Husbands coming out

[Blkgymrat]

has anyone here had their husbands come out as bisexual? How did that affect your marriage?

 

[LaFemme]

One boyfriend. It ended the relationship. He cheated. He wanted cock and I didn’t have one.

 

[Mule]

I am more attracted to tits and pussies more than a cock. Never I want to be gay or bi

The question was directed at women, referencing their experiences with bisexual partners. How on Earth can you rationally respond to that with an unwanted and unsolicited exposition of your own orientation?

I know I shouldn't be surprised, but sometimes I just give up.

 

[693987]

He didn't come out. I found out he was cheating on me with a man. It was just one of many reasons I left his ass.

 

[Oztrich]

My wife

Agreed which is why the question was
“Why is cheating any different if the two are the same gender? Isn’t cheating cheating, and an affair/relationship the same.”
I said nothing about promiscuity being singular to any gender or sexuality.

My comment was on an action, not a thought.

My wife answered this thread earlier. I have to say I was very nervous about her doing that but didn't need to be.
In my humble opinion, sneaking around with either gender for the purpose of having sex is cheating. We do not do that. When my wife and I met she was dating another guy and I had been seeing a guy on and off. She was puzzled when I did not object to her seeing her guy, even though I knew they were having sex and I told her I could understand why it was she was doing what she was doing. I told her I was bisexual and she laughed at me. She told me she already knew that I was.

Anyway, long story short, we both have sex drives that are out of what most people would see as normal. She is into other men for the sex and the variety. I am into men for the same reason. We are able to talk about our out-of-marriage encounters openly and find it even enhances our own sex life. Anything outside that would be cheating and dishonest. At least that's what both she and I believe.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I don't see anything wrong with this being explored as a women's issue. Unlike some other threads, at least this can be an issue with an impact on women.

I have an ex who I'm pretty sure is going to cheat on his wife with a man at some point. He's told me about his curiosity.

The man I married isn't ready to say so out loud, but he's not attracted to women at all. He's told me he's identifying now as pansexual. That conflicts with his behavior. He isn't attracted to women. When I realized this, I asked for a divorce. In the future, if a man tells me he is anything other than heterosexual, he's not for me.

 

[HorseHung40's]

I think the discovery of adultery of one spouse by the other spouse is traumatic, irrespective of gender, sexual identification or orientation.

 

[Oztrich]

Borrowing my husband's account here. My husband came out to me before we were married. I guess we are lucky because we are both very open sexually and are able to combine both of our personal sexual proclivities so that we have a balance. It's not for everyone, but it works for us.

 

[synaxis]

I'd be happy if my husband came out as any kind of sexual

 

[AlteredEgo]

You don't spring a new sexual orientation on someone AFTER you marry them. Bait and switch bullshit.

 

[indenver]

I've been bisexual all my life. After two marriages of staying hetero-true to my wife, I resolved to never marry again unless my female accepted my male/male side. It only took 4 years to find her and it's the most loving marriage I could imagine. When I let her know I was bi, she was fascinated and asked me all about it. "Did you suck his cock? Did he cu m in you mouth? Did you swallow his cum? Did he push you down on your knees?" I do have a submissive niche in my brain when it comes to m/ m sex but am forcefully competitive when comes to business.

Here is the real shocker. She wanted to see me suck cock So I found a very nice, good looking guy with a big beautiful cock and she held his cock while I sucked him off. Over the next 8 years we have done this many times with 4 other guys. She got to love pumping their cu m into my mouth. She has not had sex with any of the guys but let me know after he moved away that one of them would be ok if I was to lick her clit while he was in her.

Btw, she has beautiful feet and loves to have me caress them and kiss them for her.

 

[EllieP]

I would treat my husband coming out as a bisexual the same way I would if he said he had wanted to act on sexual desires for another woman.

I'd tell him go for it! And keep going.

I don't share well with others. I'm pretty selfish that way. It's one of the main things we promised each other.

I'm not stupid in thinking he's never had sexual thoughts about others. Hell, so have I, but I've never once been tempted to act on them.

 

[shard38]

Why is cheating any different if the two are the same gender? Isn’t cheating cheating, and an affair/ relationship the same?

Coming out as bisexual doesn’t equal cheating. It’s a nasty stigma that all bisexual people are promiscues.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

How is this a women’s issue? Two men can have a partner come out as bi and affect the relationship.

 

[LPSG Support]

I'd tell him go for it! And keep going.

Sounds very similar to what my Mrs would suggest i do.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Have you seen the many iterations of “married men using cocksuckers” that show how dehumanizing men can be with other humans?

 

[shard38]

It has a fuck ton of proof acknowledging it applies to an awful lot of people. You would have to be blind or intentionally ignoring the multitudes of threads full of men on the "down low" here who suck cock, get sucked, and otherwise fuck around on their significant other. That's just on this one site.

Stereotypes are shitty. Stereotypes don't apply to everyone in the demographic they're about. That doesn't mean that no one fits that shitty stereotype, though.

Promiscuity isn't the same thing as being a cheater, either. You can be completely honest and ethical while fucking lots of people.

Cheating applies to an awful lot of people. I don’t know if there are any figures publicly known, but I bet you will find as much people cheating amongst straight men. Yet no one says: “My boyfriend/husband just confessed he often thinks about sex with women. He’ll probably cheat on me!”

I sometimes get a little sad from the stereotype. It seems there’s no right way for a bisexual man. When I’m honest about it upfront it’s an immediate ground for suspicion. When I’m honest about it later on in a relationship, I must be hiding an affair, why else did I wait until know? If I don’t tell at all, it must definetely mean I’m cheating.

 

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[latinluva]

I came out my Wife as Bisexual ten years ago. We have a great marriage, I bring up the possibilities of bringing in another man. But so far she has no desire to do so. We have a great sex life and enjoy our sexuality. She has no issues with my bisexuality. Or at least she hasn't said anything for the last ten years lol

 

[185248]

I would treat my husband coming out as a bisexual the same way I would if he said he had wanted to act on sexual desires for another woman.

I'd tell him go for it! And keep going.

I don't share well with others. I'm pretty selfish that way. It's one of the main things we promised each other.

I'm not stupid in thinking he's never had sexual thoughts about others. Hell, so have I, but I've never once been tempted to act on them.

My love is afraid of losing me...it's very difficult to explain passion to lust to sex to love....For me you know your love is the one who can complete you as a whole.

Do not beat yourself up about it. Like my love, I will respect her wishes, I would never let my lust or sexual thoughts...whatever, break the lifelong bond I feel, I have with this woman. She is the depth I need, and I am the deeper for hers.......anyway.