I try not be judgmental of other people. But, I have a problem with cheating. If you’re looking for someone else to satisfy your urges with, maybe your partner has those same urges but doesn’t act on them because of the commitment, respect and love. I have had urges like anyone else but I never act on them. Talk to your partner and feel them out on the topic, maybe it’s mutual or maybe it’s not. But to be that selfish…
I have brought up a few times to my partner do you want an open relationship and the answer is always no. Not because I want one but because I wonder if he does, plus I’m insecure so I’m always asking questions after being in relationship for over 20 years. Very difficult topic and everyone sees it differently.
Do you want to cheat because you have urges like your partner does or do you feel it’s more of well he did why shouldn’t I get to have too?