinary. The fascination with superlatives is our desire for the extra-ordinary.
Oh and then gay lads found out... but that's another story.
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Same experience. The idea that women don't care about dick size is an overstatement. There are things they may care about more, but I have had far too many blunt conversations to the contrary.
I agree with this statement the most, it's normal to have a size fascination, it's all just personal preference.
I think the issue is the same as a person's height and figure.
Does it matter? Sure it matters but not that much.
I think men and women care and do need to care but just not too much.
pretty simple why, isn't it? a big dick is a symbol of manliness. humans will use anything to gain a sense of betterment over others.
I always hear on this site, from women, that size doesn’t matter. However, I have heard maybe 4 or 5 times in my middle aged life, when a friend or member of our social group is has been mentioned as hung, the women have suddenly sprung to attention. Not in an, oh she looks interested way, but they say ”oh now I’m interested” , sometimes in front of their partners and once an ex of mine. The subject was changed pretty quickly by the men so never went any further.
Another experience: A friend of mine, very hung but not great looking had slept with a very attractive girl at his work. She would always contact him when drunk. He confided in a female friend at work what was going on and she said that it’s probably because of your size (he had slept with a couple of girls at work and this was the first he had heard of his reputation). He was very shy and extremely embarrassed.
Now there aren’t some fantasy stories, but true life experiences. I find it hard to believe that size is not something that is a huge factor, albeit only one factor in sexual attraction.
Any why is it a factor, I imagine partly just from an aesthetic point of few and probably because a big fat cock used properly hits nerve endings that a normal one doesn’t.
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