I agree with you on this.
It’s actually a very strange phenomenon that I noticed and have observed over the years. When i’m out and about, whenever I see an interracial couple, white and Asian, 100% of the time that the white guy is much older than his Asian partner. And I would always cringe at the sight.
I try not to make any assumption or being judgemental about other people but generally, the Asian guy is settling for the older white guy is because he couldn’t get himself a younger white guy or a white guy around his age. So he would rather settle for an older white guy than date another Asian guy around his age. Some Asian guy may even find other Asian guys repulsive.
This goes back to what you’re saying about people tend to date within their own race due to similarity in appearance and culture.
Human likes belonging to a group. Being gay is already being a minority in a world of heterosexual. So being Asian/or non-white in the western world is like being a minority within a minority. Human are social creatures and like to belong to a group that they can relate to. So some Asian guy would go to an extreme length trying to fit into the western gay world by compromising themselves.
I have seen some Asian guys refusing to date other Asian men. They’d rather date an older white guy that may be less attractive than the Asian counterpart, so that they could feel like they’re ‘somewhat’ fitting in within the western gay world. You rarely see this strange
phenomenon in Asia, generally, the gays in Asia tend to date other Asians around their age. You rarely see a big age difference amongst gay Asian couples.
The older white guy is a fucking pig for preying on the young Asian guy’s insecurities. They could no longer get a date with young white guys. So they’ll switch gear and start dating young Asian guys instead. They refused to date other older white men around their age. Tragic really!
Also, like you have pointed out, the Asian men that are perceived as attractive by the western gays tend to look westernised (could almost pass for a white guy) than the average Asian guys. People tend to date and marry people that look like themselves. You always hear that married couple tend to morph into each other. No! They have always looked similar from the start and now it’s more noticeable because they’re dressing more closely/similar to each other, hence the stronger resemblance.
I think people should just be happy with themselves and don’t give a fuck whether people find them attractive or not. Just as long you take good care of yourself, stay clean, smell fresh, healthy and fit, enjoy your life and pursue your goals (one that doesn’t revolve around finding a white guy) and live your life to the fullest.
No matter how attractive you are or whatever your skin color may be. There’ll come a point where 99% of the population will find you unattractive when you hit the senior years.
As someone whose has been in this situation before, and from what I've notice- The older white men are genuinely attractive in their youth, and they would go after other young good looking white guys, but as they get older, there ability to attract young with guys decrease and there for the only young youth gay men they can get are Asians.
I can't speak for other Asian guys, but for me I'm not too bothered by age (as long as it's not retirement age), I can see that they used to be handsome and I truely don't mind.
One example- I was living in London, I met this guy whole is mid to late 50's and I was in my mid 20's (I'm 35 now). He has a great body and you can just tell from his facial structure that this man used to be super handsome jock back in his youth, and straight away why is he going after me, he can do so much better, then i realise most guys that were my age that are white would not go for him. His reason for hitting me up is because i was "different". Me being Asian Australian who grew up surfing in a predominately white neighbourhood!
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actually thanks for bringing this up because until the recent highlighting of attacks against Asian Americans, lots of people were openly ignorant in this regard. I really don’t care if you don’t like Asians, because I don’t like racists - nope not a sexy look. It’s nice that I can “surprise” people when I pull my dick out, but when people say I’m hung for an Asian it pisses me off - I’m hung for a human, and much bigger than your average white guy (or black guy for what it’s worth). View media item 6845231
It actually does, most people seem to prefer their own race, this is because evolution and social borders, usually individuals who prefer partners out of their own race it's because idealistic traits post colonization, people who get exposed to a more diverse groups can find more attractive people of different races, if you look at the type of asian men that are perceived attractive among white men you will notice that they tend to look similar to the typical hot white dude rather than the average Asian male, so most of the times they are just translating the preference in a minority instead of the whole group or the men that Asians will perceived as attractive by themselves.
Ever notice that all the places in the US that are overwhelmingly white also seem to produce the ugliest people? Inside and out, wonder if that’s a coincide, in-breeding, or it’s just the racism creeping to the surfaceI meant our preferences on smooth/hairy or muscle/no muscle is individual and not based on our races. At least that's what I've observed on this forum and in general.
I agree with you on people preferring to be with their own race. I also agree that individuals from other races who have more similar features to white people are considered attractive in this globalized and homogenized world. White people have dominated global culture and people want to be like those who are in power. It reminds me of the saying 'If Cleopatra's nose had been an inch longer or shorter, all history would have changed'. If either 'asians' or 'blacks' were the most prosperous group, maybe the most beautiful/handsome lists would have individuals with more narrower eyes or wider noses/lips.
On the other hand, do most Asians really find white men with 'soft' features attractive? Those who are considered attractive in the West seem to be considered attractive around the world too. Similarly, if you look at Kpop groups, the members who are thought to be the most attractive in Korea/Asia will usually be the same around the world. For example, Taehyung from BTS or Tzuyu from Twice. Do they have features most similar to white people? Have the other races been conditioned to like what white people like? Or are there universals?
That's why I'm still closeted and virginMust be difficult for you to get fucked living in an Asian country then! But hey, you like what you like.
It’s rare to find an Asian guy who likes mature men, I wonder if it’s because we westerners age badly?Do I find asians attractive and handsome? Absolutely.
Do I find them hot, sexually attractive, and masculine? Not really.
Part of it because most asians don't see muscular bodies as part of masculine lifestyle, and even if they do, they are asian descent born in non-asian country. Not to mention our genetic makes our face stays young easier than other race when we have tight face skin (maybe a bad generalization, but most people think so. I've seen so many 19-21yo white guys who are mocked as looking like in their 30-40s just because they have muscular body). And personally I'm attracted to muscular black daddies, silver foxes, bears, etc. I think I have daddy issues so there's that.
It's not that you guys age badly, it's about the nature and culture differences.It’s rare to find an Asian guy who likes mature men, I wonder if it’s because we westerners age badly?
Part of it because most asians don't see muscular bodies as part of masculine lifestyle, and even if they do, they are asian descent born in non-asian country.
Relax, even from the page 1 you can already see the generalization in this thread.What does that even mean? A lot of generalizations in this thread. You're from Singapore? Singaporean gays -
Relax, even from the page 1 you can already see the generalization in this thread.
You clearly read what I wrote above. Did I?And you decided to add to that?
You clearly read what I wrote above. Did I?
Part of it because most asians don't see muscular bodies as part of masculine lifestyle, and even if they do, they are asian descent born in non-asian country.