Your country has virtually NO AsiansI feel weird answering this.
Generally I don't find, but there were moments where I found and didn't know why exactly.
There is a something that attracts me a lot very rarely but I don't know why.
Your country has virtually NO AsiansI feel weird answering this.
Generally I don't find, but there were moments where I found and didn't know why exactly.
There is a something that attracts me a lot very rarely but I don't know why.
He is from Brazil there are a bunch of Asians here, we have the biggest concentration of Japanese descendants outside of Japan. Although we hardly see any Asian representation.Your country has virtually NO Asians
But don't most (about 95%?) of the Japanese Brazilians live in Sao Paulo? A large city, but not very representative of Brazil. I know what you mean about no Asian representation- the same as the US which has a much higher percentage of Asian AmericansHe is from Brazil there are a bunch of Asians here, we have the biggest concentration of Japanese descendants outside of Japan. Although we hardly see any Asian representation.
But don't most (about 95%?) of the Japanese Brazilians live in Sao Paulo? A large city, but not very representative of Brazil.
Yeah, but it’s not correct to say that there is virtually no Asians. I believe that in the US Asians are more concentrated in large cities as well.But don't most (about 95%?) of the Japanese Brazilians live in Sao Paulo? A large city, but not very representative of Brazil. I know what you mean about no Asian representation- the same as the US which has a much higher percentage of Asian Americans
OK, true. The Asian American population in the US is around 6% but many live in big cities such as NY, LA, SF, etc. Anywhere that has less racism (basically excludes Midwest & South for the most part)...I believe that in the US Asians are more concentrated in large cities as well.
As a white/greek man/guy, I find some Asians attractive, female or male. I've had Asian guys talk to me on apps or irl and I don't mind the conversation. It never goes beyond that because I always think they'll think I'll be "using" them because they prefer white guys or they think I'm a rice queen, which is a term I learned a while back. Same with black guys. I've found ones I find hot but I always keep thinking they see me as a fetishizer or they're one themselves and find the whole dom raceplay thing hot. I haven't had many hookups in general tbh.
I'd like to be like some guys and not give a shit about stuff like this but it's always a nagging thought in the back of my head.
To clarify I like some white guys, too. I don't find a particular race or ethnicity superior over another.
I felt this deep down. I'm black and have felt like this. You either have to be really cut up and muscular, a particular shade, or check off other boxes otherwise you get conditioned to feel unattractive in the gay community. You really see it in black guys who have zero attraction to other black guys because of that ingrained self-hatred. It gets deep when you really start to talk to people about their own feelings about it. I'll never get how people don't appreciate asian men though. Whether south or east asian, just a wide array of physically beautiful menSadly, that's the Catch-22 for us Asian guys.
We've been so conditioned to think we're unattractive and "less than" that we are always skeptical of anyone interested in us.
If I guy tells me he's "into Asians" or has Asian exes (or is talking to other Asian guys at the club or bar) the "fetishist" flag subconsciously gets raised in my head.
For me, this has translated into:
1. Only responding to guys who show interest first (not that there's a lot who do)
2. If it's on Instagram, scanning to see if they don't follow a million Asian guys
3. If it's on Grindr or some dating app, checking to see if they are "into Asians" (if someone says "open to race" or "no hangups" I still don't reach out, because I've been so mentally conditioned that he'll move onto the next white/latin/black guy who messages him next). But he also can't be "only into Asians."
4. And then hedging it with some other self-sabotaging comment like, "thanks but you can probably do better than me"
It's really horrible to be trapped in this mindset.
Not always true. There's this twunk I'm talking to in Texas who's more of a runner's build with a bubbly firm ass who's not a particular shade you're referring to I find attractive. I'd bite his ass and tear it up like Diego's buddies in Ice Age looking for a hearty meal. I can't say I've had much luck in the last few years either way with that though. The last two I was talking to were weird; one was super into women's lingerie... and the other was heavy into the pup scene and pondering the furry stuff. No bueno mi muchacho.You either have to be really cut up and muscular, a particular shade, or check off other boxes otherwise you get conditioned to feel unattractive in the gay community.
Sadly, that's the Catch-22 for us Asian guys.
We've been so conditioned to think we're unattractive and "less than" that we are always skeptical of anyone interested in us.
If I guy tells me he's "into Asians" or has Asian exes (or is talking to other Asian guys at the club or bar) the "fetishist" flag subconsciously gets raised in my head.
For me, this has translated into:
1. Only responding to guys who show interest first (not that there's a lot who do)
2. If it's on Instagram, scanning to see if they don't follow a million Asian guys
3. If it's on Grindr or some dating app, checking to see if they are "into Asians" (if someone says "open to race" or "no hangups" I still don't reach out, because I've been so mentally conditioned that he'll move onto the next white/latin/black guy who messages him next). But he also can't be "only into Asians."
4. And then hedging it with some other self-sabotaging comment like, "thanks but you can probably do better than me"
It's really horrible to be trapped in this mindset.