I'm confused. Is he cheating?

[deleted25326061]

Forgive me, I'm not a native English. I'm not good at English.

Just now, I opened my boyfriends iPad. Because I was trying to text documents there. I sometimes did like this.
And I opened his text to send documents. There is a chat with a guy who I hate. I opened it. But this is really my mistakes! I shouldn't did that. It is definitely my fault for seeing their chat.

Anyways, His friend is also gay. When we were driving together my bf got a call from him. And they enjoyed intimate conversations more than we did.
It's like, I miss you- I wanna go to you right now- you are so lovely (tbh I don't remember exactly. It was to much sweet.)
But I didn't ask their relationship and just thought most close friend.

I will explain the situation In the chat. His friend found pictures of them from old trip and send it to him. And his friend said " this one goes hard" with my bf's pic -
I dont know what this words exact mean. It means still makes him erect? Or Is this just an exaggerated compliment?
And he said "you are still one of perfect ppl I know"

Another chat starts with one link form his friend. It is porn. It was probably deleted. So my bf said "what is that?"
His friend said "it is twitter, it was literally just a dick going into a glory hole and someone put a lighter under his dick"
And my bf said, "not me missing unsolicited dick"

I don't know why they shared porn each other. Usually gay people do like this with other gay friend?...I don't know because I don't have any gay friend... and this is usually cheat in Korea. I'm so upset, but I don't understand perfectly. So I need yours help. Let me know what happened.

 

[dreamer20]

I opened my boyfriends iPad to see his chat with a guy I hate..But shouldn't have..my bf enjoyed intimate phone conversations with him - more than ours. I considered them close friends...His friend sent pictures of them from an old trip and said " this one goes hard" with one pic - I dont know what this means. Another chat from his friend had twitter porn...I don't know why they shared porn each other. Do gay people share porn with gay friends?...I don't know because I don't have any gay friend... and this is usually cheat in Korea. I'm so upset, but I don't understand perfectly. So I need yours help. Let me know what happened.

Yes, people who are close friends may reveal their secret porn to one another. wazowski, as a lpsg member I find it hard to believe you unaware this place serves as a platform in which many of our members happily share and discuss porn with one another - regardless of sexuality. Instead of making an issue out of this non issue - why don't you share your erotic interest with us and your boyfriend instead for fun.

 

[texis]

They sound like friends. I know the glory hole video and it is a troll video not actual porn

 

[donovanchris28]

You should talk to him about it. If there is nothing going on but just porn sharing, he should not become too defensive about it. Yes gay best friends, or friends, sometimes do share porn with each other, but it if it is getting to you, talk to him about it. It was an accident that you found out, dont become apologetic and submissive about it, explain yourself, and try to see if you feel after talking to him, if you are ok with it.

With experience, I can tell from my side, my best friend and I share porn between each other, and I do sometimes send him dick pics, bc yeah, he likes it. However, his boyfriend is aware of our dynamic and is cool with it, even when he knows Im not fond of him bc of past actions that made me not like him in a friend way. To explain, Im not very fond of people who are too lovely to the point of wanting to hug you, rub themselves on you, and pretty much go everywhere you go. They are in somewhat of an open relationship, and so, as soon as he met me in person, he began telling me how good I looked, how my hairy thick legs were hot, so and so, to the point of going to my friend and suggesting having a threesome with me. My friend took almost 6 months to come clean and tell me about it. I declined, but his boyfriend kept pressuring him to insist on me, until I talked to them both, and stated my intentions and why I wouldnt do it. My friend was fine with it and our friendship kept growing from there on, but, as you might have guessed, his boyfriend didnt like taking that no from me, and since he began acting sour around me, I told him a few choice of words of my own and why I really dont like him. However, he does not interfere in my friendship with my best friend anymore, and we kept on sending porn between each other knowing he was fine with that. If he wasnt fine about it, I myself would tell my friend to stop doing it bc I dont want to be the cause of their relationship ending (even if I dont like his man, I know how much they love each other), and if I ever get my own boyfriend, and I know he is not happy about it, I would also stop doing it, that should not sour my friendship at all if my best friend really was my best friend.

If you are not fine with it, tell your boyfriend, dont be a loser and also, dont take culture into it (since you mentioned sending pictures is cheating in Korea), dont go into the discussion angry, instead try to understand your partner, and if you dont like his answer, tell him, dont let yourself be walked all over if he gets upset about the topic.

 

[EdgeTyme747]

agreed! communication is (almost) always good.
talk about what's on your mind.
as long as you approach it correctly, you'll be prepared for
whatever is going on. and if he were cheating, probably better to
know and decide how you feel about it.

if he is cheating, how do you feel about open relationships?
if he's not, how would you feel about him snooping in your laptop?
just my 2 cents... hope it helps! --E

 

[iSanyu]

"This one goes hard" Is just a compliment. Maybe he's aroused too, but something "Going Hard" is usually in reference to something done really well/badass.

 

[hihi121212]

Probably