Can you see a therapist? Also just concentrate on self improvement, and getting a license, used car, etc. Focus on the positive.
I want true love. (Warning: Long post)
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You can speak for yourself on this matter, but should resist the temptation to include others. The pressure you perceive to be married may place unrealistic expectations on you and may be a turn-off to you, but not to others. Some people do, indeed, fall in love in an instant and enjoy long, fulfilling marriages even though you have not experienced it. Lastly, I know quite a number of couples who married quickly and have not experienced any more issues than other couples, living loving, secure, committed married lives. It is possible these people possess something you lack, so there is no reason to believe others will experience your problems with seeking commitment.
I choose not to drive.
But I did start a new job, so I've been focusing on that.
Idk tbh I kinda want to date outside my race . But in general I like slim to average body type guys who are masculine. I like funny guys with chill relaxed personalities, who are still intelligent and also a like spontaneous. I like guys who like to chill and cuddle . I like affection so that’s important, I like guys who are kinda clingy. I like guys who like to have fun and go out and do things like going to the arcade or the fair or whatever it might be . I like guy my same age or a year or two older. I like guys who have good communication skills and who are easy to talk to.
If a guy is intelligent, possesses good communication skills, masculine, and spontaneous, it is unlikely he is "chill." Normally, such men are driven and display a degree of intensity of interest and ambition that I presume you would not find "chill."
lol I don’t think that is true I’ve had a lot of friends who are spontaneous, intelligent, funny , and chill . People are unique no one is the same and there definitely people on the earth that fit those categories all at once . And I really meant a chill relaxed personality. There all kinds of people out there though
lol chill doesn’t have to be boring at all. Chill people can chill while at the bar but also I’m not always trying to party or even be social all the time . Sometimes it’s just fun to be able to watch movies and play games and sit on the couch and ask each other random questions and take a nap . I dont have to be out all the time to enjoy myself or others company.
We interpret the word differently, which is often the problem with colloquialisms, which are sloppy substitutions for a better vocabulary. The word, to me, has nothing to do with the amount of socializing in which one engages, but the degree of interest and intensity with which one engages others when socializing. "Chill" people have little interest in others and little to share about themselves, perhaps for lack of intelligence or perhaps for lack of confidence or social skills.
lol if I could eye roll on this platform I would . I feel like you’re a troll, just because someone is chill doesn’t mean they have a lack of interest in someone .
To me, they are exactly the characteristics of a "chill' person, and I stand by my post. You can eye-roll all you want like an adolescent mean girl, but it does not substitute for a well-considered opinion, which evidently you lack.
Key words being to you . And here you go with the shade, which is ironic considering that’s more like a teenage mean girl than what I said . You seem to have emotional trauma tbh . Whoever hurt you must have been chill with no interest in you but that’s not always how it works. A well considered opinion is also a matter of people who actually consider that a well considered opinion . You fail to realize not everyone is the same and that the majority of chill people most likely are like everyone else and want a partner and have interest in their partner. You talk like chill people are narcissistic.
Who said everyone was the same? It is a juvenile argument to fall back on the old, "well, you can't generalize." So, for the sake of your sensibilities, let us assert that everyone is an individual with individual opinions, including mine that "chill" people are boring and add little to an interaction because they display lazy personalities. For the record, no one "hurt" me. I live a happy, fulfilled, interesting, and successful life. Such a person can also have opinions -- even ones to which you object. Imagine that!
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